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45 F New York, NY

I’m looking for

  • Straight men only
  • Ages 35–50
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Oct 8
5′ 3″ (1.61m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Libra, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), Chinese (Fluently), French (Okay)

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My self-summary
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Native New Yorker from a big family, friendly, independent, fast walker, love beaches, cookies, and a good conversation. That sums it up.

I do yoga to stay fit, and I eat healthy. As much as I am tempted by junk food, I almost never buy any. I love all vegetables. I once volunteered in a community garden for a year, and was a member in community supported agriculture. The produce actually smelled and looked real. I am definitely happier in nature. Parks, waterfronts, open fields, forests...wherever the birds are singing is where I prefer to be.

I think life is lived best when each week is slightly different from the last. But, I don't have the crazed "fear of missing out" frenzy that keeps so many people new to NYC from being able to focus on one thing at a time. I can focus pretty well as long as I put away the gadgets. I still like to turn pages of a good book, and write in a notebook. Works for me.

I get along well with people who are optimistic, sociable, kind and decent overall. There are good people doing good things everywhere. Experience is the best teacher; for me, no road to success has ever been straight. Sometimes the longer route and the process alone can leave me feeling more satisfied. I am stopping to enjoy the moment now more than ever before. I dislike a hurried lifestyle, and schedule less just to sit still. The simplest pleasures are right in front of us. I smile at random people. Children and animals especially respond well to me. it's a rare thing in a big city, and a nice way to connect, even if for a moment.

I'm told that I can be a perfectionist, which I'm trying to change. It's getting easier. Nothing is ever perfect. Everything is a work in progress. I am looking forward to autumn, and feeling pretty content nowadays. I have found balance between work and play lately, which feels great. I just wish time would slow down a little. Life is too short.
What I’m doing with my life
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Staying optimistic.
I’m really good at
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Thinking things through.
The first things people usually notice about me
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That I don't look my age.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Howard Zinn (A People's History of the United States), William Blum (Killing Hope), James Loewen (Lies My Teachers Told Me), Richard Wright (Native Son), Langston Hughes' poetry,
Naomi Klein, Richard Dawkins..and more. I'll read anything that holds my attention.

Movies...Good Will Hunting, Crouching Tiger Hidden Dragon (anything by Zhang Yi Mou), Airplane!, In the Pursuit of Happyness, Before Sunrise, Hoop Dreams, Motorcycle Diaries, The Wizard of Oz, How Green Was My Valley, the Life of Brian. No scary movies. Not into Tarantino or the Godfather. (Too much senseless violence). Food and music..ask me, and I'll tell you more. .
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My folks, a book, post-its, a nap, coffee in the morning, a sense of purpose.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The pervasiveness of plastics, and how it's slowly making us sick; that Manhattan is only 5 feet above sea level; what are all those chemicals in our food; when they're going to make a superhero movie starring Wonder Woman; how much people overdo it with alcohol (aggression, alcohol as self-medication); how religion misleads millions of people; what to cook next.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Freshening up and heading out.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I don't know how to play Candy Crush, or any other games.
You should message me if
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You''re a quality guy wanting something long term. You're always a gentleman who doesn't mind not exchanging personal information until after we meet.