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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 25–60
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Online now!
Open relationship
Relationship Type
6' 0" (1.83m)
Body Type
Other and it’s important
Post grad
Has kids and wants more
English (Fluently), Russian (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Ok, it is not generally a good idea to begin with a disclaimer. But I should say that though I am looking for a smart, fun woman to date, I am also happily married.

My wife and I have an open relationship, which has traversed the extremes of very challenging to incredibly rewarding. However, if you and I are alike, you are hoping to connect with other open, non-monogamous (polyamorous) people for friendship and romance.

I am an intellectual professional who enjoys connecting with others who are curious about and enthralled by the mysteries of life. A good sense of humor is also critically important. If it sweetens the deal, my wife also has a profile on OKC (RevesRomantiques).
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Balancing the excitement of an ever-changing career with spending meaningful time with my wife and son...and with trying to reclaim a creative life simultaneously
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Making dinner while chasing our 18 month-old son around while trying to catch up on pleasure reading
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Typically everything I like does not have a happy ending, or it does the sacrifice to get there throw everything in doubt. Mixed together I like Dostoeyevsky and other 1800-1900s Russian writers, Rushdie, Morrison, Foucault, Twain, Twin Peaks, Star Wars (yes, for the deeper themes, not the monsters--hear me out on this), music including Rush, Led Zeppelin, the Beatles, 80s 2nd British Invasion bands, etc.

There are many lesser known but great writers and artists out there and put together make my list look very average and boring. But I'm just being honest...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
(knowledge + art + love) x 2
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to make 24 hours last longer
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
On a date or hanging out with my wife and son
You should message me if
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You are married and open or identify as polyamorous.