Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am hesitant to keep a profile on here because I have very little
time to offer right now, but I would really like for the some of
the time that I have to be used to explore meaningful social
connections in whatever form that might take. I'm a person who
needs more alone time/space than some and I am a very devoted
single parent to my 7 year old child especially and including
one-on-one time spent with him. I currently shape the rest of my
life, including my career and social life, around his needs.
Lately I'm on a mission to take better care of myself in all ways
by being very intentional about what I put into my body and how I
care for it. This often falls onto the back burner for single
parents and it did for me for years. I still have a way to go in
this area and I am not perfect, physically or otherwise, though I
am getting stronger in all areas every day and enjoying the
journey. But if you are here looking for a hot bisexual barbie doll
to complete your life (or to fulfill an associated fantasy that you
or your partner might entertain) I'm not the person you're looking
for, in any aspect.
If, however, the lack of perfection and time available doesn't
frighten you off and what I've written here resonates with you,
please feel free to send me a message, I'd love to hear from people
who feel a genuine connection based on what they've read.
So, "about me" then...I tend to think and feel deeply, I'm open,
curious, passionate and a lover of ideas. I value connections that
challenge me and bring lots of new energy into my life to enrich me
and perhaps draw me into new areas. For people who also like Jung,
my Myers Briggs type is INTJ which typifies me pretty well.
Spirituality is important to me and I identify as a pagan, though I
dislike categorization in this area and just about every other.
Walks in the woods, wildlife, trees, animals etc are important to
me and I see other Beings as my partners and teachers while I am
Politically I'm far far left, fitting pretty squarely in the
Anarchist "lets' start over and be good to each other" box. I am no
lover of capitalism and see less hope in reform every day, though
I'm still a registered Green. I'm not dogmatic about any of this
and view immersion into politics personally largely as a waste. I
value differences though I admit if one has far "right" politics we
are likely to come to some clashes around valuing all people that
will be a dealbreaker in terms of anyone I choose to be close to in
I'm also a fan of the freedom of non-monogamy, at least in theory,
though I also really cherish the deep, meaningful connection that
monogamous or mostly monogamous relationships can provide. I'm into
people who are flexible and want to explore the journey with me.
Let's get to that point first and then we can talk about what that
might look like over time for either or both of us. So much depends
on the people involved and the dynamic, I'm not comfortable putting
myself in a box on this one either.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm working full-time at odd hours (weekends/overnights) with
people diagnosed with intellectual disabilities and "Momming"
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Adoring my child. Avoiding cooking. Attempting alliteration. Taking
naps. Listening. Reading. Thinking outside of the box and much too
much. Daydreaming. Thrift store shopping on half-price Wednesdays.
Identifying what you're feeling before you do. Trying to "consume"
less. Making surprising connections between seemingly disparate
entities. Spending too much time on facebook and/or tumblr. Finding
weird art. Amassing books in my "to read" pile. Contemplating
making stuff but never actually doing it. Moongazing/stargazing.
Intuiting. Attempting to be stubbornly optimistic. Wishing I were
traveling alone in another random country eating their food (that I
won't cook). Time warping in used bookstores. Generally welcoming
serendipity and Universal connectedness into my life.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My endearing clumsiness (ha!) or the fact that I am hopelessly
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I love to read...my favorite book is A Confederacy of Dunces - if
you "get" this book we will get along fine ;) Also, Walt Whitman
(Leaves of Grass is my "bible"), Heinlein, Tolkien, Herbert, Jung,
Rollo May, Rudolf Steiner, Hesse, Dostoyevsky, C.S. Lewis,
Lovecraft, Margaret Atwood, Howard Zinn, Neil Gaiman, Machaelle
Small Wright, Terry Pratchett.
