NOTE: i'm one of those folks who views chat as the smallest way to start up a conversation. I think the biggest problem with okc is that there isn't a clear sense of what the proper order of contact is.
For me, i feel most comfortable with:
1. we notice each other's profiles, with the intention of meeting people with common interests.
2. maybe we "favorite" or "star" each other...
3. i often say hi with a chat, i'm not trying to be creepy, i'm trying to do the equivalent of saying hi at a cafe. I'm not trying to be invasive, and i respond REALLY well to "hey i'm not into chat, please write me a note"And honestly you should know that i have a ton of female friends since childhood and seek platonic connections as well as potential love.
4. if we get along on chat, that's a good sign for me that an in-person might be fun. Chat gives us the opportunity to have a little bit of a back and forth.
one apology: sometimes i don't remember if i've said hi to someone before. i know woman get harassed on here. if you feel like i've said hi a few times and you are not into it, you can totally let me know and i won't be one of those entitled assholes who thinks they deserve your time.
I want to heal the planet through Permaculture, Design, Culture-Change, Carbon Farming, and Drought Proofing. I ultimately would like people to collaborate with- seeking friends and loves who want to have our lives be giving to the earth.