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44 F New York, NY

I’m looking for

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  • Ages 35–50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Today – 4:07am
5′ 3″ (1.61m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Libra, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), Chinese (Fluently), French (Okay)

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My self-summary
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Native New Yorker. Good friend. Reliable daughter. Middle sister. Hard worker. Friendly neighbor. That sums it up.

Experience is the best teacher; for me, no road to success has ever been straight. Sometimes the longer route and the process alone can leave me feeling more satisfied. I am stopping to enjoy the moment now more than ever before. I dislike a hurried lifestyle, and schedule less just to sit still. The simplest pleasures are right in front of us. If we'd only notice. I smile at random people; children and animals especially respond well to me. They often smile back! it's a rare thing in a big city, and a nice way to connect even if for a moment.

I do yoga to stay fit, and I eat healthy. As much as I am tempted by junk food, my body doesn't like it. I am definitely happier in nature. Central Park, waterfronts, open fields, forests...wherever the birds are singing. I just wish I would have more time to get to those places

I think life is lived best when each week is different from the last. I don't have the crazed "fear of missing out" frenzy that keeps so many people new to NYC from being able to focus on one thing at a time. Sometimes little things can be equally entertaining and too easily overlooked.

I get along well with people who are a little like me, optimistic, sociable, kind and selfless (rumors of the rarity of decency have been greatly exaggerated! And no, my behavior is not motivated by a fear of a higher being, or bad karma.). Even in New York where people are perceived to be very rude, I see random acts of kindness every day. It's easier to smile than frown. As hard as it is to deal with personal troubles, a calm and thoughtful aproach to any challenging situation works better than just about anything else, it seems.. I'm an evolving human being, flourishing with each new experience. Always working on growing personally so that life is richly lived, not passively lived. I also love a good laugh, and will gladly accept movie or book recommendations.

I'm open to meeting up in person and going with the flow. I do like to take things slow, there's no hurry for me. I wish you the best!
What I’m doing with my life
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Working with small children.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Being a friend, listening, doing my research before I take on anything major.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
How I don't look my age.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Howard Zinn (A People's History of the United States), William Blum (Killing Hope), James Loewen (Lies My Teachers Told Me), Richard Wright (Native Son), Langston Hughes' poetry,
Naomi Klein, Richard Dawkins..and more. I'll read anything that holds my attention.

Music...Alicia Keys, Adele, Louis Armstrong, Billie Holiday, Sarah Vaughn, Dinah Washington, Kings of Leon, Neon Trees, Mumford and Sons (my current favorite), Stevie Wonder, the Luminieres the Church, Gypsy Kings, Nina Simone, jazz greats like Dizzie Gillespie and Coltrane, Blondie, Joan Jett, It's all appealing. Anything with a good beat. I listen to the radio, WFUV (mostly), WBAI (sometimes), and only rarely, NPR, just for local news.

Food...French, sushi, Sri lankan, Thai, Malaysian, Vietnamese, food trucks, and good pizza. I tend to like strong flavors such as basil, arugula, cilantro. rosemary, thyme, garlic, paprika, curries, anis, anchovies, and anything you can introduce me to I'll try.

Movies...Good Will Hunting, Crouching Tiger Hidden Dragon (anything by Zhang Yi Mou), Airplane!, In the Pursuit of Happyness, Before Sunrise, Hoop Dreams, Motorcycle Diaries, The Wizard of Oz, How Green Was My Valley, the Life of Brian. No scary movies. Not into Tarantino or the Godfather. (Too much senseless violence), the Bicycle Thief, old French movies, and old 80's movies.

I don't watch TV. Jon Stewart sometimes on YouTube.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My friends, my folks, a book, a nap, coffee in the morning, a sense of purpose.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The pervasiveness of plastics, and how it's slowly making us sick; what to eat next; when they're going to make a superhero movie starring Wonder Woman; when they'll make the entire subway system a WiFi zone; whether that homeless man sleeping on the subway will let someone help him get his life back; why people insist on standing their ground at the doorway during rush hour; when I'll someday live on a boat and sail the world.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
thinking how glad I am it's Friday.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I can see my neighbor across the way. I don't mean to be a peeping Thomasina. But she has no curtains! (Minds out of the gutter...she's in her late 80's). Whatever she's cooking looks good. And, yes, fellas, I finally saw Rear Window. Thanks for the suggestions!

Update: I moved to the west side and can't see my elderly neighbor at all anymore. I now have a view of southern Manhattan, which isn't bad at all!
You should message me if
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You put yourself out there and don't mind being a little out in the open like the rest of us. You're not looking to just hook up, you actually want a connection. You have a big heart, you''re a gentleman, and you take care of yourself. If you smell amazing and give long hugs, write quickly.and, if you don't mind meeting first before exchanging personal information, that would be nice.