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My self-summary Propose an edit

When you first get to know me, you may find me rather quiet, and withdrawn into my shell. It may take a while to draw me out, but if you are patient enough, and if we make a real connection, you may find me to be quite devoted.

I am a thinking type, so in general, I am not fond of giving overly sentimental displays of affection. However, when I am in a relationship, I am constantly analyzing of the patterns that are forming within it, and trying to adjust them to make it run smoother. I am not content to simply follow traditional ideas about the way relationships are "supposed" to work. I would rather find some arrangement that works well for me and my significant other, instead of sticking to rules that aren't necessarily helping. In that sense, I tend to be unconventional.

I also tend to be direct, and I prefer lovers who are direct as well. I will not lie or be manipulative, because I'm not interested in creating drama. My relationships are important to me, so I want them to be based on truth, not shared illusion.

Here are some things you need to know about me if you're considering contacting me:
1) I'm asexual, but not celibate. That means that I don't experience sexual attraction (though I can still fall in love and experience other kinds of attraction to either men or women, which is why I am listed as bisexual even though I am really bi-romantic), but I might be willing to have sex anyway, under certain circumstances. But sex is just not something I'm particularly interested in, so don't bother trying to get involved with me if you're not willing to try to understand that and work out some compromise.
2) Related to 1, I am willing to try an open or polyamorous relationship as a possible compromise, to take the pressure off of me to fulfill all of my partner's sexual needs. I have no problem with my significant other dating and having sex with other peoople, and though I doubt I will find myself in that situation, I would prefer someone who wouldn't have a problem with me doing the same thing. I'm not naturally inclined to either monogamy or polyamory, but just enough in the middle that I could be comfortable with either relationship setup. However, lately I find my mindset has been more and more geared towards polyamory, so I'd very much prefer a partner who is at least open to the idea.
3) I tend to move slowly. I am not very comfortable with straight men, in general, because most of them seem to think my asexuality is negotiable. Your best bet is to approach me as a friend, and if I start to like you, I'll let you know. Also, keep in mind that I don't generally react to comments about my appearance, so it's better to try to start a conversation about some interest we have in common.

What I'm doing with my life Propose an edit

I'm going to college, double majoring in French and Linguistics with a minor in Creative Writing. I would also have a minor in Japanese, if my school offered it. I've been studying Japanese for 8 years more or less on my own, and spent last summer studying abroad in Tokyo. I'd like to go back and live there for a while after college. Eventually, I hope to have some writing published. Hopefully a poetry collection, and maybe also some non-fiction about asexuality.

I'm really good at Propose an edit

Writing, specifically poetry and personal essays, and foreign languages. I speak French, Japanese, and a bit of Spanish. I'm also pretty good at understanding the social sciences, and find them interesting. I tend to be somewhat analytical about things, and am good at and enjoy things that engage my mind, though due to my introversion, I'm much better at articulating myself in writing.

The first thing(s) people usually notice about me Propose an edit

My eyes, usually. Please don't wax poetic about them, I probably won't be impressed. :P

My favorite books, movies, music, and food Propose an edit

My favorite books are probably the Kushiel's Legacy trilogies by Jacqueline Carey.

I'm not much of a movie person, but some of my favorite TV shows are: House, Dexter, Penn & Teller: Bullshit!, The Riches, The L Word, Sugar Rush, The Daily Show, The Colbert Report, Countdown with Keith Olbermann, and Project Runway.

I listen to a lot of Japanese music that you've probably never heard of, and have a pretty wide range of stuff that I listen to. Favorite bands/artists include Radiohead, Shiina Ringo & Tokyo Jihen, and Infected Mushroom, among others.

As for food... well, I'm very picky. Most American food is way too oily and heavy for me, and the sweets are way too sweet. I hate Krispy Kreme. When I'm in America I hardly eat, because I really hate the food that's available to me. Living in a college dorm without a kitchen has taken a toll on my health. When I was in Japan, I ate a lot more, but ironically I weighed less.

I spend a lot of time thinking about Propose an edit

Sexuality and asexuality, gender studies, queer theory, and other sociological topics which fascinate me from an intellectual standpoint. Sexuality in particular fascinates me, because it is so alien to me. I spend a lot of time thinking about how it works.

You should message me if Propose an edit

DO message me if:
-You are open-minded, not an idiot, and want to carry on a conversation about something interesting.

DO NOT message me if:
-You are hoping for sex of any kind. That's not going to happen. Or at least not for a long time.
-You are a straight guy who finds me sexually attractive, and are hoping the attraction will be mutual. It won't. You won't "convert" me. Ever. I'm not "pre-sexual" and even if I were, most guys turn me off. Trust me on this one. Don't waste your time.

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