Movies: Really not into most of the mainstream stuff; whatever I
come across that elicits something in/from me, especially if it
makes me think or feel in a novel way, or somehow pushes on the
bounds of any existing realities - I'm a surrealist at heart. I use
my amazing friends as a touchstone here. I have a special fondness
for magical realism in all realms and visual yumminess. Something
like The Curse of the Cat People comes to mind. That said, Dumb and
Dumber is one of my favorite movies too, so really I'm pretty wide
Television: I don't have one. I can easily be persuaded to watch
something sci fi/fantasy/nerdy online though. Also I occasionally
selectively pick things on TV to be addicted to - almost always
something from BBC. Most recently Orphan Black and Peaky Blinders.
Looking forward to Jonathan Strange and Mr. Norrell.
Gaming: I'm a geek and enjoy MMORPG's when I get the chance, which
lately isn't often.
Music: The Beatles, The Cult, and Megadeth are my three
longstanding favorites which usually make most people groan (ha!),
but I have pretty diverse tastes here. I don't like mindless pop,
any country or most jazz. With those exceptions I'm probably pretty
open to it. I'm listening to Beats Antique as I type this.
Food - Indian and Mexican...anything international really. American
food is so disappointing. I haven't eaten any meat other than
fish/seafood occasionally in over 20 years...I just don't
particularly like it. I don't judge others who make different
Art - this isn't mentioned here as a category, but it's important
to me. I'm not an artist but I do appreciate art, especially
surrealist/visionary/magical realism/some fantastic. Very excited
to be going to San Francisco soon to visit a friend and be there
for the opening of an exhibit featuring 38 artists. It's my 40th
birthday present to myself. Live music, art and good books are
transformative experiences for me and essential to my well-being.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Living consciously, giving freely, being unapologetic in my
passions, listening well, loving universally, experiencing and
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The possibility of past and future lives, how to
dismantle/undermine/sabotage the capitalist machine I find myself
ensnared by, not overcooking my dinner, "weird" people and
alternative lifestyles/parenting, what the next century will be
like, transcendent sex, radical social change/activism, Africa,
ways to live "moneyless" or without working for someone else, my
next tattoo, when I will have the opportunity to scuba dive or go
horseback riding again and that compassion is revolution...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Working. About once a month I escape the doldrums for my live music
fix or seek a change of scenery of some sort.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I never grew any armpit hair. Oh, and I'm on Fetlife. Update: I've
received a number of messages from people who have never messaged
me before asking for FL contact info. I'm on FL to interact with
people I already know or who I really deeply connect with over a
period of time, I don't give this info out by rote for a number of
You should message me if
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You are a hot Vampire Slayer or Time Lord (Lady?) looking for a
faithful sidekick. You are local and have horses that could use
some exercise. Serious on both counts.
You are awake and alive and feel connected to me from what you've
read. What you see is what you get. Always in search of new hearts
and minds to share myself with and learn from, as long as you
understand and respect my current situation and know that my 7
year-old son is my world and that I'm a creature who requires a lot
of space for the time being.
I really enjoy people who know who they are and are unabashedly
themselves - whatever that may mean personally for them. People who
are ensnared by societal norms, don't question things, typically
eschew accountability, haven't taken any real "risks" in life, are
a slave to materialistic tendencies or who aren't irredeemably
silly don't tend to interest me much. I am not overconfident, but I
am confident. I am affable, loyal, and sincere. But I'm also
fierce. I'm used to doing things on my own and getting them done,
often with few resources and/or in novel ways. I have read a lot,
traveled quite a bit, lived abroad. I take no one's version of the
truth but my own and I follow no one. I also do not like to be
followed. I like people who can skip with me hand in hand through
the forest trading puns, intelligent conversation and sexual
innuendo which may at any moment evolve or devolve into a friendly
battle of wits that I don't always win and wouldn't want to. If
this speaks to you, I will be most fortunate to know you.
The battle of wits may or may not look like this. Though
blindfolds, alcohol in goblets, rope and maniacal laughter sounds
like a good start to me. What could possibly go wrong?
"Do I contradict myself? Very well, then I contradict myself, I am
large, I contain multitudes."
- Walt Whitman
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