I am rationally romantic, subtly comedic, and amusedly idealistic.
My Self-Summary
I believe reality is subjective and personal values are inherently
arbitrary (albeit heavily biased by natural selection). 'Nothing
matters' makes for a lousy working hypothesis, however, so I've
chosen to arbitrarily value happiness. In other words, my primary
goal in life is to be happy. (Near as I can tell, there's no prize
at the end for not being happy, so it wasn't a tough choice.) The
big question then becomes how to achieve that goal. For me the best
strategy seems to be doing what I enjoy and using it to be a
decent, helpful person along the way, preferably with the company
of enthusiastic, like-minded partners.
I love
learning,
particularly in conjunction with teaching or, better yet,
collaboration. Learning and thinking are like a drug for me, so the
process is no doubt tied to at least one pleasure center in my
brain somewhere. Consequently, being the addict that I am, much of
my enjoyment in life revolves around intellectual and physical
challenge. (I've
often been told my idea of fun looks like a lot of work.) While my
brain goes for
science techy
math stuff, with occasional jaunts into
history or
semi-artistic pursuits for variety, my big recreational interest is
ultralight
hiking
and
backpacking, particularly in fall
and
winter. (I like
autumn because it's
a great time to be outside. I like winter for its unique beauty,
lack of bugs and mud, and generally greater challenge.)
Running,
bicycling,
swimming,
kayaking,
skiing,
snowshoeing,
climbing, and
shooting also keep me seasonally
occupied. When an expedition isn't practical, I'll
walk around the block just to get
outside and move around. I prefer to do all of these things with
good company. Conversationally, if I have nothing notable to say, I
can be a poster boy for 'brevity is the soul of wit'; but if I get
going, I can be hard to shut up. My closest friendships form via
shared adversity rather than smalltalk, so
cooking dinner with someone usually
appeals to me more than sitting in a restaurant.
What I’m doing with my life
True story: I once was a bored engineer working for a big pharma
company. To alleviate my boredom, I began teaching myself advanced
physics on the
side. Later, when my job was set to evaporate at the end of a year
following a merger, I made two decisions. First, being unemployed
in the winter was a perfect opportunity to teach myself to downhill
ski. Second, getting a PhD sounded better than another ordinary
engineering job. Now, years later, I'm paid to improve a little
patch of the world thinking about esoteric geeky things all day
long, and my telemark skiing is still improving. (I chose telemark,
aka freeheel, because alpine would be too easy.) Being in research,
I often have no clue what I'm doing; and I have more interests than
time to be good at them all; but that's probably just how I like
it. Prior to all of that, I was a high school science teacher,
which allowed me to satisfy my occasional penchant for public
performance, but that's another story.
I’m really good at
wondering.
The first things people usually notice about me
probably never get mentioned.
My favorite books, movies, music, and food
books: quite a lot of fantasy fiction... Jim Butcher's Dresden
novels are a current favorite. I liked the Twilight series -- love,
passion, violence -- something for everyone... too bad about the
movie.
food: now that depends on the purpose -- If I'm just feeding
myself, then I'm concerned primarily about health and not wasting
time cooking and cleaning. In that case venison chili is a top
choice because it's not fatty, includes vegetables, and I can cook
and freeze enough for about 30 meals. If I'm eating with someone
else (read that 'someone special'), then the food is probably
secondary to me. If I'm backpacking, .... well if you want to know
about backpacking, just ask.
The six things I could never do without
* purpose
* hope
* humor
* three things I don't know I can't live without
I spend a lot of time thinking about
whatever crosses my mind.
On a typical Friday night I am
probably working, visiting, or traveling.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit here
I sometimes wonder what the narrator of my inner monologue is
thinking.
You should message me if
you're still reading. :-)
As are most folks, I'm drawn to people who are warm, friendly,
intelligent, affectionate, confident, competent, playful, honest,
et cetera. Appreciation of long walks and obscure metaphors is a
plus. My body and mind both require frequent exercise to keep them
happy, so it's a safe bet that any long-term companion will
similarly enjoy both mental and physical activity. I'm open to
suggestions when it comes to potentially endearing quirks. By the
end of my 20’s, I decided that value in my life came primarily from
my interactions with others. A rainbow shared became infinitely
more beautiful than one that was not. With that in mind, in the
short term I'm looking for adventurous company and stimulating
conversation. Long term, I’m looking for more of the same, plus
trust and understanding.