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34 M Rochester, NY

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Jul 24
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
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Working on Ph.D program
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My self-summary
I'm a graduate student getting my PhD in English lit., studying imperialism, cities, Hinduism, monsters, aliens...I'm trying to make a career talking and writing about all the stuff I love to talk and write about anyway.

Before coming to Rochester I lived in Istanbul for 2.5 years. I sang in a jazz band and traveled a lot (Africa, the Middle East, Eastern Europe, Asia).

On the side I also do some photography!
What I’m doing with my life
Writing two manuscripts: The Idol and the Machine, and Urban Monstrosities. Sexy titles, very slow progress.
I’m really good at
um, banter? playing with cats? Photography? Public speaking? Interrogatives?
The first things people usually notice about me
I've got a good vocab. See? I said vocab.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
authors: China Mieville, J.G. Ballard, Jorge Luis Borges, Angela Carter, Samuel R. Delany, Philip k. Dick.

At the University of Rochester I've taught classes entitled "The Urban Unreal," "The Allure of the Obscure," "Art Against Empire," and "Madness Unmediated." Together they give a very good indication of my literary tastes.

music: Sleigh Bells, Nick Cave, Tom Waits, Ratatat, St. Vincent, Bright Eyes, Bjork, Iron & Wine, Damon Albarn, 20's, 30's & 40's-era vocal jazz, Django Reinhardt.

Films: Rosemary's Baby, Paprika, Ninja Scroll & Vampire Hunter D, Tekkon Kinkreet, Mulholland Drive, Hausu, Thirst, The Five Obstructions, anything by Woody Allen.

television: Key & Peele, Mad Men, Game of Thrones, The Daily Show, Twin Peaks, Extras, Star Trek: TNG, Quantum Leap, Sherlock Homes w/ Jeremy Brett.

food: I love making and eating curry, whether Indian, Thai, Malaysian or etc.; there's nothing like it for sublime complexity of taste. I also love (but have never made) Ethiopian food; and nothing beats fresh home-made pesto over penne, walnuts & cherry tomatoes.
The six things I could never do without
Marshland, the Juggernaut, tightrope walkers, continental drift, Angkor Wat, foliage.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Bricks, floodlights, caravans, mosaics, the warp drive NASA is building, remote antiquity, the gods of ancient Babylon, quicksand, and The Dread Pirate Roberts.

Probably also my dissertation and my future.
On a typical Friday night I am
studying the complex social formations of pygmy marmosets in Sri Lanka (it's a side project)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I once admitted to something private on OkCupid
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 23–37
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
you're also facetious, or interesting, and enjoy bantering, and want a friend to get into some benign (but not too benign) trouble with