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43 Austin, TX Man


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  • Ages 23–43
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5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
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Leo, and it’s fun to think about
Dropped out of university
Art / Music / Writing
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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I am usually the most interesting person in the room.

I am also the most humble person in the world.
No one is more humble than me, no one. ;^]

Even tho I joke about ego sometimes (I am a Leo), I am actually really humble. I'm grateful for everything. I take nothing for granted. Even on my worst days, I find things to be thankful for.

I'm proud of my wins, successes, and achievements. When I do fail, I don't fail in the same way twice. With a few different turns, my life would be vastly different. You can be a victim of circumstance or the victor over circumstance. Whatever is in my path, is my path.

It's been a wild ride so far professionally. I have worked in television news as a video journalist. I've freelanced for Dateline NBC. I've worked in the sports department at tv stations where I did everything but appear on screen, from shooting highlights to writing copy to producing segments. I've worked in the news department of a country music radio station as a reporter (never quite fit in there). I took what I learned in the tv news biz and applied it to owning and operating an online bicycle magazine. I was a professional sports mascot for one night. I have done a lot of video work for second-tier professional sports teams in football, baseball and basketball. I've got photo credits in a magazine from the United Kingdom. I've had work featured in a German magazine. I've shared stages and opened up for national level music acts as a DJ. I am an accomplished performance poet. I've acted in a few films. I've had cameos in a few music videos. I've performed spoken word sets at music shows. In fact, I've opened for Wu-Tang guys both as a spoken word artist and nine months later as a DJ. I've been quoted in magazines. Interviews with me been published. I've been interviewed on podcasts. Been quoted in a print magazine ads. I've got a nice lil stack of print coverage over the years. I've played SXSW as an official showcasing act in 2010 and 2011. March 2012 I played one of my dream gigs at one of the highest profile events during SXSW (after having received a lifetime ban from said event). I went on my first tour in August 2012, gigging around Colorado for a couple weeks. Last two years at SXSW I shot interviews for the guy Buzzfeed and Salon call the best interviewer in music. The interviews I shot for him have a combined million.5 YouTube views. I am probably the happiest guy ever in an industrial synth band. I am the DJ for a film-centric talkshow that will be coming to a television near you soon. I'm taking what I learned about interviewing working in news, what I learned from getting thought provoking interviews from action sports athletes, what I've learned from shooting interviews for Nardwuar, what I've learned from being interviewed as talent, and applying all that to launching my own podcast just before SXSW 2015.

I've got some BIG things in the works.

You ever feel like the Universe/God/Life is preparing you for something?

I didn't live thru nightmares to sleep thru dreams.
I've been through some horrible tragedies in my life and suffered great losses. What got me through it is being unflinchingly optimistic.

I am neither a 'glass half full' or 'glass half empty' type of guy. I'm am grateful I have a glass and I'll fill it up my damn myself.

When hard work isn't enough, luck usually intercedes.

So, yeah, usually I'm the most interesting man in the room. I'm not quite the guy from the Dos Equis commercials (yet), but I am the heir apparent for that role.

I set highly improbable & slightly impossible goals, and find ways to make them happen. Then I go after more highly improbable & slightly more impossible goals.

Life has been one hell of a ride so far.
I've got stories of trial and triumphs.
I've got stories for days.
Some of the best stories are happening now.

I believe my best days are ahead of me.

I believe in treating people like people. I don't care if the person is homeless or famous. You find the humanity in the person. Then you speak and interact with that.

I believe in being genuine in all aspects of life. I think most of my successes have come from being genuine. Why change now?

When I feared heights, I bungee-jumped from 150ft. Little did I know that event would be become a physical metaphor of how I handle fear, problems, and adversity.

I haven't always been the person I'm now. There was a time I didn't like how I was living. Micro-changes and nudges alter trajectories. After years of every day trying to do just a little better than the day before it, I live a better life than I could have imagined.

I may not be rich, or ever be rich, but the things I've done, seen, experienced, I doubt a billionaire could duplicate. I get to live an amazing life.

