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ergane

38 M Seattle, WA

My Details

Last Online
Jul 20
Orientation
Gay
Ethnicity
Black
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Curvy
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Scorpio, and it matters a lot
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Other
Income
$20,000–$30,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
A creative type, logical people have distinct reactions to me. I should not be confused with the "needs attention from the public" type, either. However, I do sing with the Seattle Men's Chorus and appeared on America's Got Talent with Illumni Men's Chorale and did the odd bit of queerlesque here and there, but I am really not a diva.

I am imaginative, playful and thoughtful in a place where people want to maintain fictions of separateness. I believe difference is a good thing -- helps us struggle to realize the whole/holy. That said, I admit that my friends share a lot of my views on life and the world and what not. However, I am looking for someone who is "hip", flexible, broad-minded, fun and funny, engaged (not passive) and savvy.

I have friends -- great friends even. Friends in places high and low, but that is not the same as having someone to spend time with and do things with. After tomcat-ing and creating some pretty ridiculous relationship memes that were really tilting windmills, I think I am ready to forge something with someone. Dating, sure. Sexy times, why not. But I am looking for someone that makes my day just that much better. Like, my days are gonna be as good as I can make them, but then that someone turns the volume up... and I would like to be that for that person, too.

I feel new to all this. I never really dated and let things go slow. But I am finding that I like it when my heart warms up to someone. I like it when I feel like... totally enchanted (knowing it's me and not outside... boundaries and alladat). I am relearning my emotional landscape because I never had a chance to when I was younger. So, if you need someone to be emotionless, non-committal, breezy, light and brief -- I am not your person. Also, I am not for cloying, over-bearing, clingy... I want the nice balance, but for myself -- right?

I am gay. I have a penis. And we have feelings and we like them. Makes us feel human and feeling human is good. :)

I am a mass of selected influences and bad choices.

But that's everyone.

INFj, Libra/Scorpio cusp Sun, Gemini/Taurus cusp Moon and Gemini Ascendant. Wood Rabbit generation Metal Ox personality. Radical Faerie -- Songbird, Studied voice, literature (realism/postmod), writing poetry, nonfiction, fiction. Read copious amounts of graphic novels/comics. Politically, my concerns are small and personal.

Like thrift shops, fashion, picture-taking (as opposed to photography), enjoying the natural world.

Watch Project Runway, Misfits, True Blood, Torchwood, Dr. Who, Game of Thrones. Naruto Shippuden, queer movies (Deleted Scenes, Female Trouble), documentaries , sitcoms and porn.

Desires:Exploring the now with someone awesome.

Tend towards being perceptive rather than judgmental.
What I’m doing with my life
I am working on my self-mastery. Growing into my North Node -- you know, all that hippy-dippy spiritual ish. (For money, I work in a group home for adults with mental illnesses. For hustle, I crochet winter accessories, wash and twist locs, connect people.)
I’m really good at
Synthesizing information
Knowing how to ask/connect
Massage
Being present in a non-smarmy way
Being me
Loving, passionately and with grace and laughter
Contradictions and mass silliness
The first things people usually notice about me
My presence, my hair, my septum, my ass? My clothes? My smile, eyes, laugh? I am at a loss here. Can you ask this question of people?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
An avid, voracious reader, I I love contemporary fiction, philosophy, poetry, plays/scripts, graphic novels and comic books, serial fiction, fantasy, non-fiction (usually creative non-fiction)... English major here... although with a concentration in writing, I cannot think of favorite books as much as genres.

I watch a lot of TV -- Hulu -- and I listen to a lot of music. Currently, I am really into afrobeat, early 90's pop, punk and goth, electronica, musicals and classical with a bent towards cello concertos and bass and alto vocalists.

Watching TV, I have discovered an almost indecent love for Kenny on 30 Rock. You'd have to look at my Hulu to discern anything pertinent.
The six things I could never do without
Media (books, movies, tv, music, comics -- media.
Water
Sex
something sweet
luck
love
I spend a lot of time thinking about
When I have time to do things, what things need to be done, planning out the things that need to be done, wondering why I am sitting down and/or tired, my friends and their lives, how to make myself do anything I don't want to do (I can be awfully stubborn) and whether it is possible to breed that vein beneath our eyes out of the population.
On a typical Friday night I am
Discovering anew what that looks like for me since I am no longer working grave. These days, a typical Friday night looks like me at home puttering around with my cat thinking I should go out, but not enough motivation to do so. This needs to change. Maybe I do need new friends, too.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I really like the color pink.
I really like rabbits.
Only sometimes together.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like guys
  • Ages 24–55
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
Sundance Seduction Style:

The Escape Artist

We don't know how you figured it out, but you've managed to keep your lovers close despite your critical view of the world. Maybe you aren't cynical, just a little cautious. EIther way, you've managed to keep your head on your shoulders.

You do have a little bit of misanthropy going on up in there, but hey, when you build your solar powered cabin in the woods, everything will be fine.

It's very rare to meet someone so clever that isn't into taking advantage of romantic or sensitive people. Your best seduction move: Be your honest and insightful self. A straight shooter, even a slightly damaged shooter, is a fine catch for anyone.

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If this appeals... friend or more, get at me.