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failed-optimist

37 Sunnyside, NY Man

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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 18–60
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends

My Details

Last Online
Dec 7
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Overweight
Diet
Smokes
Yes
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Scorpio, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Working on Ph.D program
Job
Education
Income
$20,000–$30,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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I am a sometimes charming, sometimes pedantic, often courteous, regularly sarcastic, geeky man. I am mature and responsible about important things but I really like to be childish about things like blowing bubbles, playing, and reading comic books occasionally.

I watch too much TV, read too many books of all sorts and have many friends who wonder why they don't see me more often. I occasionally interrupt reading to enjoy playing most games but play poorly, or to see live music but most of the places I used to go in NYC for shows have closed while I wasn't looking and I've been to busy to explore lately.

I am finishing my dissertation, or at least lingering and trying to finish it. I'm going to be an academic, or I already am an academic, or I was always already an intellectual and now I'm getting certified. I really like ideas, and learning new things from people and books.

I really like people but I can often sound pessimistic or critical. I like to help people, I like to whittle, I enjoy doodling, I fear the future but am usually making careful plans for it. I am not materialistic but keep old letters and keepsakes because I value them.

I do not agree with OK Cupid that I am more competitive or Indie than average, and I am certain that I am not more spontaneous than average, but it is correct that I am lazier and more politically progressive then average.

I suppose I'm just another guy, but OK Cupid says I'm compassionate, giving, and independent, and I'd agree and say it's a fairly good combination.

I am clearly not concise.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I feel perpetually in my final year completing my PhD, wishing I could freak out and run away to raise goats in the mountains, I won't though, mostly because I know almost nothing about taking care of goats.

I'm deciding where and what and how to live life after grad school, and am open to suggestions.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I am really good at knowing a little bit about everything, go ahead and ask me. I am really good at explaining complex ideas in a way that makes them clear while also horrifyingly lacking in all the complexity that I and my fellow academics love, therefore teaching.

I am also good at cooking a pleasant meal, sympathy and advice, sitting and chatting outside on a nice day, watching movies and not commenting or talking until it is over.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm really not sure, you'd need to ask them. If i was to guess I'd say that people notice I smoke, that i wear more black than other colors (less monochromatic than I used to be), and that I am loud in argument.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I have trouble picking favorites in general but I'll list a few things I love

Books written by John Steinbeck, Neil Gaiman, and Christopher Moore lately. Always: Salinger, Vonegut, King, Tolkien, Heinlein, Huxley, Foucault. And anything cheesy and fantasy as a break from academic books.

I'll watch anything really, but I'll mention movies with swords in them, with dirty jokes in them, or with quirky underdogs winning the day, also 'The Fifth Element', 'Pump up the volume' and 'the last unicorn'. Shows I watch regularly are generally comedies, science fiction or repetitive police shows where criminals are always caught in the end.

Lately I've been listening mostly to old Jazz and blues as well as some contemporary root/folk inspired music, but I like anything really. A few artists I like in no particular order: Louis Armstrong, Pine Top Perkins, Dexter Gordon, Fleet Foxes, Decembrists, Neko Case, Metalica, Aerosmith, Dead can Dance, The Pogues, Tom Waits, Nick cave, Leonard Cohen, Nina Simone, Paolo Conte, Billie Holliday, System of a down, NIN, AC/DC, Metallica, Leonard Cohen, Tom Waits,

Foods - Fresh Cherries are probably my favorite food, and I really love fruit in general. Yay for breakfast sandwiches involving Eggs Cheese and Meat. Also: Spinach Salad, Bad New York Style Pizza, Good Bagels, Thai Summer rolls, Spicy Tamales de Rajas sold on the street by a little old lady near my house, Braised lamb with tomato compote, most varieties of kebab, twizzler, home made cookies, and basically any cheese.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1 Books or some printed matter to read
2 Consumables including frequent cigarettes
3 At least occasional tasty treats
4 The company of interesting people
5 Ideas, new and old, to play with
6 Moments of accomplishment, utility, participation, silliness, and excitement
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I spend most of my time thinking about work ... or my family stuff going on with my brothers and mother.

I also think a fair amount about the fact that girls are pretty, television needs to be written smarter, and prioritization on unfulfilled to do lists.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I lately find myself tired at the end of the week and have been choosing a night in, an enjoyable bad movie, maybe cooking something excessive for myself for dinner, and lounging around in pajamas. Occasionally while lounging I miss when I'd be out partying, one of these days I'll go back to being out partying occasionally.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I worry a lot.
I can be shy around girls, and talk about sex makes me blush some times.
Anything else I'd have to be asked rather than offering here to the internet generally.
You should message me if
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Cup of coffee and conversation sounds pleasant? I enjoy going out and meeting people perhaps you like that also?