You can't shine without friction.

When the world gives me sh!t, I plant roses.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Workout. Work. Create. Play. Write. Wash. Rinse. Repeat.

Working harder and smarter on the business side of my creative endeavors and seeing results.

I may not be making it grandly, but I'm making it.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
...playing the right song at the right time.
...being in the right place at the right time.
...having a good eye/ear for what's 'next'.
...willing things into existence.
...lifting heavy things.
...making the kitty purrr (obligatory semi-overt sexual reference).
...seeing the best in people.
...being the human radar detector.
...defying odds. signature peptalks (recycling what I've told myself before).
...rising to the occasion.
...dragon slaying.
...shooting photos (I wouldn't call myself a photographer, but I can get great photos from any camera, from $5 disposable cameras to camera phones to full-on rigs.).
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Swagger. Confidence. Charisma. Magnetism. Presence. Joie de vivre. Cocksure-itude. Je ne sais quoi.

I'm BIG.
I'm a BEAST.
Heart of a lion.
Strength of a gorilla.
Build of a bear.
There's two types of overweight guys, guys who are f-¢king chumps and guys who are f-¢king awesome. The former are whiny self-pitying complaining sad-sacks. Doesn't matter what size you are, that's not attractive in anybody. The latter is the opposite of that. The latter are magnetic. I tend to be the latter. It makes more sense when you're around me.
Nothing about me is average. Once you see it, you see it. If you get it, you get it.
I'm a BEAST in search of his BEAUTY (because I still believe in great stories).
We all have our preferences, but I've noticed those who totally preclude interest in a partner for being too whatever (fat, skinny, tall, short, etc..) usually have something they are really self-concious about in themselves.

I am surprisingly photogenic. Go look at my pictures and see for yourself, I'll wait here til you get back.

My shaved head. I have a magnificent bald head.
I was cast in an Armenian mafia film. Before shooting I was told my character didn't have my blond spikes, so I decided to cut it down and then shaved it. I've kept it shaved since then.

My laugh. I laugh a lot. I am the Laughing Buddha. My laugh has been called infectious. Generally if I'm laughing, other people will be laughing too.

I don't "act my age" very well, though I'm not immature.
I was with my ex-wife for eight years. After that ended, I decided to reclaim those years, take 'em back. A mulligan. A do-over. So that makes me like early to mid 30's right now. Barton Springs IS the Fountain of Youth.
I suppose I'm one of those "bearded Peter Pans in Austin" that Travel+Leisure recently wrote about. I still get excited about life. Music is still important to me. Riding my bicycle makes me happy. Creating something that didn't exist before and seeing it affect someone is thrilling to me. I believe love is the answer. I still believe I can impact this world. I don't feel much different than I did in my thirties and twenties with the exception of accumulating the wisdom that revolving about the sun this many times can bring you.
People never guess my age correctly. I laugh when people younger than me assume they are older than me.

I don't blend in very well. I am unforgettable. It's a gift and a curse.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Back in Louisiana, where I grew up , there was this pimp who after finding Jesus got out of the pimpin' game. He grew several legit businesses but every Sunday afternoon he was on the radio. His radio show was all Blues, 70's Soul, Rhythm & Blues and Funk. Over the years I got a musical education every Sunday. It's been years, but a lot of that music is still the soundtrack of my Sunday afternoons.
Hip Hop is the Rock & Roll of our generation. I literally grew up with it. Old School, Middle School, Golden Era to New School. How does anyone under forty not have at least some rap songs they like? I could teach a college level poetry class on Biggie lyrics. Hip Hop made me want to be a DJ. Becoming a DJ made want to discover and explore music of other genres. Being a DJ has given me some of the best times of my life. As a DJ, I love introducing people to their new favorite song. I like seeing people just lose it when they hear a song they haven't heard since they were young. I love getting crowds to sing to me.
Louisiana music (in all its forms) is a part of me. Jazz, Cajun, Zydeco, Brass Bands, Swamp Pop, NOLA Bounce, Ratchet Rap from Shreveport & Baton Rouge, and more are all encoded in my musical DNA. I didn't realize how much my culture was a part of me until I got away from it.
I'm digging a lot of the synthy indie stuff lately. It really scratches an itch for me.
I have a weakness for 80's/90's R&B and New Jack Swing.
When asked what my favorite type of music is, I usually answer 'good'. I don't care about genre. If it connects, it connects. Does it move me? Does it make me wanna move? Music is like food to me. Some days I want a good meaty steak. There are days that I only want to listen to musical veggies, stuff that's good for you. Other days some poppy sweets with empty musical calories. I don't eat the same thing every day, I don't listen to the same music every day.
I could talk music all day. One of my favorite things about SXSW is for a week, almost all my conversations are about music.

