First off... I am a magical creature. I've spent a large part of my life trying to understand the mechanics of the universe, how our reality shows up for us, and how we collectively create the world. It's important to find a partner that can have conversation with me around this at a level that brings me insight and growth. Some subjects that I long to have conversations around: philosophy, art, mystical traditions, sex, politics (beyond just they're wrong and I'm right), trajectory of the planet, the nature of magic, science (especially quantum mechanics), botany, HISTORY. I love a good storyteller.
I have been experiencing the complete feeling of love with several men that I've dated in the past year very early on. I'm very clear of that feeling sometimes within minutes of meeting them, and I'm confident that it is not a fleeting. I am actually able to sustain that energy with a person over a long period of time. Where I am growing is my ability to talk about the experience in a true way early on, and dance in a way that allows both people to enjoy complete freedom and expansiveness. As a dear friend used to say, "Rising in love, not falling in love". This is not a salvo for polyamory, though I've played that game before. This is where I witness a person's cosmic nature on that first date, have a complete love experience instantly, and then release them to their path, whether that's adjacent to mine or not. I'm working on it.
I'm a earthy, sensual being. Physical intimacy is very important to me and I want this in my relationships or I will not feel fulfilled over a long term. Sex for me is a beautiful way to establish a communication link that sometimes can't be contained by words. I am also HIV positive, and I prefer that Hiv-negative men do some self-refection around this before they initiate anything with me. I have a preference to date other HIV-positive men or negative men on PREP; however, my last two most intense relationships were with HIV negative men before prep was avail.(one of which was for 7 years).
Deep honesty and communication are essential. My ideal is that someone is psychically open and willing to play in that realm. You could call it energy play or energetically sensitivity. I've experienced this before and it was amazing. I have learned in the past two years that I can be pretty bright/ intense in this way, which can feel ecstatic but proper grounding is highly encouraged.
I get into relationship to express the loving side of myself and also to see myself. As Rumi would call it, seeing your reflection in a polished mirror. This happens best when people can transmit the full truth.
I love to travel and I work to make it happen more often in my life. I'm looking for an adventure mate. I want to see all the backroads and the bell towers. I'd love it if I knew where every item in your backpack is, and you in mine. I also really enjoy bike touring and trail running - two of my favorite ways to see the countryside (I know lots of the faerie pathways through cities). I'm looking for someone who has enough physical strength and stamina to really find some adventure alongside me. And if you can teach me new ways to adventure, I'm really open to it. Some things I'd love to explore with someone: surfing, rock-climbing, sailing, rafting. I also did the Aids Lifecycle 10, 12 and 13. (From SF to La. I've been to Burning Man 9 years, and will likely go again maybe in 2015 if the Oregon festivals don't steal me away. I'm looking forward to Beloved.
My main focus for now is on my healing practice. I work with healing the subconscious mind using a number of tools, therapies and techniques. My goal is to create space and grace in a person's consciousness to allow the new version of themselves to show up.
People who are doing work that is somehow creating the world in a beautiful way get high marks in my book. People who can do this and also have prosperity get even higher marks. Contribution + prosperity + free time + JOY = the best!
I'm moving what has been a successful practice in SF up to Portland and maybe bi-locating for a while. Something else is also brewing inside me. I've been getting very excited about performance art, and installation art as an avenue for mass healing and enlivenment while being blissfully fun. I don't know what this part of me will look like yet but I've been given tantalizing experiences that let me know this aspect will grow in me.
In SF, I have lived in a 24-person intentional community full of healers, artists, and people committed to societal transformation. Now I'm looking for a quiter existence in Portland.
I'm not a big drinker or drug user. I do however feel that I have a fairly well balanced relationship with some teacher plants and will sometimes use them to explore my thinking. I rarely drink alcohol, but I still can have fun at a bar. I can have even more fun walking through the city or nature, however.