esseffguy
52 San Francisco, CA
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My self-summary
Well for starters, I grew up in NJ which, right away suggests I can find the humor in almost any situation. I drive a practical car with a kayak/bike rack on the roof and tennis rackets in the trunk. I’d be called a liberal almost anywhere else in the country except here. My workspace is nicely cluttered. I give blood regularly. I don’t have any addictions, other than getting outside to play. I tend to put the welfare of others before my own – which gets me into trouble sometimes. I prefer parties where I don’t need to yell to be heard. On the whole, I’m better at eating than I am at cooking - I’m better at listening than I am at talking – and I’m better at sports than I am at games.

I might be described as a "regular guy" with a few CA-friendly modifications – that is to say, while I'm fairly handy to have around the house, I don't drink beer, watch a lot of sports on television or dream of owning a powerboat. In addition, I will almost always (which I think is way ahead of the curve for a straight guy) remember your birthday, open the door for you, notice a new hairstyle, put the toilet seat down, and ask you how your day was.

OK, so what am I looking for in a woman? Well, I guess with the advent of global warming it might be good if she looked good in a pair of shorts … and knew a few tasty fish recipes. Other than that, who knows? Ideally, she’d be perceptive, affectionate and happy. She’d have some nerdy and/or sporty tendencies, wouldn’t be overly impressed by material things and have a high tolerance for eye-rolling humor. Beyond that, I appreciate intelligence, flexibility, tact, humor, honesty and open-mindedness – in anyone.
What I’m doing with my life
I am the CEO, receptionist and janitor in my own architectural office of one (which means gossip at the water cooler can be pretty spotty – and the possibility of a coworker setting me up with his/her cousin is … well … zero). I’m striving to make the world just a little bit greener, one home at a time. Occupation-wise, it’s sorta like being a “starving artist” except there's a giant written and oral exam to pass. On the whole, it’s rewarding work though; my hours are flexible, I mostly like my boss, and my morning commute is usually less than 10 seconds - unless there’s a tie up in the kitchen or something …
I’m really good at
Tinkering, designing, various ball sports, outdoorsy stuff, road trips, back rubs, parallel parking, amusing children, appearing to love your mother’s cooking, misplacing my keys …
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m pretty fit for my age – or any age. I’m even keeled and personable. After a minute you might notice I’m funny too – “funny”, like ha-ha funny … not uh-oh funny …
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I listen to a fair amount of radio – mostly NPR - This American Life, Wait Wait Don’t Tell Me, To the Best of Our Knowledge, Radio Lab, West Coast Live, etc…

My musical tastes are all over the board – pop, rock, rockabilly, blues, bluegrass, classical, big band, swing, Motown, New Orleans jazz, world music, etc… Country, rap and metal are on the list too, just a little further down – somewhere between elevator music and Klingon opera …

I’ve got a 20” tube TV that I fire up on occasion. I gravitate toward PBS since it’s the most commercial-free of my eight channels … oh, and because it makes me feel smarter. I know - they haven't got anything that rivals the Jersey Shore … but then, can anything top a show about life in NJ? The answer is “No”.

As far as movies go, I’m kind of a sucker for happy endings. I don’t know- it just seems like there’s enough real-life-drama in real life. Anyway, on occasion I indulge my inner-geek with a sci-fi or action movie on the big screen, otherwise I tend to wait for things to come out on DVD. I’m actually OK with musicals and (some) chick-flicks – not so much with horror or gangster movies as they rarely end well. I also enjoy watching classic movies from time to time - especially when they’re playing at the Paramount in Oakland or the Stanford Theater – love those mighty Wurlitzers!
The six things I could never do without
Truth, beauty, humor, love, happiness and pie (which, in some circles, is a synonym for all of the preceding).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Life, the Universe and everything … oh, and now that whole Higgs-Boson-thing … oy!
On a typical Friday night I am
Doing this or that. Sometimes I’m out with friends - sometimes I’m unwinding from the week - sometimes I’m writing an internet dating profile … sigh …
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
It’s been four generations since my family left the Land of the Rising Sun, which makes me about as Japanese as a Jack-in-the-Box teriyaki bowl. It also means my math skills probably aren’t as good as one might expect …
You should message me if
You are kind and sane.
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