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What men need to know about rape

(borrowed from Anathema_dVice)

Amen.

As seen on the journal of a woman whom I deeply respect.
a lot has been said about how to prevent rape.
women should learn self-defense. women should lock themselves in their houses after dark. women shouldn't have long hair and women shouldn't wear short skirts. women shouldn't leave drinks unattended. fuck, they shouldn't dare to get drunk at all.

instead of that bullshit, how about:

if a woman is drunk, don't rape her.
if a woman is walking alone at night, don't rape her.
if a women is drugged and unconscious, don't rape her.
if a woman is wearing a short skirt, don't rape her.
if a woman is jogging in a park at 5 am, don't rape her.
if a woman looks like your ex-girlfriend you're still hung up on, don't rape her.
if a woman is asleep in her bed, don't rape her.
if a woman is asleep in your bed, don't rape her.
if a woman is doing her laundry, don't rape her.
if a woman is in a coma, don't rape her.
if a woman changes her mind in the middle of or about a particular activity, don't rape her.
if a woman has repeatedly refused a certain activity, don't rape her.

if a woman is not yet a woman, but a child, don't rape her.
if your girlfriend or wife is not in the mood, don't rape her.
if your step-daughter is watching tv, don't rape her.
if you break into a house and find a woman there, don't rape her.
if your friend thinks it's okay to rape someone, tell him it's not, and that he's not your friend.

if your "friend" tells you he raped someone, report him to the police.
if your frat-brother or another guy at the party tells you there's an unconscious woman upstairs and it's your turn, don't rape her, call the police and tell the guy he's a rapist.

tell your sons, god-sons, nephews, grandsons, sons of friends it's not okay to rape someone.

don't tell your women friends how to be safe and avoid rape.
don't imply that she could have avoided it if she'd only done/not done x.
don't imply that it's in any way her fault.
don't let silence imply agreement when someone tells you he "got some" with the drunk girl.
don't perpetuate a culture that tells you that you have no control over or responsibility for your actions. You can, too, help yourself.


If you agree, please forward this information in any way you deem fit.

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(borrowed from Anathema_dVice)

Amen.

As seen on the journal of a woman whom I deeply respect.
a lot has been said about how to prevent rape.
women should learn self-defense. women should lock themselves intheir houses after dark. women shouldn't have long hair and womenshouldn't wear short skirts. women shouldn't leave drinksunattended. fuck, they shouldn't dare to get drunk at all.

instead of that bullshit, how about:

if a woman is drunk, don't rape her.
if a woman is walking alone at night, don't rape her.
if a women is drugged and unconscious, don't rape her.
if a woman is wearing a short skirt, don't rape her.
if a woman is jogging in a park at 5 am, don't rape her.
if a woman looks like your ex-girlfriend you're still hung up on,don't rape her.
if a woman is asleep in her bed, don't rape her.
if a woman is asleep in your bed, don't rape her.
if a woman is doing her laundry, don't rape her.
if a woman is in a coma, don't rape her.
if a woman changes her mind in the middle of or about a particularactivity, don't rape her.
if a woman has repeatedly refused a certain activity, don't rapeher.

if a woman is not yet a woman, but a child, don't rape her.
if your girlfriend or wife is not in the mood, don't rapeher.
if your step-daughter is watching tv, don't rape her.
if you break into a house and find a woman there, don't rapeher.
if your friend thinks it's okay to rape someone, tell him it's not,and that he's not your friend.

if your "friend" tells you he raped someone, report him to thepolice.
if your frat-brother or another guy at the party tells you there'san unconscious woman upstairs and it's your turn, don't rape her,call the police and tell the guy he's a rapist.

tell your sons, god-sons, nephews, grandsons, sons of friends it'snot okay to rape someone.

don't tell your women friends how to be safe and avoid rape.
don't imply that she could have avoided it if she'd only done/notdone x.
don't imply that it's in any way her fault.
don't let silence imply agreement when someone tells you he "gotsome" with the drunk girl.
don't perpetuate a culture that tells you that you have no controlover or responsibility for your actions. You can, too, helpyourself.


If you agree, please forward this information in any way you deemfit.
What men need to know about rape

WTF report link - borrowed from DESERTKAT42

Thanks to <<DESERTKAT42>> for what's below and thanks to <<MAAJAKE>> for coming up with this little tool!


So what's up with the WTF reports that can't be used. I received one and then, poof! the link is gone and I can't get to them any more.

But after researching the site I found one genius of a young man that managed to crack the code to request one. MAAJAKE you are undoubtedly a dangerous man. anyway thanks for posting the bookmarklet and I'm going to post it here as well. for two reasons, I can't remember it to use it again and don't want to have to look you up again and it will allow others to find it as well. I do hope they get their act together and re-install the link for the WTF reports. I enjoyed the one I managed to get.

To use the bookmarklet you visit the profile of your match, and then copy and paste the following into your address bar, and then press enter. A wtf report will then be sent.

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javascript:var link=document.getElementsByClassName('grid_13 navigation')[0].getElementsByClassName('grid_2 widen')[0].getElementsByTagName('a')[0].href;var id=link.substr(link.indexOf('=')+1, link.length);document.location="http://www.okcupid.com/wtfhome?a=request&u="+id;void 0;

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If you find this usefull and informative please drop MAAJAKE a thank you.
Thanks to <<DESERTKAT42>> for what's below and thanksto <<MAAJAKE>> for coming up with this littletool!


So what's up with the WTF reports that can't be used. I receivedone and then, poof! the link is gone and I can't get to them anymore.

But after researching the site I found one genius of a young manthat managed to crack the code to request one. MAAJAKE you areundoubtedly a dangerous man. anyway thanks for posting thebookmarklet and I'm going to post it here as well. for two reasons,I can't remember it to use it again and don't want to have to lookyou up again and it will allow others to find it as well. I do hopethey get their act together and re-install the link for the WTFreports. I enjoyed the one I managed to get.

To use the bookmarklet you visit the profile of your match, andthen copy and paste the following into your address bar, and thenpress enter. A wtf report will then be sent.

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javascript:var link=document.getElementsByClassName('grid_13navigation')[0].getElementsByClassName('grid_2widen')[0].getElementsByTagName('a')[0].href;varid=link.substr(link.indexOf('=')+1,link.length);document.location="http://www.okcupid.com/wtfhome?a=request&u="+id;void0;

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If you find this usefull and informative please drop MAAJAKE athank you.
WTF report link - borrowed from DESERTKAT42
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