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30 Melbourne, Australia Genderfluid


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  • Ages 22-39
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Nov 29
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
6' 0" (1.83m)
Atheism and it’s important
Might want kids
English (Fluently), Dutch (Somewhat), German (Somewhat), Indonesian (Somewhat), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
So, in the process of rewriting this nonsense because, let's be honest here, I was fucking pretentious as all hell when I last wrote this damn bio. I mean I'm still pretentious, but in a totally different way.

So, the basics.

I am queer as fuck, being bisexual, genderqueer and a relationship anarchist..

I am a feminist.
I swing so far to the left in my politics that I have been called a pinko commie leftist scumbag. And I am proud of that.
I spend a lot of time recognising my various privileges (most specifically, the fact that I am white, and male-appearing, and got to grow up male).
I am one of those terrible "Social Justice Warriors" and if you use that term as an insult, don't even bother messaging me. We won't get along particularly well.
I care a lot about a whole bunch of stuff.

I am a musician (mainly I am a guitarist, but I play violin, viola, french horn, and piano.). I am a poet. I am reasonably good at both. I have been an actor, a waiter, an IT consultant, a bartender, a stage manager, a director and a writer. I have worked a lot of ridiculous jobs, and none of them have left me any good stories, much to my despair.

I like to dance until I can no longer walk, and do not even give a single care that I may or may not look ridiculous.

I work hard, and play harder. Actually, this is a lie. I work an awful lot and don't play much at all anymore, but I'd like to.

Among other demands on my time, I am currently studying music production and songwriting in a formal capacity, thus developing a professional vocabulary for things I was already doing and didn't realise at the time.

I am both incredibly self-concious, and overbearingly egotistical, frequently at the same time.

If offered Achilles' choice of glory or long life, I will always choose glory.

I will not be content.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Currently, I'm playing guitar in a duet/trio called Textbook Heartbreak. We're doing the odd gig here and there. We are not hipsters, nor are we emo. We just claim we're ironic. And it's possible that we are.

I work too freaking much, this is an unfortunate side effect of having to pay bills. I do not like paying bills.

Mostly, it's music. Music is my biggest passion. I'm even studying it and thus am probably a ridiculous nerd, because I'm reading textbooks for "fun", and by fun, I don't actually mean fun. Fun is something you have when you're not studying for your future job. Not to say I don't enjoy all this, because I kinda do. I like knowing things.

I'm occasionally freelancing as a producer's assistant/dogsbody for various theatre gigs, as well as planning out a show for Melbourne Fringe, with the idea that I'll take it to Adelaide if it goes well.

I'm writing a comic. I've been doing this for 4 years. I need to find a better system than "mad flurry of inspiration" followed by ignoring it for 6 months, followed by "rewrite EVERYTHING. CLEAN ALL THE THINGS"

I am not a tortured artist, but I probably should be. It'd result in a better quality of work.

So my big aim is to make money through music. Don't care if its as a performer, or a songwriter, or as a session musician.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
False modesty.

I'm good at listening. That's a given. And I don't mean sitting there and idly nodding and pretending I care. I mean actually listening to what the hell you have to say.

I'm pretty good at a whole lot of things, but I wouldn't claim to be really good, yet. I'm working on it. I'll get there one of these years.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My smile. My eyes. The fact that I am an egotistical, insufferable prat.

I also have a nice ass.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
A. The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy
B. Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas, the Third Man
C. I watch a lot of shows, most of them have been awful or trashy and I have abandoned them soon after. Any TV show James Spader is in is likely to keep my attention though.
D. Music. Don't talk to me about music. I will possibly talk your ear off.
E. Vietnamese, Italian, anything really that isn't filled with nuts.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My guitars, my music, my books, my friends, my computer, and my piano
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Love, philosophy, faith, other people's problems
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Playing guitar, drinking, finding some way to entertain myself
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Genderqueer, Bisexual, Polyamorous. Did you not read the self summary? I'm fairly open about who I am and what I do.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
I've managed to entertain you. Or if you're bored. Or if you want to.