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26 M Indianapolis, IN

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6′ 4″ (1.93m)
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Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Working on masters program
Less than $20,000
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Likes dogs and likes cats
English, Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
My life is a purposeful mixture of professionalism, impassioned curiosity, a sense of wonder, and lightheartedness. I spend a lot of time doing the necessary serious stuff, like doing research or being a good employee. When I have free time, though, I actively pursue my passions.

I love going to museums, going on hikes, going to concerts, trying new restaurants, cooking entirely new recipes, being a tea snob, watching roller derby, playing trivia, staying in and watching terrible movies, trying new craft beers, people watching, making up stories, and, above all, excellent conversations. I'm genuinely interested in knowing more about the people that I interact with--I find the diversity of humanity to be endlessly fascinating. I'll almost certainly ask you a lot of questions the first time we meet up. Sometimes this causes people to say that I don't talk about myself enough. I'm an open book, however, and will blather on about my own life ad nauseam, if you can interrupt me long enough to ask me a few questions in return.

I do my very best to find new and varied things to laugh about, be inspired by, and/or contemplate over each and every day. I like to be well-informed about the goings-on in the world and the interesting and bizarre things that happen all the time. I value the opportunities I have to talk to others who cherish the acquisition of knowledge and the bounty of the world around them, while laughing at it all.

Myers-Briggs says I'm an INFP, and I agree that their description sounds like me in a lot of ways. According to their diagnostic, this makes me "The Idealist," and stipulates that I am "driven to help people and make the world a better place."

TL;DR: if you value intelligence, enjoy a snarky wit, feel connected to a social consciousness, and frequently embrace your dorky side, we'll probably get along.
What I’m doing with my life
I work for a local archival repository. My job is awesome. I get handed boxes and boxes of interesting historical documents and pictures, and process them so that they're more accessible to the public. In the course of an ordinary day I'll find things like: personal letters from past Presidents of the United States, reports on notorious gangsters, proof of high-level political corruption, heart-breaking first-hand accounts of poverty and misfortune, Communist propaganda, advertisements for interesting products, patent applications, and so much more.

I'm also a full-time graduate student at IUPUI, finishing up my M.A. in Public History. Not many people know what that is. It's maybe best described as the attempt to put history to work in the world. It's my goal to connect audiences with their past by making use of the historical resources at our disposal for constructive, progressive purposes.

Lately I've also been cooking more and more, as part of a quest for a healthier lifestyle. I feel like I'm starting to get better at it, and include some more interesting ingredients. I've made dishes ranging from pumpkin gnocchi to dark chocolate mint truffles to a lentil and bulgur pilaf, as well as many other things. Being in the kitchen relaxes me, and I intend to keep at it.
I’m really good at
I'm good at: being original, expressing myself, wearing khaki pants, leading a group, making everyone feel included, being oblivious, creative solutions, Satanic rituals, listening, wearing sunglasses, empathizing, growing patchy facial hair, adapting, maintaining the callipygian ideal, having fun with little money, making mundane activities into adventures, wildly gesticulating, daydreaming, writing, mastication, academia, inventing and promptly forgetting new languages, handling stress, keeping my cool, time-travel, getting things accomplished, defenestration, being in the right place at the right time, and making people laugh.

...Some of those might not be true, but you'd have to get to know me better to learn which ones.
The first things people usually notice about me
Physically, probably my height. I tend to tower over a lot of people.

In terms of personality, I've been described as witty. I have a vivid imagination and enjoy looking for ways that the world could be far less ordinary than it appears.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Books have been an important part of my life since early childhood. The first book I read was "Goodnight Moon," so it retains a special place in my heart. Current favorite authors include: Arthur Clarke, Brandon Sanderson, J.R.R. Tolkien, Kurt Vonnegut, Stephen King, Michael Crichton, Joe Hill, Gillian Flynn, Ken Follett, Neil Gaiman, Alexandre Dumas, George R. R. Martin and many, many others. I'm currently rereading some of my H. P. Lovecraft favorites, because it's been too long since I last went through them.

I also read comic books occasionally. I grew up with DC, but I don't really have a strong preference for any particular universe, as long as the stories are engaging.

Movies: I'm a bit of a cinephile, and will watch most movies. Some of my all-time favorites include: Mr. Holland's Opus, Requiem for a Dream, A Clockwork Orange, Natural Born Killers, Yojimbo, 2001: A Space Odyssey, and the first 10 minutes of Up. I've recently set off on a quest to watch Roger Ebert's top 100 movies--so far, I've watched four of them, and they've all been awesome! Next on the list is "Ali: Fear Eats the Soul."

Shows: I don't really watch a lot of TV on a regular basis, as I don't have cable and don't especially miss it. Things I enjoy when I do watch TV: Jeopardy, The Daily Show, Futurama, Adventure Time (and Bravest Warriors), Attack on Titan, Game of Thrones, House of Cards, old episodes of The Simpsons, and Sherlock. I recently finished watching True Detective, and thought it was great, but now I'm adrift without a show to watch. If you have any suggestions, let me know!

