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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 32–41
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

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5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Agnosticism, and very serious about it
Capricorn, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently)
My self-summary
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Tired after fifteen years in the hipster trenches, I recently fulfilled a long-term goal and now reside half the time in NYC and the other half in Massachusetts near the VT border. I do have friends in MA. They are mostly woodland creatures, but that’s fine with me. I think it’s fine with them too, but they get a little irritated when I hog the covers during sleepovers.

I am not a douchebag, as my friends reminded me repeatedly...until Mom stopped paying the people that formerly cluttered up my social calendar. Honestly, though, I think they'd still say I'm not.

When I am in New York I can be found at a jazz club or at one of the bars I co-own in Brooklyn, if my business partner hasn't changed the locks. I am otherwise self-employed in energy efficiency and clean generation, arcane stuff I can hardly explain and still wonder how I get paid for. Generally love what I do, cause it's only what I want to do, but my boss can be a real jerk.

If you're looking for a partner in crime, you better be serious, cause I have some big jobs planned. If you're as comfortable in jeans as you are in a little black dress, we may have a problem with my allergies to silk and linen. If you love to laugh and have fun, that could be a deal killer -- my buddhism guru is trying to keep me to a strict happy medium. If you try to take advantage of all New York City has to offer, I want you to come to the party with me on the 3 train when it parks in the East New York rail yard, starts about 2 AM. And if you are really five years older than your profile, that's great because I love to start my relationships on a solid basis of dishonesty.

Yes, I'm doing a pisstake on the standard lines one generally finds on here. Kidding aside, I'm not looking for someone to complete me or to check a box. I am looking for a life partner with her own set of interests and passions, and preferably one who wants kids, although that will always take a backseat to a meaningful relationship. I got no mommy or daddy issues, have done the work necessary to know what I'm about. I have quit two jobs with nice pay to live a sane, manageable lifestyle and do things that are meaningful to me. If I find her and she digs it, I'll be delighted. If I don't, then I don't. It's my intention to settle permanently outside the City even if I have to go down occasionally for projects. I need earth under my feet and woods to hike in. Not saying I won't compromise -- all relationships are about compromise -- but the best me ain't a city boy.
What I’m doing with my life
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I am a consultant in clean energy and efficiency, develop efficiency and generation projects on my own, and help other firms raise capital to do their developments. I own parts of small businesses. I like to build stuff, but am not very good at it so I'm always bashing myself with hammers and cutting myself with saws.
I’m really good at
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Eating ice cream
The first things people usually notice about me
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My hump, or my club feet.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Favorite movie is A Room with a View, book is the Enormous Room (however, recently in awe of Shadow Country and Angle of Repose), TV show is the Wire. My musical taste is very eclectic and I couldn't pick one thing. Half the time I listen to classical music, then a lot of Leo Kottke-type folk, early REM era rock, big Meshell Ndegeocello fan, international music, and Blitzen Trapper-ish indie pop. My current food fascination is anything involving passion fruit or green tomatillo sauce.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I can do without lists.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Ice cream.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
3 train, 2 AM
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have a Ben & Jerry's problem
You should message me if
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You like unconventional -- settling down in the burbs is not your life plan. You like to read and talk about what you read (or see, or hear). "Thoughtful" and "engaging" are characteristics you look for and that you offer.

Do not e-mail me if you have a picture with a fake mustache. It really freaks me out.