I'll start with a few descriptive keywords. Keywords are alluring, right?: Novelty-seeking, analytical, ethically non-monogamous (and partnered!), (intersectionally) feminist, nerdy, kinky, queer and ambitious. I think I hit most of the "controversial" aspects of my personality? Just wanted to get that out of the way. Now to get a bit more in-depth.
I consider myself an ambitious person and am pursuing a career in the social sciences (leaning towards health policy research lately). I I love my field, I'm a huge nerd, and I plan to apply to Ph.D programs in a couple of years. I am the kind of person who keeps an eye on the lecture series calendars of nearby universities and uses phrases like "lifelong learning".
I believe feelings are inherently valid (although one's reactions to feelings don't get the same unconditional acceptance!). Many people get so focused to trying to make "logical" decisions that they discount their own feelings and those of others. Self care is so important, introspection is so important, good communication is so important. I actively work on getting rid of the irrational shame I got saddled with growing up in this society, and by now I mostly succeed at feeling good about myself and my body. I know this can be difficult as hell though, and I do what I can to support my friends and loved one in trying to like themselves better. I want to invent a subculture that is, like, "kindcore". "Hey girl, did you also text that selfie to NASA? No? You should. BECAUSE YOU'RE A STAR."
I think a lot about ethics and the most helpful, intelligent ways to act compassionately. My ethics tend more towards moral relativism and utilitarianism. For a sampler of my pet issues: making high-quality mental health care accessible to everyone, making sexual/reproductive knowledge and care accessible to everyone, making sure people can access information/knowledge more generally, and preserving people's rights surrounding bodily autonomy. Not saying these are the best or most important issues, but my background has made me especially attuned to these ones.
I am a kind of weird lady. I get excited about stuff like holding those big shiny millipedes at the museum of entomology and foraging for food in public parks and immersive art installations. I have a sense of humor that is really absurd, sometimes highbrow, and alternates between being deadpan and laid on clownishly thick. I think spiders and ghosts are comedy gold. I know sometimes I get intimidated by profiles where people namedrop all their favorite social movements and intellectual hobbies or whatever and I hope you won't think I am the most serious person because I'm hecka silly and not actually scary.
The kink stuff is left deliberately amorphous on my profile but people who might be writing me should know it's a thing. I do local-scene stuff sometimes but I tend to be critical of the way the "scene" and the activities endorsed by it sometimes recreate existing power imbalances (imbalances that are non-consensual and are very widespread).
I'm totes in an open/poly relationship right now; my main squeeze is on here as Patrizio- and we're pretty gosh-darned into each other. I have a couple other relationships with romantic or sexual elements but they have lasted less long and have a lower levels of commitment. Open to meeting kinksters/cuddlers/conversationalists that fill niches in my life that are currently unoccupied.
Note: pansexual, not bisexual. If you don't get why this matters, this note is not for you.