41 Portland, OR
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My self-summary
I exist within a loving, ethical non-monogamous relationship with my wife of 15 years. I am not "cheating" on my wife and I am not a "player". I seek a deeply-committed relationship outside of my marriage. I want friendship first and if there is insane hilarity, mutual respect, and an element of spiritual elevation, then hopefully a relationship with you would lead to something more. My wife and I have been at this for a long time and it has been successful beyond our wildest imagination (ok with some serious challenges but that has been enlightening as well).
What I’m doing with my life
seeking artistic expression in the void
I’m really good at
please inquire within
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Typically everything that emphasizes deep, often irremediable conflict and/or sadness (read Russian, Eastern European, other continental European writers, and what the hell, and American or two). Musical tastes include 80s new wave (OMD, Echo and the Bunnymen, etc), classic rock, hip/hop, rap
The six things I could never do without
everything within and without a Hallmark card
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to make 24 hours last longer, other dimensions, and how art constructs life
On a typical Friday night I am
On a date or hanging out with my wife and son
You should message me if
You are married and open or identify as ethically non-monogamous or perhaps are single and not looking for someone to marry you (all 0.001% of you)

I am both an intense romantic (and would like to consider myself generous) but also a feminist (grew up mostly with women and feel much more comfortable around women), so something on this spectrum I guess would have to be of interest to you

I am a fundamentally a good (whatever that means), honest, and kind person. If you want some ultra-aggressive, dominant, loud a-hole please do not waste your time or mine (I'm a doctor, not a Ted Cruz)

I have a lot of darkness but I will not pretend to be punk-rock, ultra-cool hipster, circus performer, or any other subculture member (though I have respect for those who are)