There is no specific genre of books that I am into. The books I read serendipitously find their way to me.
I had never heard of Daniel Quinn's Ishmael til three people told me about the book in the same day.
Man's Search for Meaning by Victor Frankl was a game changer for me.
There is a lot of wisdom in The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran.
I like Phillip K Dick. It amazes me how accurate his vision of the future was.
I just finished reading Questlove's Mo' Meta Blues. "When you live your life through records, the records are a record of your life.” His story of rollerskating with Prince is worth the price of the book alone.
I really related to Love is a Mixtape by Rob Sheffield. The book is about the author suddenly being thrust into being a young widower. I've got a very similar story.
Recently read Marc Ecko's 'Unlabel: Selling You Without Selling Out'. It's a marketing book from an artist's perspective. Should be a textbook for any creative types.
Recently read David and Goliath and then Blink by Malcolm Gladwell.
Currently reading the long awkwardly titled Brothas Be, Yo Like George, Ain't That Funkin' Kinda Hard on You? A Memoir by George Clinton. George Clinton is my Spirit Animal. It's been a great read so far.

I don't watch as many films as I did. I blame great hour long tv dramas like The Sopranos, Breaking Bad, Dexter, etc...
I like all the Phillip K Dick film adaptations.
I think Richard Linklater makes some of his movies specifically for me.
I doubt the Alamo Drafthouse will ever let me into another screening of Purple Rain.
In the right frame of mind I like Pixar (& Pixarish) movies. I think it's genius how most of them work on a kid and an adult level.
My pops and I weren't the toss the football around father and son. Our bond was Bond, James Bond. He passed a few years ago. When I miss my pops I'll watch a 007 movie.

TV, I can take it or leave it. There are some great television shows. There are some horrible shows also. I watch the good stuff and do other things over the bad stuff.
During football season I am in front of tv for Saints games and LSU games. Football is more than football.

I eat a lot healthier than I use to. I'm always looking for ways to eat 1% better than yesterday.
It's taken me awhile to break my Southern palate. I do indulge a little when I go back home to Louisiana. Po-boy's, jambalaya, catfish, gator, oysters, boudin, etc...
If loving tacos is wrong, I don't wanna be right. If you want authentic, go to San Antonio. You want orange cheese TexMex, go to Dallas. What we do here is what I call ATX-Mex. A friend calls it Stoner-Mex.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
-Good workout- 'Get fit or die trying' is the workout mantra. I started working out to get healthier and drop some pounds, but I wasn't expecting the impact it's had in my life beyond that. It's as much mental as it is physical. Dare I say spiritual too, because at times the gym has felt like church. The bench has been my pew. During the darkest time of my life, I found relief at the gym and now I'm stronger than I've ever been. I have literally transformed pain into strength. Finally found the right mix of weight/cardio/diet for me and dropped 150 lbs in the last year and a half. I'm usually at the gym every other day, and cardio in between. I never thought I'd be so into working out, but fav thing is riding my...

-bicycle- I grew up on bmx, had a job in the bmx industry for nearly a decade. In the last year I got rid of old street/skatepark bike. Injuries. Last year I got my first "adult bike". I've got a single speed road bike now. One or two days a week, my car stays parked all day and I pedal. Nothing beats riding around listening to....

