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29 Fort Oglethorpe, GA Cis Woman

Cis Woman

I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 21–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Mar 5
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Open relationship
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t want kids
Dislikes dogs and has cats

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My self-summary
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Hi, y'all. I'm a nerd of the science and science fiction sort with a hearty helping of the grammar sort and a sprinkle of the gamer sort. I am a free thinker and a progressive. I'm one of those Millenials who is unhappy with her menial job, though I at least work for a pretty good company. I'm a writer. I'm a proponent of clear communication and personal reflection. I'm the mama of two old, lazy kitties and a chubby ball python.

I'm bisexual, sapiosexual, and polyamorous. My husband's profile is bcordle1414. He's pretty awesome. :) We're also in a long distance relationship with a couple from Alabama, DustedCelt and hkrsrppl2. Even though the distance keeps us from seeing each other often, they are still very special to us! I'm also dating another local girl. I'm pretty poly saturated at the moment, but please hit me up if you wanna chat about polyamory.

Just to be clear, being non-monogamous and bisexual does not mean I participate in casual sex or casual threesomes. I'm not interested in any type of casual relationship. I find all aspects of a relationship -- romantic, emotional, spiritual and sexual -- all equally important and can't have a sexual relationship without the other components.
What I’m doing with my life
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I work at a nice law firm in Chattanooga as a legal secretary for three real estate attorneys. I don't have much interest in law, but I do have an interest in financial freedom, and I've begun to realize that I will probably have to do something I may not want to in order to be comfortable. I hope this job will allow me to volunteer more of my time to organizations like Modern Poly where I was recently named editor-in-chief. I also write regularly in a blog and a journal.

I would love to write a science textbook (probably with someone who has a PhD). I want to do activism for LGBT and polyamory rights while writing in a blog, magazine, novel, etc. I have toyed with being a life coach as well.

If you read/are reading my profile, include the word "parrot" in your message if you choose to message me. Bc I'm sneaky...
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Making messes. Making plans. Speaking in a Southern drawl with correct grammar.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I love rocking red lipstick. :D
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: I tend to lean towards series. Or at least those are all I can recall at the moment. They include Anita Blake, Vampire Hunter, House of Night, Percy Jackson, Animorphs (old fav!), Inheritance Cycle/Eragon, Harry Potter, Hunger Games, and Twilight.

Blogs: I read blogs and articles more than books nowadays. My favorites are The Bloggess and PostSecret. I also read a lot of Huffington Post opinion pieces.

Podcasts: I listen to a lot of podcasts while I file and print and revise documents and update binders at work. I keep up with Poly Weekly Podcast, Dogma Debate, Ardent Atheist, Skeptically Yours, Stuff Your Mom Didn't Tell You, Probably Science and NPR: Intelligence Squared.

Movies: I kind of have a guy's taste in movies. I like action a lot. Some favs are Avatar, Pirates of the Carribean movies, Harry Potter movies, V for Vendetta, Transformers movies, Avengers, and Inception.

Music: I like songs I can relate to and that have passion to them. A lot of the music I listen to comes from movies. Genres are rap, hip hop, rock, folk. I think Eminem is a lyrical genius. Lullaby by Nickelback has saved my life a few times, and Same Love by Macklemore gives me chills almost everytime I listen to it.

TV Shows: The only shows I am watch live are Big Bang Theory and Walking Dead. My husband and I are working through Dexter and House, MD right now.

Food: I like pasta a lot. It's easy to cook. I really don't like to cook. I try to eat healthfully. Lots of green things and fresh things. But I will get lazy sometimes and eat fast food.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
-Love, whether it be my love for friends and romantic partners or the connection I feel in all life and in all humanity.
-Kitties. I have two older cats, but I love all members of the feline family (especially, tigers!)
-My 2007 Toyota Matrix named Trinity. She protects me for two hours on the road each day driving to and from work.
-The moon.
-Learning. I will never stop questioning or learning about everything in the universe.
-Freedom. I don't like bosses, closed doors, and social requirements.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How I can be better at polyamory. Why I have a hard time keeping who I am a secret. Where I'm going to be in five years--hell, in a year. What I'm going to do with my life. When I'll be able to finally do what I want in life. How I will ever help people/change the world. When I will finally have the courage and money to get the 4-5 tattoos I want. What I can do for the LGBT and poly communities.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I hang out at home with my husband and every other weekend with his kids. I'm pretty introverted, so I don't generally like big crowds. Which is pretty ironic considering I'm poly.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have problems w depression, and I'm currently trying to find the right medicine and therapy to keep me balanced for life. I hope it will help me be a better partner.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
-you have questions about what polyamory is (really, ask me! I'd love to talk about it)
-you're poly and want to talk to someone else who is (I love meeting other poly people!)
-you're intelligent or witty or nerdy
-you enjoy/need good conversation

I do date other men, but as you can tell from my "looking for" section, that kind of relationship is not what I'm really looking for right now. Being poly I am interested in seeing wherever relationships go, so if you are interested and are okay with going slowly, then message me. : )

What I really am looking for right now in my heart is a (local) girlfriend. I want to explore the side of me that is attracted to women, which is not something I have done much of in my life. I feel like my poly life will not be complete without a woman in it. If you would like to get to know me, message me please. : )

**Please say something more than "Hey, what's up?" (or worse, spelled wrong). I don't do chitchat well, so give me some topics to discuss.**