Music: I honestly don't listen to much recorded music. If I'm concentrating on something, some classical music in the background is great, but otherwise I mostly listen to podcasts or audiobooks. When I do listen to music, I like to play it very loudly, and will frequently sing/tap a beat/dance along with it.

I also really enjoy live music of pretty much any kind. I love going to music festivals, concerts, or even just a local band at a coffee shop or bar.

Food: Growing up in a small town, I didn't try many different kinds of food growing up, so in the past few years I've been doing my best to broaden my palate. My current favorites are probably Indian, Chinese, Moroccan, Greek, Mexican, and any of the miscellaneous junk foods we classify as "American." I'm just as excited to make these dishes at home as I am to order them at a restaurant, and love to make food for people! My current mission is to make Indian food at home that tastes like what you'd order at a restaurant.
The six things I could never do without
In no particular order:

1) Community--As in the relation of human beings to each other and their environment in a harmonious way, not the show (although I do like the show).

2) Irreverence--I believe a certain amount of iconoclastic behavior is healthy and necessary to keep the world interesting and innovative.

3) Art--This is a broad category, but generally speaking I think artistic endeavors have the ability to communicate in ways that are impossible in day-to-day speech. Though I've never been very good at it myself, I'm appreciative of the genius of others.

4) Imagination--When life is viewed in the most somber and serious of ways, it can often be boring and stale. I truly value the people who can turn mundane activities like "getting coffee" or "cooking dinner" or "going to work" into fun and uplifting experiences, and strive to do the same in my own life.

5) Intellect--I'm a lifelong academic and want to surround myself with others who find value and purpose in the pursuit of knowledge. It doesn't matter to me what form this comes in--it could be knowledge of cars, quantum physics, welding, underwater basket-weaving, brain surgery, whatever--the important part is the interest in learning more about the world and whatever it is you're passionate about.

6) Laughter--A day without laughter is a day wasted. I can be mature and responsible and serious when need be, but at my core there's nothing I like more than to just be goofy and ridiculous with like-minded individuals.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
My thesis. It's a look into the policies of institutionalization and sterilization of paupers and other "social inferiors" in Indiana in the late 19th- and early 20th-centuries. Indiana has the rather negative legacy of passing the first eugenics legislation in the country in 1907. While it would be easy to simply condemn lawmakers for that, given modern knowledge of the subject, it's my job as an historian to plumb the contemporary primary sources from that era to see where the idea came from, why it was deemed necessary, what other ideas had been tried, who the prominent theorists were, and why it eventually failed. It's impossible to be wholly objective, but it does provide a different perspective on the issue.

If I'm not thinking about that, I tend to consider a range of things, like: the tragic effect of polarized partisanship on American politics, world news, the incredible range of talents and personalities available in the world, relativity, puns, why individual spirituality can be positive when organized religion is oftentimes so negative, what it means to live in a responsible community, the future, whether or not I'll be grumpy when I'm elderly, the existence of poverty, how the world could be improved, social ideology, what historical figures were like in person, thunderstorms, how awesome tea is, how America would look from the view of an outsider, etymology, hypothetical situations involving dubious science, the wild and exhilarating theories of quantum physics, fractals, synesthesia, which piece of the Triforce I want, superhero origin stories, how abysmal it is that the state I live in tried to ban LGBT marriage in its constitution, the subtle ways in which children continue to learn to enforce societal inequalities, Super PACs, geopolitics, the "Dead Hand," streams of consciousness.
On a typical Friday night I am
Usually I'm meeting up with friends for dinner, at a game night (Cards Against Humanity is a favorite), or going out to a bar. Other times I'm staying home to catch up on some cleaning, doing research, cooking, reading, watching a movie, whatever.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I sing in the shower. I dance badly in my apartment. I make jokes at appropriate and inappropriate times. I write stories that I'll never finish. I make faces at myself in the mirror nearly every morning. I try new recipes and eat the results, even when they're terrible. I like it when my socks have pictures on them and/or don't match. I know more about Batman than about some of my cousins. I recognize my limitations, but don't let them stand in my way, and take pride in being the quirky person that I am.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 18–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
First and foremost if you liked my profile, you should give it a shot.

If that's not enough to go on, I've found that I write more messages to people who ask me to answer specific questions in this section. Feel free to answer some or all of these as a ways to break the ice--I'd be genuinely curious to hear your answers.

If someone made you dinner, would you rather have something that you know you like, or try something entirely new?

If you had a hat that was the warmest, softest hat imaginable, but that also made you look completely crazy, would you wear it in public? Would you wear it on a date?

If aliens landed tomorrow, and you were chosen as Earth's ambassador, what would be the first thing you said to them?

If animals could speak, would it make you feel differently about eating them?

If you had the ability to time travel, but knew that any action you made could potentially create a Universe-destroying paradox, would you change anything about the past?

If you had the ability to prove that every religion is wrong, would you risk throwing the world into chaos to make sure that people knew the truth?

If someone took the time to make a list of bizarre hypothetical questions, would you think more or less of that person after reading it?