Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I finally updated my profile after what was probably two years. I
have thought about disabling my profile here because I really have
no time to physically meet someone right now and pursue anything
remotely resembling a relationship in the flesh for the next few
months. I'm currently working 60+ hours a week when my son is in
school or with his father. The rest of the time belongs to my son
until my schedule changes. At some point in the spring my workload
will decrease and my time will open up a bit. If you read my
profile and are still interested after reading this, feel free to
send me a message and connect. I do have time at my disposal for
connecting online etc during this time.
Between working full-time and Momming full-time I have little time
to give to a social life right now. That said, I identify as
polyamorous/ethically non-monogamous. I joke that I am a
polyamorous hermit ;) I'm not really actively looking to date
anyone else at this point but I'm always open to new friends and if
the chemistry were right I wouldn't rule it out.
I am eight-feet-tall, amphibious, and feed exclusively upon Necco
wafers to sustain my powers of drunken invisibility. Oh wait. Wrong
Oh. You're still here. Good. Okay then...
Friendly, tree-hugging, feminist, activist
bleeding-heart-Social-Worker type of individual. Deep, complicated,
multifarious and (I would like to think, although I joke about it)
impossible to put into a box...easy to talk to, difficult to know
well...with a HUGE heart.
I vacillate between having tremendous energy - trying to heal the
world and everything in it...and then seeking refuge from it and
going inside myself or out into nature when it becomes too much. I
try to see hope and beauty in everything around me. Some days it's
easier than others...but each day I feel more connected. When
asked, I put myself in a Pagan/Pantheist box but it's not something
that defines me (lack of definition/boxing will be a recurring
theme. Don't worry, I don't believe in testing).
I'm very flexible and giving to others in many ways but also
somewhat of a whimsical hedonist. I learned early that in order to
get what I really want I had to first know what that was and then
not accept anything less. I'm pretty unapologetic about that. I'm
also constantly "refining" who I am and what I want out of
life...it's a process as I grow in my understanding of myself and
the world. I don't want to get to the end of my life and wonder why
I didn't get more out of it. With that said, I don't think I'm
selfish, and once you enter my circle of friends I will do anything
for you. :)
I love to travel, especially off the beaten path and once lived
abroad as a Peace Corps volunteer. At one point I took about three
months and traveled to a dozen or so developing countries - this
was probably the most formative experience of my life. I'm looking
forward to doing Rotary or some other kind of international
volunteer travel on a yearly basis when my son is older. I really
enjoy people who don't live in a cultural vacuum.
Regarding political ideology if I had to put myself in a category I
would say a radical leftist/anarchist. I hate labels, particularly
the "Liberal" label. I'm a registered Green but most of my views
are left of that and I would just love to scrap Capitalism
altogether and be a part of something that makes more sense to me.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm working full-time at odd hours (weekends/overnights) with
people diagnosed with intellectual disabilities and "Momming"
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Adoring my child. Avoiding cooking. Attempting alliteration. Taking
naps. Listening. Reading. Thinking outside of the box and much too
much. Daydreaming. Thrift store shopping on half-price Wednesdays.
Identifying what you're feeling before you do. Trying to "consume"
less. Making surprising connections between seemingly disparate
entities. Spending too much time on facebook and/or tumblr. Finding
weird art. Amassing books in my "to read" pile. Contemplating
making stuff but never actually doing it. Moongazing/stargazing.
Intuiting. Attempting to be stubbornly optimistic. Wishing I were
traveling alone in another random country eating their food (that I
won't cook). Time warping in used bookstores. Generally welcoming
serendipity and Universal connectedness into my life.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My endearing clumsiness (ha!) or the fact that I am hopelessly
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I love to read...my favorite book is A Confederacy of Dunces - if
you "get" this book we will get along fine ;) Also, Walt Whitman
(Leaves of Grass is my "bible"), Heinlein, Tolkien, Herbert, Jung,
Rollo May, Rudolf Steiner, Hesse, Dostoyevsky, C.S. Lewis, Margaret
Atwood, Howard Zinn, Neil Gaiman, Machaelle Small Wright, Terry
Pratchett. Really there is too much to mention here, I love to
Movies: Really not into most of the mainstream stuff; whatever I
come across that elicits something in/from me, especially if it
makes me think or feel in a novel way. I use my amazing friends as
a touchstone here. I have a special fondness for magical realism in
all realms and visual yumminess. Something like The Curse of the
Cat People comes to mind. That said, Dumb and Dumber is one of my
favorite movies too, so really I'm pretty wide open here.
Television: I don't have one. I can easily be persuaded to watch
something sci fi/fantasy/nerdy online though. Also I occasionally
selectively pick things on TV to be addicted to - most recently it
was Orphan Black (BBC). I have also been informed by one of my best
friends that I would like a show called Peaky Blinders. It's a
drama about turn of the century violent subculture in England,
complete with interestingly hot people. When he said that the
creators of the show decided to only use music by Jack White and
Nick Cave, I knew it was something I'd probably like. BBC 2 for
Gaming: I'm a geek and enjoy MMORPG's when I get the chance, which
lately isn't often.
Music: The Beatles, The Cult, and Megadeth are my three
longstanding favorites which usually make most people groan (ha!),
but I have pretty diverse tastes here. I don't like mindless pop,
any country or most jazz. With those exceptions I'm probably pretty
open to it. I'm listening to Beats Antique as I type this.
Food - Indian and Mexican...anything international really. American
food is so disappointing. I haven't eaten any meat other than
fish/seafood occasionally in over 20 years...I just don't
particularly like it. I don't judge others who make different
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Living consciously, giving freely, being unapologetic in my
passions, listening well, loving universally, experiencing and
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Past and future lives, how to dismantle/undermine/sabotage the
capitalist machine I find myself ensnared by, not overcooking my
dinner, "weird" people and alternative lifestyles/parenting, what
the next century will be like, transcendent sex, radical social
change/activism, Africa, ways to live "moneyless" or without
working for someone else, my next tattoo, when I will have the
opportunity to scuba dive or go horseback riding again and that
compassion is revolution...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Working. About once a month I escape the doldrums for my live music
fix or seek a change of scenery of some sort.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I never grew any armpit hair. Oh, and I'm on Fetlife. Update: I've
received a number of messages from people who have never messaged
me before asking for FL contact info. I'm on FL to interact with
people I already know or who I really deeply connect with over a
period of time, I don't give this info out by rote for a number of
You should message me if
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You are a hot Vampire Slayer or Time Lord (Lady? lol) looking for a
faithful sidekick. You are local and have horses that could use
some exercise. Serious on both counts.
You are awake and alive and feel connected to me from what you've
read. What you see is what you get. Always in search of new hearts
and minds to share myself with and learn from, as long as you
understand and respect my current situation and know that my 6
year-old son is my world and that I'm a creature that requires a
lot of space for the time being.
I really enjoy people who know who they are and are unabashedly
themselves - whatever that may mean personally for them. People who
are enmeshed by societal norms, don't question things, haven't
taken any real "risks" in life, are enslaved by materialistic
tendencies or who aren't irredeemably silly don't tend to interest
me much. I also identify as a "pansexual" (not being a fan of the
gender binary), but that was not an option when I signed up so I
listed myself as bisexual.
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