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43 Portland, OR Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 25–60
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Mar 26
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body type
A little extra
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from two-year college
Open relationship
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
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Eros Wind, the wind of passion that caresses your skin and brings out those desires deep within you to reach out. To seek and find and caress. Inflaming desires and helping fulfill them.

I suppose the best way to sum me up is, Connection.

Connection of the heart, touching others lives with empathy and understanding. Being able to connect on a deep spiritual level, a level of laughter and joy. Honoring each others separate and uniqueness while at the same time enjoying our connections and shared ways.

Connection of the mind, sharing our similar interests and fun. As well as going over and debating our differences, finding out how each other thinks and feels and experiences this thing called life. And all the while learning both more about ourselves and our world around us.

Connection of the body. Touch is so important to me, touch of a hand caressing the bark of a tree, touch of a good true deep hug from a caring friend, touch of warm lips across sensitive flesh yearning to burn in passion. Touch of all kinds is needed in me, touch that holds honor and connection in body, mind and spirit. For without the other two, the body is just sensation without true wonder.

When it comes to BDSM style play and what kind of person I am, as well as sexual orientation, well I had to come up with my own terms.

First I'm a sensualist, I enjoy sensations and fully getting into an experience. To feel all the joy and passion from a single touch.

For orientation I'm bi-sensual. By that meaning that although I can enjoy pretty people (male or female) and can enjoy rubbing my hands over them. I've never felt that gut sexual desire towards another man.

And for the kink side, I'm a service top. So I usually like to be in a dominant role. But where my pleasure comes in is the energy play between us as you go into a mind-blowing experience of extacy. I love riding another joy and passion and that is where I get my payoff for the experience.

And the last few things that are key to me:
Honesty both to each other and more importantly to ourselves.
Communication is critical in my life, I wish to be clear with my desires and needs and help those around me to be clear with theirs. For by knowing and understanding eachother we can more easily help one another accomplish them.
Polyamory, which means that I can be romantically fully in love with more than one person at a time. And I feel my partners can too. I don't really feel jealous of others spending time with, flirting, or playing with my partners. As long as there is clear communication, respect and's all good. So if your interested in me romantically/sexually, please be aware that this is the way I am.
Kinky, yes I'm kinky and to me that means that sensually and sexually I'm not limited to mainstream viewpoints in what I enjoy.

I am sensual, insightful, and grounded
What I’m doing with my life
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Currently living in a shared home with a housemate in Portland. Working as a massage therapist. Seeking interesting experiences and thoughtful people to share them with. Running and playing in interactive improv live action theater style interactions for fun (LARP). And enjoying the deep connection I have with my partner of many years (see Polyamory above).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Connection, communication, honest touch, cuddling, listening, juggling, fire-spinning, roleplay (roleplay as in role playing games, but also as in roleplay for sexual play too), fun card games and board games. Long discussion into the night snuggled up with one another. Discussing philosophy, sociology, theater/film, nature, religion and science.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My joyful energy...oh and my beard braided down to my navel.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Shel Silverstein, Rumi, Robert Heinlein, parabola (magazine), various sci-fi and fantasy books.

Movies: 12 angry men, The Abyss, The Aventures of Baron Muchausen, Bucaroo Bonzai, Always, American Beauty, Better off Dead, The big Chill, Big Fish, Big Trouble in Little China, Blade Runner, Blues Brothers, Brazil, Children of Men, Chorus Line, The Company of Wolves, Dark City, Dark Star, Dogville, Donnie Darko, Edward Scissorhands, 5th element, Fight CLub, The Fisher King, The Fountain, Gladiator, Hedwig and the angry inch, the Hogfather, the hudsucker proxy, jacob the liar, jacobs ladder, labyrnth, lady in the water, life as a house, lord of the rings (all of them), meet joe black, mirrormask, nightmare before christmas, Pans Labyrnth, the prestige, the razors edge, seven, shaun of the dead, sixth sense, stranger than fiction, this is spinal tap, titus, the ususal suspects, What dreams may come, Shortbus, The Fall.

Television: Babylon 5, Battlestar Galactica, Carnivale, Dr. Who, Firefly, Heroes, neverwhere, outer limits, ultraviolet, venture brothers, west wing, Studio 60 on the Sunset Strip, West Wing, The Newsroom.

Music: Ani Difranco, Beetoven, David Boie, Dar Willans, Dr. Steel, Heather Alexander, Bach, Jonathan Coulton, Paul and Storm, Richard Chese, Richard Shindell, Simon and Garfunkle, Stephen Lynch, Tom Waits, Uncle Bonsai, The Wet Spots, Bob Dylan, Blues Brothers, Cat Stephens, CCR, Dead can Dance, Evanescence, Gogol Bordello, Indigo Girls, Jethro Tull, Lyle Lovett, William Elliot Whitmore.

Food: I like mostly anything except raw onions (cooked is great), super hot spicy (thai is great but not super super hot chili..I want to taste the food). Some of my favorites are: Sushi, Salmon, and Asparagus.
I also love trying new foods I haven't had before...bring on the different and new. Woo hoo!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Touch, cuddles, deep conversations, rain, green plants, passion.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Theater/ritual/roleplay, my partners, philosophy.

I'm a bit of an introvert/extrovert mix. I think a lot about thinking and how things are. Why we think and feel the way we do. And I need my alone time to be quiet. But I've also found out I love to be an extrovert with little inhibitions. So I want to jump into the middle of things in a wild group of people and 200 of my friends. But then after go to my room and not see or speak to anyone for a day or two. An odd dichotomy but it works for me.

As for theater/ritual/roleplay, I love to evoke emotion in others. To set a scene and have it play out, touching all the senses and thought to bring a tone and experience. To have the thought and emotion awash those present and flow though them. It is a great joy to touch another.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Going out to an event with 20 to 150 people there. Spinning fire around my body or reveling in the joy of the moment some other way. Laughing and talking for hours with friends, snuggling close and connecting with all.

Or home working on projects completely alone. Perhaps watching an interesting movie or show that intrigues me. Or playing silly games on my computer.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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There is nothing consensual about clowns. (and this is a good thing)

Feel free to ask about this...but only if your ready for the true answer, I don't really hold back.
You should message me if
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I've piqued your interest and would like to know more.

You enjoy a very open person who enjoys good company on a multitude of levels and doing many different things.

You are curious, for I'm a very open book and I don't mind questions ever, so if you have an interesting question, please ask. And feel free to ask me anything.

If something in my profile made you smile, even if you don't feel like connecting with me, drop me an line to say so. People don't give compliments that they really feel, often enough.

If you think "Hey this might lead at very least to some interesting conversation, or maybe a new friend." All relationships for me begin as friendships, with no expectations of what's to come, only delightful surprises.