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30 Jackson Heights, NY Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 18–67
  • Near me
  • For new friends, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 2:29am
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Not at all
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Taurus, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t want kids
Likes dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
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I grew up in rural Idaho, was a huge nerd, moved to DC to go to school,got arrested a few times at labor protests, flunked all my classes while spending the weekends hitchhiking, hopped freight trains, dropped out of school, moved to China, lived in Portland (Oregon, of course), got a job working with disabled folks, fell in love(!!!) with the job, hitchhiked across the country visiting schools, decided on Columbia, finished school without flunking my classes, now I have a job doing organizing work people with disabilities.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm the Coordinator for the New York City Region of the Self-Advocacy Association of New York State.

Self-Advocacy is a dumb name for something that is actually pretty great. It refers to folks with developmental or cognitive disabilities representing their own interests. This may sound pretty basic, but it is not something that actually happens a lot.

Our organization is one of the largest of its kind in the country. The board of our nonprofit is made up entirely of people with developmental disabilities. They make decisions about our finances, policy, and staff, and they are happily my bosses.

I manage a small office in Manhattan with 4 part time staff and a bunch of volunteers; all people with disabilities except for myself. We are responsible for organizing 50,000 people with developmental disabilities in the 5 boroughs. We do education work, and direct lobbying, but mostly we organize self-advocacy groups which are groups entirely controlled by people with developmental disabilities.

It is my dream job and we get to work on a lot of exciting issues. We are trying to create a space where folks don't just have a voice, but have real power over their own lives.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
With my job we end of talking a lot about things that we are good at versus things that we need support from others with.

I am really great at cooking. I'm good at making information accessible to others. I'm good at paperwork and computer stuff. I have a great memory. And I can be charming if I work at it.

I am a horrible manager, I can't do "networking", and I realize that my style of empathy isn't that great for comforting people. I also have an executive function that tends to sort information I receive in ways that lend towards function solutions rather than big picture emotional ones. These are all things that I am working on, but mostly I just get support from lots of wonderful people in my life who are better at these things than I am.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm very open.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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The two book series that make me wanna cry every time I think about them are Sherwood Smith's Inda books and Robin Hobb's Farseer Trilogy.

I also love Lev Grossman, Jim Butcher's Codex Alera, Patrick Rothfuss!!!, Hunger Games, Asimov's Foundation series, Earthsea, Chronicles of Chaos Trilogy, Otherland by Tad Williams, Stephen Donaldson, The Black Company, Kim Stanley Robinson but only the Mars Trilogy, A Fire Upon the Deep and a Deepness in the Sky, Neal Stephenson (but hated Anathem!), The beginning books of The Malazan Tale of the Fallen, Game of Thrones, China Mieville, everything of Brandon Sanderson except The Way of Kings and Alloy of Law, Wheel of Time, His Dark Materials, and William Gibson

I only try to own music that I've seen live, and I try to go to as many DIY show as possible. Love Priests, Downtown Boys, The Gloomy Ones, Little Waist, Malportado Kids, Shady Hawkins, Household, Chain and the Gang, Neonates, Olivia Neutron John, Told Slant, Baby Mollusk, Nine of Swords, Aye Nako, Curmudgeon, Young Trynas, Upset, Tacocat, Peach Kelli Pop, Mannequin Pussy, Penguin, Screaming Females, Shellshag, 3Jane, Hive Bent, Tiny Tusks, Tomboy, Whore Paint, Hot Tears, Cayetana

Honestly, though, TV drives me more than most things do. I can't get The Shield out of my head. I still cry about Pushing Daisies being cancelled. I have Good Wife fantasies every day. I freak out about Breaking Bad. I want to burn down the ABC Family offices for canceling Huge. Sherlock Holmes and Adventure Time are also recent loves for me.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. This green army backpack that I've had for years and has traveled tens of thousands of miles with me back and forth across the country on trips.

2. My wallet, which is a really old black leather one that my father gave me when I was twelve.

3. I can't go anywhere without a trashy paperback. I have a pile of used ones in my room that keeps falling over.

4. I keep a few stuffed animals in my bed that I would die without. I can't fall asleep without something to hug. Seriously

5. A panda costume that an old roommate made for me

6. A brass llama figurine that a friend got me in Peru
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Not sex.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
With people.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have gone on a lot of OKCupid dates
You should message me if
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1. You would like to meet at a cute tea shop, or just come by my place to sample my huge tea collection.

2. You would like to play board games or indie pen-and-paper RPGs (and no one ever messages me for this! Seriously, please please please don't be shy).

3. You are an exciting submissive who would like to have rough dirty sex with a confident dominant

For everything but option #2 I love it if a date shows up wearing a dress. Something you love the way you look in. I adore thrift store finds. For option #3 I also love someone with great taste in underwear or lingerie, something lacy. (exceptions to all of this if you are a punk)