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29 / M / Straight / Single
New York, NY
- Last Online
- Nov 7, 2013
- 5′ 10″ (1.78m)
- Body Type
- Not at all
- Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
- Taurus, but it doesn’t matter
- Graduated from university
- Relationship Type
- Doesn’t want kids
- Likes dogs and likes cats
Self-Advocacy is a dumb name for something that is actually pretty great. It refers to folks with developmental or cognitive disabilities representing their own interests. This may sound pretty basic, but it is not something that actually happens a lot.
Our organization is one of the largest of its kind in the country. The board of our nonprofit is made up entirely of people with developmental disabilities. They make decisions about our finances, policy, and staff, and they are happily my bosses.
I manage a small office in Manhattan with 4 part time staff and a bunch of volunteers; all people with disabilities except for myself. We are responsible for organizing 50,000 people with developmental disabilities in the 5 boroughs. We do education work, and direct lobbying, but mostly we organize self-advocacy groups which are groups entirely controlled by people with developmental disabilities.
It is my dream job and we get to work on a lot of exciting issues. We are trying to create a space where folks don't just have a voice, but have real power over their own lives.
I am really great at cooking. I'm good at making information accessible to others. I'm good at paperwork and computer stuff. I have a great memory. And I can be charming if I try at it.
I am a horrible manager, I can't do "networking", and I realize that my style of empathy isn't that great for comforting people. I also have an executive function that tends to sort information I receive in ways that lend towards function solutions rather than big picture emotional ones. These are all things that I am working on, but mostly I just get support from lots of wonderful people in my life who are better at these things than I am.
People always ask me if I have an eating disorder, or if I eat enough. I always assure them that I have a great relationship with food. Also, it makes me sad because I really love the way my body looks how it is. I wouldn't starve myself to maintain it, but I like being a scrawny guy with no muscles.
The two book series that make me wanna cry every time I think about them are Sherwood Smith's Inda books and Robin Hobb's Farseer Trilogy.
I also love Lev Grossman, Jim Butcher's Codex Alera (but not the Dresden Files, yuck!), Patrick Rothfuss!!!, Hunger Games, Asimov's Foundation series, Earthsea, Chronicles of Chaos Trilogy, Otherland by Tad Williams, Stephen Donaldson, The Black Company, Kim Stanley Robinson but only the Mars Trilogy, A Fire Upon the Deep and a Deepness in the Sky, Neal Stephenson (but hated Anathem!), The beginning books of The Malazan Tale of the Fallen, Game of Thrones, China Mieville, everything of Brandon Sanderson except The Way of Kings and Alloy of Law, Wheel of Time, His Dark Materials, and William Gibson
As for movies I adore Westerns, but I'll watch most anything. Love going to movies, and NY has been a great place to see nerdy stuff that you're not going to see anywhere else.
Honestly, though, TV drives me more than movies do. I can't get The Shield out of my head. I still cry about Pushing Daisies being cancelled. I have Good Wife fantasies every day. I freak out about Breaking Bad. I want to burn down the ABC Family offices for canceling Huge. Sherlock Holmes and Adventure Time are also recent loves for me.
2. My wallet, which is a really old black leather one that my father gave me when I was twelve.
3. I can't go anywhere without a trashy paperback. I have a pile of used ones in my room that keeps falling over.
4. I keep a few stuffed animals in my bed that I would die without. I can't fall asleep without something to hug. Seriously
5. A panda costume that an old roommate made for me
6. A brass llama figurine that a friend got me in Peru
- Girls who like guys
- Ages 18–67
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, casual sex
2. You would like to play board games or indie pen-and-paper RPGs (and no one ever messages me for this! Seriously, please please please don't be shy).
3. You are a exciting submissive who would like to have rough dirty sex with a confident dominant
For everything but option #2 I love it if a date shows up wearing a dress. Something you love the way you look in. I adore thrift store finds. For option #3 I also love a lady with great taste in underwear or lingerie, something lacy. (exceptions to all of this if you are a punk)
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