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6′ 4″ (1.93m)
Body type
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Working on masters program
Likes dogs and likes cats
My self-summary
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I love going to museums, going on hikes, going to concerts, trying new restaurants, cooking entirely new recipes, being a tea snob, watching roller derby, playing trivia, staying in and watching terrible movies, going out and watching terrible movies, trying new craft beers, people watching, making up stories, and, above all, excellent conversations. I'm genuinely interested in knowing more about the people that I interact with--I find the diversity of humanity to be endlessly fascinating. I'll almost certainly ask you a lot of questions the first time we meet up. Sometimes this causes people to say that I don't talk about myself enough. I'm an open book, however, and will blather on about my own life ad nauseam, if you can interrupt me long enough to ask me a few questions in return. I strive to live a life without secrets, because I find secrecy to be stressful and generally pointless, so I will typically answer any question that is put to me.

I think that the way you view the world and the way you conduct yourself has a lot to do with perspective. It's easy to be negative about the world, but I generally choose not to be in my day-to-day life. I never go through a day without moments of genuine laughter, even if it's at my own expense. I also do my best to make everyday moments feel special and fun. I throw myself into experiences, even if I'm fairly certain it's something I'm not going to like, because it's way more fun to learn about something new and engage with it than it is to sulk and close your mind. I'm not 100% happy with where my life is at, and I'm sure my dreams will always be bigger than my reality, but I will always take what I have available and make it as fun, exciting, and interesting as I can.

Myers-Briggs says I'm an INFP, and I agree that their description sounds like me in a lot of ways. According to their diagnostic, this makes me "The Idealist," and stipulates that I am "driven to help people and make the world a better place." I would interpret that as being empathetic and passionate about my beliefs. I try not to judge people for their lifestyles, and am completely fine with many alternative viewpoints, which I think makes people comfortable with talking to me--that would cover the empathetic part. Making the world a "better place" is obviously a hugely subjective statement, but I have strong beliefs regarding social and human rights, and will certainly stand up for those if need be. If that makes the world a better place, then there you go.

TL;DR: if you value intelligence, enjoy a snarky wit, feel connected to a social consciousness, and frequently embrace your dorky side, we'll probably get along.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm living day to day in an eternal quest for the 42-ness of everything. I'm trying to find new balance in my life after some setbacks in recent weeks.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm good at: being original, expressing myself, wearing khaki pants, leading a group, making everyone feel included, being oblivious, creative solutions, Satanic rituals, summoning Krampus, listening, wearing sunglasses, empathizing, growing patchy facial hair, adapting, maintaining the callipygian ideal, having fun with little money, making mundane activities into adventures, wildly gesticulating, daydreaming, writing, mastication, academia, inventing and promptly forgetting new languages, handling stress, keeping my cool, time-travel, getting things accomplished, defenestration, being in the right place at the right time, and making people laugh.

...Some of those might not be true, but you'd have to get to know me better to learn which ones.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Physically, probably my height. One friend told me that I "loom" over people, meaning that I "rise before ones' vision with an appearance of great or portentous size," which I think sounds pretty awe-inspiring. Imagine Cthulhu, but handsomer and with fewer tentacles.

In terms of personality, I've been described as witty. I have a vivid imagination and enjoy looking for ways that the world could be far less ordinary than it appears.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Books have been an important part of my life since early childhood. The first book I read was "Goodnight Moon," so it retains a special place in my heart. Current favorite authors include: John Irving, Brandon Sanderson, J.R.R. Tolkien, Kurt Vonnegut, Stephen King, Michael Crichton, Joe Hill, Gillian Flynn, Ken Follett, Neil Gaiman, Alexandre Dumas, George R. R. Martin and many, many others. I'm currently reading "Station Eleven" by Emily St. John Mandel. It's OK, but a little more lethargic than I was hoping for--on the other hand, it's a short book, so I'll move onto something else soon. I think my next book is going to be "All The Light We Cannot See."

I also read comic books occasionally. I recently bought a Humble Bundle with a bunch of Transformers comics, so that should be a nice little nostalgic burst of nonsense. Hate the Michael Bay movies all you want, but Optimus Prime is still the best.

