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esbatmoon

40 Marietta, PA Woman

Woman

I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 18–100
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 8:36am
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 3″ (1.60m)
Body type
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other, and very serious about it
Sign
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Other
Income
Status
Single
Type
Offspring
Has a kid
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Poorly), Tagalog (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I am hesitant to keep a profile on here because I have very little time to offer right now, but I would really like for the some of the time that I have to be used to explore meaningful social connections in whatever form that might take. I'm a person that needs more alone time/space than some and I am a very devoted single parent to my 7 year old child especially and including one-on-one time spent with him. I currently shape the rest of my life, including my career and social life, around his needs.

Lately I'm on a mission to take better care of myself in all ways by being very intentional about what I put into my body and how I care for it. This often falls onto the back burner for single parents and it did for me for years. I still have a way to go in this area and I am not perfect, physically or otherwise, though I am getting stronger in all areas every day and enjoying the journey. But if you are here looking for a hot bisexual barbie doll to complete your life, I'm not that person, in any aspect.

If, however, the lack of perfection and time available doesn't frighten you off and what I've written here resonates with you, please feel free to send me a message, I'd love to hear from people who feel a genuine connection based on what they've read.

So, "about me" then...I tend to think and feel deeply, I'm open, curious, passionate and a lover of ideas. I value connections that challenge me and bring lots of new energy into my life to enrich me and perhaps draw me into new areas.

Spirituality is important to me and I identify as a pagan, though I dislike categorization in this area and just about every other. Walks in the woods, wildlife, trees, animals etc are important to me and I see other Beings as my partners and teachers while I am here.

Politically I'm far far left, fitting pretty squarely in the Anarchist "lets' start over and be good to each other" box. I am no lover of capitalism and see less hope in reform every day, though I'm still a registered Green. I'm not dogmatic about any of this and view immersion into politics personally largely as a waste. I value differences though I admit if one has far "right" politics we are likely to come to some clashes around valuing all people that will be a dealbreaker in terms of anyone I choose to be close to in my life.

I'm also a fan of the freedom of non-monogamy, at least in theory, though I also really cherish the deep, meaningful connection that monogamous or mostly monogamous relationships can provide. I'm into people who are flexible and want to explore the journey with me. Let's get to that point first and then we can talk about what that might look like over time for either or both of us. So much depends on the people involved and the dynamic, I'm not comfortable putting myself in a box on this one either.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm working full-time at odd hours (weekends/overnights) with people diagnosed with intellectual disabilities and "Momming" full-time :)
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Adoring my child. Avoiding cooking. Attempting alliteration. Taking naps. Listening. Reading. Thinking outside of the box and much too much. Daydreaming. Thrift store shopping on half-price Wednesdays. Identifying what you're feeling before you do. Trying to "consume" less. Making surprising connections between seemingly disparate entities. Spending too much time on facebook and/or tumblr. Finding weird art. Amassing books in my "to read" pile. Contemplating making stuff but never actually doing it. Moongazing/stargazing. Intuiting. Attempting to be stubbornly optimistic. Wishing I were traveling alone in another random country eating their food (that I won't cook). Time warping in used bookstores. Generally welcoming serendipity and Universal connectedness into my life.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My endearing clumsiness (ha!) or the fact that I am hopelessly aloof. :D
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I love to read...my favorite book is A Confederacy of Dunces - if you "get" this book we will get along fine ;) Also, Walt Whitman (Leaves of Grass is my "bible"), Heinlein, Tolkien, Herbert, Jung, Rollo May, Rudolf Steiner, Hesse, Dostoyevsky, C.S. Lewis, Margaret Atwood, Howard Zinn, Neil Gaiman, Machaelle Small Wright, Terry Pratchett. Really there is too much to mention here, I love to read.

Movies: Really not into most of the mainstream stuff; whatever I come across that elicits something in/from me, especially if it makes me think or feel in a novel way. I use my amazing friends as a touchstone here. I have a special fondness for magical realism in all realms and visual yumminess. Something like The Curse of the Cat People comes to mind. That said, Dumb and Dumber is one of my favorite movies too, so really I'm pretty wide open here.

Television: I don't have one. I can easily be persuaded to watch something sci fi/fantasy/nerdy online though. Also I occasionally selectively pick things on TV to be addicted to - most recently it was Orphan Black (BBC). I have also been informed by one of my best friends that I would like a show called Peaky Blinders. It's a drama about turn of the century violent subculture in England, complete with interestingly hot people. When he said that the creators of the show decided to only use music by Jack White and Nick Cave, I knew it was something I'd probably like. BBC 2 for interested parties.

Gaming: I'm a geek and enjoy MMORPG's when I get the chance, which lately isn't often.

Music: The Beatles, The Cult, and Megadeth are my three longstanding favorites which usually make most people groan (ha!), but I have pretty diverse tastes here. I don't like mindless pop, any country or most jazz. With those exceptions I'm probably pretty open to it. I'm listening to Beats Antique as I type this.

Food - Indian and Mexican...anything international really. American food is so disappointing. I haven't eaten any meat other than fish/seafood occasionally in over 20 years...I just don't particularly like it. I don't judge others who make different choices.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Living consciously, giving freely, being unapologetic in my passions, listening well, loving universally, experiencing and seeking expansiveness/growth.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Past and future lives, how to dismantle/undermine/sabotage the capitalist machine I find myself ensnared by, not overcooking my dinner, "weird" people and alternative lifestyles/parenting, what the next century will be like, transcendent sex, radical social change/activism, Africa, ways to live "moneyless" or without working for someone else, my next tattoo, when I will have the opportunity to scuba dive or go horseback riding again and that compassion is revolution...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Working. About once a month I escape the doldrums for my live music fix or seek a change of scenery of some sort.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I never grew any armpit hair. Oh, and I'm on Fetlife. Update: I've received a number of messages from people who have never messaged me before asking for FL contact info. I'm on FL to interact with people I already know or who I really deeply connect with over a period of time, I don't give this info out by rote for a number of reasons.
You should message me if
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You are a hot Vampire Slayer or Time Lord (Lady? lol) looking for a faithful sidekick. You are local and have horses that could use some exercise. Serious on both counts.

...and/or...

You are awake and alive and feel connected to me from what you've read. What you see is what you get. Always in search of new hearts and minds to share myself with and learn from, as long as you understand and respect my current situation and know that my 7 year-old son is my world and that I'm a creature that requires a lot of space for the time being.

I really enjoy people who know who they are and are unabashedly themselves - whatever that may mean personally for them. People who are enmeshed by societal norms, don't question things, haven't taken any real "risks" in life, are enslaved by materialistic tendencies or who aren't irredeemably silly don't tend to interest me much. I also identify as a "pansexual" (not being a fan of the gender binary), but that was not an option when I signed up so I listed myself as bisexual.