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31 Jackson Heights, NY Cis Man

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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 18-67
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Nov 13
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
5' 10" (1.78m)
Body Type
Special Diet
Not at all
Agnosticism but it’s not important
Doesn’t want kids
My self-summary
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Since OKCupid is my primary social network I thought I should post this here as well. There was a fire at the Silent Barn last night, and this is such an important place for so many people in so many different communities, run by a bunch of great folks who put in a ton of time, energy, thought, and labor for free. It would really help out if people would consider donating:

I grew up in rural Idaho, was a huge nerd, moved to DC to go to school, got arrested a few times at labor protests, flunked all my classes while spending the weekends hitchhiking, hopped freight trains, dropped out of school, moved to China, lived in Portland, got a job working with disabled folks, fell in love with the job, hitchhiked across the country visiting schools, decided on Columbia, finished school without flunking my classes, now I have a job doing organizing work people with disabilities.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm the Coordinator for the New York City Region of the Self-Advocacy Association of New York State.

I get to work for an organization where the board is made up entirely of people with developmental disabilities. They make decisions about our finances, policy, staffing, and they are happily my bosses.

I manage a small office in Manhattan with 5 part time staff and a bunch of volunteers; all people with disabilities except for myself. We are responsible for organizing 50,000 people with developmental disabilities in the 5 boroughs. We do education work, and direct lobbying, but mostly we organize self-advocacy groups which are groups entirely controlled by people with developmental disabilities.

It is my dream job and we get to work on a lot of exciting issues. We are trying to create a space where folks don't just have a voice, but have real power over their own lives.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm very open.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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The two book series that make me wanna cry every time I think about them are Sherwood Smith's Inda books and Robin Hobb's Farseer Trilogy.

I also love Lev Grossman, Jim Butcher's Codex Alera, Patrick Rothfuss!!!, Hunger Games, Asimov's Foundation series, Earthsea, Chronicles of Chaos Trilogy, Otherland by Tad Williams, Stephen Donaldson, The Black Company, Kim Stanley Robinson but only the Mars Trilogy, A Fire Upon the Deep and a Deepness in the Sky, Neal Stephenson (but hated Anathem!), The beginning books of The Malazan Tale of the Fallen, Game of Thrones, China Mieville, everything of Brandon Sanderson except The Way of Kings and Alloy of Law, Wheel of Time, His Dark Materials, and William Gibson

I only try to own music that I've seen live, and I try to go to as many DIY show as possible. Love Priests, Downtown Boys, The Gloomy Ones, Little Waist, Malportado Kids, Shady Hawkins, Household, Chain and the Gang, Neonates, Olivia Neutron John, Told Slant, Baby Mollusk, Nine of Swords, Aye Nako, Curmudgeon, Young Trynas, Upset, Tacocat, Peach Kelli Pop, Mannequin Pussy, Penguin, Screaming Females, Shellshag, 3Jane, Hive Bent, Tiny Tusks, Tomboy, Whore Paint, Hot Tears, Cayetana, Girlpool, Chumped, Pinkwash, All Dogs, Jawbreaker Reunion, Perfect Pussy, Vagabond, Florist, Alice, All Dogs, The Yowler, Jawbreaker Reunion, Blizzard Babies, Amanda X, Manors, Crabapple, Noun, Turnip King, R.L. Kelly, Barf Troop, Slutever, Girlpool, Mitski, Palberta, Bad Canoes,Ursula, Abdu Ali, Sissyfit, Pebbles, Oshun, Mal Devisa, Long Beard, Sneaks, Ratas En Zelo, Diet Cig, Katherine, Try the Pie, Alanna McArdle, Gauche, Moor Mother Goddess

Honestly, though, TV drives me more than most things do. I can't get The Shield out of my head. I still cry about Pushing Daisies being cancelled. I have Good Wife fantasies every day. I freak out about Breaking Bad. I want to burn down the ABC Family offices for canceling Huge. Shameless and Adventure Time are also recent loves for me. And can't forget about Ouran High School Host Club, Steven Universe, Over the Garden Wall, Legend of Korra, Broad City, Rick and Morty, Damages, Hannibal, Justified, Mr. Robot, and UnReal
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Not sex.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
With people.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have gone on a lot of OKCupid dates
You should message me if
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"Hi Ev! Would you like to take me on a date to your favorite places for tea/coffee/drinks?"

"Ev! Would you like to play board games or just hang out and watch anime/horror movies?"

"I am a fun submissive who would like to get with a confident dominant!"

"Let's enact this really specific kink/fantasy I'm into." (I'm evyankey on Fetlife)

You should certainly message me if you're into dresses, you love opportunities to show them off, or if you're a huge fan of pretty underwear and lingerie.