Movies: I recently rewatched the original Star Wars trilogy, and was reminded how amazingly awesome it is. I laughed, I got choked up, I yelled at the screen as Luke passionately kissed his sister. Great stuff.

Off the top of my head, I also really like: Jurassic Park, Robocop, Wayne's World, Dumb and Dumber, most superhero movies (except the really awful ones (I'm looking at you Green Lantern and Superman Returns)), all the movies directed by Akira Kurosawa, most of the stuff directed by Darren Aronofsky, the recent films of Lars Von Trier, the Lord of the Rings trilogy (I'm pretty blase about The Hobbit films), and a bunch of classic films that would make me look pretentious to list.

Shows: I don't have cable, so Netflix is my TV. I've been getting pretty into the "Daredevil" show on there recently. It's surprisingly brutal for a comic book adaptation, and features a villain with a really interesting level of complexity. I'd love to talk to you about it, if you've also been watching!

Music: I've been on a weird music kick lately that has mostly consisted of Scottish pirate metal/Finnish folk metal mixed with the occasional American pop song. Mostly I want to hear lyrics about wenches and mead, but occasionally I just really need to know all about that bass.

Food: I love food. Eating is definitely a big hobby of mine, to the extent that I do it nearly every day. I tend to go to the restaurants nearest my apartment the most, which means Cajun, Thai, Indian, Moroccan, bars, microbrews, sushi, and fast food if I don't actually want to put on clothes. And I go to the Cuban place for coffee and pastelitos. If you've never had the Cafe con Leche from Taste of Havana in Broad Ripple, then you're living a sadder life than I am.

I also like craft beers, and will usually try something I've never had before, if it's an option. Except for IPAs. Those are bad, and also the worst, and if you like them, you should feel bad about yourself.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
In no particular order:

1) Community--In my mind, finding a harmonious relation between yourself, the people you encounter, and your environment is crucial for being at peace with your life.

2) Irreverence--I believe a certain amount of iconoclastic behavior is healthy and necessary to keep the world interesting and innovative. I have frequently been accused of being crass or offensive, but I believe strongly in keeping an open mind and an open dialogue. I dislike the idea that there are some topics that "just shouldn't be talked about;" I'm willing to have a conversation about anything. I do get passionate/heated about certain topics, though, particularly those involving social justice issues.

3) Art--This is a broad category, but generally speaking I think artistic endeavors have the ability to communicate in ways that aren't possible in day-to-day speech. I've found my own connection to this medium through music, but appreciate many kinds of art.

4) Imagination--When life is viewed in the most somber and serious of ways, it can often be boring and stale. I truly value the people who can turn mundane activities like "getting coffee" or "cooking dinner" or "going to work" into fun and uplifting experiences, and strive to do the same in my own life.

5) Curiosity--I'm always interested in exploring different facets of the world, and like to be around other like-minded people. I'm the type who can't go on a Wikipedia article without clicking all the extraneous links, and going on a learning adventure. I love being around people who can teach me something new!

6) Laughter--A day without laughter is a day wasted. I'm professional and mature when the situation calls for it, but at my core I'll always be goofy and socially awkward and quirky. Being around people who can find humor and joy in the world is important to me, even if they come off as cynical assholes as they're expressing it. Maybe especially if they come off as cynical assholes. Most of my friends are cynical assholes. In a good way!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My brain skips around a lot. Occasionally I can achieve moments of hyper-focus where I zero in on something as the hours melt away, but usually it's a slew of random thoughts. Sometimes it's serious things like the tragic state of modern politics, and our country's downfall from the peak of geopolitics. Frequently it's something more mundane, though, like what kind of latte I want or what I should eat for dinner. I also think about the history of small towns a fair amount of the time, because that's what people pay me to do.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Having adventures, whether home or abroad!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I sing in the shower. I have impromptu dance parties in my apartment. I make jokes at appropriate and inappropriate times. I dream up stories that I'll never finish. I make faces at myself in the mirror. I try new recipes and always eat the results. I like it when my socks have pictures on them and/or don't match. I know more about Batman than about some of my cousins. I like to find shapes in the clouds. Sometimes I still feel like a child who's just pretending to be an adult. I recognize my limitations, but don't let them stand in my way, and take pride in being the interesting person that I am.
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