-music- It is like food, air and sunshine, I couldn't live without it. Music has made the good times better and made the bad times bearable. Sometimes music is a drug, but there are times music is medicine. Hearing the right song at the right time can change your day. The world is my music video when I'm listening to my...

-ipod- I swear my soul is on that thing. I love that I can have thousands of songs with me at all times. I love being able find the perfect song for almost every moment. That helps when I'm behind my...

-my DJ Gear- I am a DJ. I've had amazing times doing amazing things with amazing people behind my turntables and mixer.

...and the most important...
-my Integrity- I have to be able to look at myself in the mirror. I hold myself to high expectations.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
-What can I do 1% better than I did yesterday?

-I usually have lots of irons in a lot of fires. I think about how I can move projects forward. I think I was bored once when I was seven years old.

-Being thankful. Big things. Small things. Opportunities. Family. Friends. Etc...

-Being in awe of the talents of my friends. I've surrounded myself with incredible people who inspire me to do better, work harder and strive to live up to my full potential. With friends like mine, peer pressure is usually a good thing.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Some Fridays I'm Superman, other Fridays I'm Clark Kent.

Some Fridays I'm binge watching Netflix, adventuring on my bicycle, at the gym, or writing. Other Fridays I'm on stage somewhere, at shows that friends are playing, or finding myself at the right place at the right time.

I find joy in it all, in both the big moments and the small.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Until VH1 takes interest in my love life and adds the words '...of Love' after my name, I figure I might as well give this a chance.

I'm seriously a late adopter as far as online dating. This whole online dating thing baffles me. I'm not even sure it's for me. I've heard horror stories about how people misrepresent themselves on this site. I don't get that. Why do people do that? Do you. Be you. Someone out there is smellin' what you're cookin'. Don't fake your funk.

I rarely make first contact here on OKC. In the rare occasion I do reach out and make first contact, I have picked up on something about you that piqued my interest.
It's 2015 and I think it's kinda sexy when a woman goes for what she wants (*especially when it's me). With the nature of online dating, OKC turns meeting new people into shopping. Men hunt, women shop. This plays to your strengths.

If a picture is worth a thousand words, then I guess I could have just posted a picture and a half. I'm a writer. I'm a 'words guy'.

This is just the tip (of the tip) of the iceberg, but it serves as a decent outline of who I am.

...and yes, THIS IS WHO I AM. I'm a little larger than life. I'm a lil' over the top at times. I'm Jazz, I'm not for everybody and I'm a bit of an acquired taste. I'm not subtle flavor, I'm bold flavor. I'm wired a little differently. I'm a dreamer and an achiever. I'm both an alpha-male and an artist. I take what I do seriously, but don't take myself too seriously. I might be the luckiest man alive. I'm blessed.

Sex is like ice cream, with love it's a sundae. While I do enjoy a good dish, I'm looking for something really decadent and satisfying. Ice cream may satiate an occasional sweet tooth, but a good sundae is made FOR you.

I'm really good at reading people except when it comes to romance, then I am the King of Oblivion. I have a tendency to overlook the obvious at times, often comically obliviousness according to friends. I'm horrible at detecting interest. 'Signals' and 'subtleties' often don't blip on my radar.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over. are still reading my profile. I've held your interest this far. You've invested some serious time if you're still reading this. I'm the Dostoyevsky of OKC. got any questions about anything on this profile (there's your icebreaker). are both 'interesting' and 'interested'. have superpower(s)? (show me yours, I'll show you mine) can date an artist. I've learned that it's not for everyone. It's not for the insecure. have less than four cats. (craziness grows exponentially with every cat over the third.) have healthy self-esteem. We all have our days, but if that's your everyday, we won't likely be a good fit. think we are, or could be, a good match. are more of a participant in life, rather than a spectator.'d like to call me Big Poppa. can clap on the two and the four. got a great SXSW story (or seven). have exquisite taste in men. (if you are interested and are messaging me, then I know you have excellent taste in men.