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Last online
Nov 22
5' 11" (1.80m)
Body Type
Judaism but it’s not important
Post grad
English, Spanish (Fluently), Thai (Somewhat), Chinese (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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Happiest when sailing a swift and beautiful wooden boat, treading quietly through the woods, or enjoying good food with friends and family. Former resident of Thailand, China, and Burma.
What I’m doing with my life
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Reading things, researching things, writing things, building things, fixing things, growing things, catching things, hunting things, and cooking things. Making up for my inside-the-Beltway weekdays by living close to the earth where I can.

Studying just one thing always seemed dreadfully limiting, so I've ended up with a healthy mix of international relations, biology, and astronomy. In guess I wanted to be able to grapple with life's most fundamental question (namely, "what the hell is going on?") at multiple levels of analysis.

Oh, you mean professionally? Yeah, I have a pretty awesome job at the "international" level of analysis and generally involving plotting against evildoers; it's actually worked out far better than I ever dared hope back when I was 23 and wondering darkly to myself if I was ever going to actually amount to anything.

I also spend a lot of time hanging out on the Northern Neck (Virginia's Chesapeake riviera), where I check up on the various life forms inhabiting my own personal floating oyster reef (yeah, I farm oysters, NBD), check up on what other fascinating and less sessile wild creatures happen to be migrating through the cove, build/rebuild things, and mess about in boats Kenneth Grahame-style.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Sailing. Swimming. Tying knots. Making words do what I want them to do (unless talking about myself). Following through on plans once they are made. Being really patient about some things (but not others). Knowing when to shut the f@ck up. Seeing the hidden promise in something neglected and forgotten and pouring an irrational amount of time and sweat and blood into making it beautiful and powerful again.

Flailing around in the kitchen. It's my favorite year-round inside-the-beltway activity. I make pie/tart crust from scratch, bake bread, make fresh pasta, roll sushi, whatever. Or make venison into something so sublime it will induce you to push back your chair and charge off into the woods with a spear. Plus, you know, the more normal stuff. I like that cooking is a happy marriage of science, art, and skill, all wrapped up together in a delicious do-it-yourself ethos. It's what my family does when we get together (constantly too many cooks in the kitchen, none of them shy with their opinions or criticism). If you write me a message asking me "so what do you know how to cook?" then you probably don't quite understand what I'm saying here.

Being the world's only Jewish redneck. Bowhunting Inigo Montoya style (left-handed bow even though I am not left-handed).

Really bad at: golf (kinda proud of that one actually); fly-fishing (just proved that to myself in Utah a couple months ago); making small talk.
The first things people usually notice about me
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This question is clearly trying to divine my level of narcissism, and I'm totally not biting.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Literary luminaries, especially poets, whose words transmit such beauty, warmth or wit that I keep coming back to them. Like:

T.S. Eliot.
John Keats.
William Cullen Bryant.
Gerald Durrell.
Pat Conroy.
The Wind in the Willows.
The Trumpet of the Swan.

I also read news constantly so I know what the hell is going on (see above)....and the Economist to help me figure out what I really think about what the hell is going on.

Food: Anything done right, however simple or elaborate. A perfectly prepared bowl of pho. Tidewater Surf and Turf, which of course is oysters and venison. The right wine. Pale ale. Good bourbon. Vegetables are great -- they go right next to the meat.

And right now, this:
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Having survived a year in a verminous phone-booth-sized room in one of the more un-cosmopolitan parts of China (while teaching English), I can do without pretty much anything. But here are some of the things I missed the most:

A well-stocked grocery store.
A well-equipped kitchen with an herb garden outside.
A workshop with lots of lumber and hardware and power tools. (It's like a man-cave for dudes who don't give a shit about TV and pro sports.)
Woods and waters wild.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
how anything worth doing is worth overdoing.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Sounding my barbaric yawp over the roofs of the world, while also singing the body electric; tripping the light fantastic if I've had several draughts of vintage (preferably cool'd a long age in the deep-delvèd earth). Grilling dinner on my roof deck. Reflecting on the triumphs and tribulations of the week. Watching a blazing incandescent sunset smolder down into smoky grey wisps.