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Hi, hello, greetings! I'm a sex-positive community member and all
around sex-geek. I am currently devoted to building my private
practice devoted to counseling for LGBT/Kinky/Poly people and
families. I devote much of my time to personal growth, community
building, and social media. When I'm in tip-top shape I like to
think of myself as an intellectual, as I enjoy in-depth discussions
and art/media with real meaning. But sometimes I need to melt into
my body, out of my mind, and the best way to do that is sensual
intimacy with someone I care for and trust.
I am genderfluid, pansexual, polyamorous, and kinky.
I am ambitious, quirky, and sensual.
I am currently dating 2 people, including GeekyQueerBear plus
another who's not on OkCupid. My plate is currently full but I'm
always open to meeting new friends and members of my community. I
have discovered that I am a social creature and without regular
social contact I lose my will to thrive. If you're interested in a
mutually supportive relationship of any kind, please take the time
to message me.
If you intend to contact me, please read my entire profile before
sending a message.
What I’m doing with my life
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Currently setting up all the requirements to practice as an LAPC in
GA and running my own virtual assistance business; leaving little
time to play idly. I devote quite a lot of my free time to local
munches, meetups, and other community building events in the
polyamory and kink communities.
I am currently working on changing my worldview and my perceptions
of social relationships. I am trying to be conscious of the pain
and mistrust that I have learned. I am also trying to surround
myself with sincere, loving people.
I’m really good at
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I've been told I'm a pretty good cook. I'm definitely enthusiastic,
sometimes overly so. Unfortunately I rarely have the time to cook
unless I make it a special occasion.
I like to think of myself as pretty talented with the sensual side
of human behavior, especially snuggling.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My unusual but highly complementary haircut or my well-manicured
nails. I have a serious addiction to nail polish and enjoy
expressing my creativity through nail art.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Not much of a movie or TV watcher, but when I do I like to veg out
to action flicks, or learn a thing or two (how-to's). I generally
like to be more interactive with my entertainment. That being said
I'm obsessed with The Big Bang Theory, Grimm, and Game of Thrones.
Geeks and nerds are hot.
A new musical obsession is Walk Off The Earth. I like most music,
except anything extreme. Very little metal, very little country,
very little rap. Definitely like "girly" rock, folk rock, and so
on. Artists I can actually think of include Jonathan Coulton, The
Pillows, Liz Phair, KT Tunstall, Pink, Lady Gaga, Prodigy, Ben
Harper, Jason Mraz.
I prefer ethnic foods for the most part. I enjoy cooking and trying
foods and flavors that I haven't tried before. I believe there's a
special connection shared between people when they cook and eat
together. It's one way I show my love for someone.
My reading material is usually along the non-fiction line. I have
an insatiable thirst for new knowledge of all kinds. Generally I
gravitate toward "How-to" material rather than history/facts.
Nowadays I mostly read blogs for pleasure/work and books about
therapy. The topics I prefer include beauty, sexuality, feminism,
and web comics.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Honesty. This is an absolute deal breaker for me. I need anybody I
associate with on any level to value and insist on full honesty
with everyone involved. Lying and deceit does no one any good and I
will not tolerate it at any level.
Love from my family, friends, and romantic partners. I've become
quite the extrovert in recent years and I truly thrive on the
connections with my loved ones. Without love in my life I get tired
My two cats. Definitely don't know what I'd do without my furry
I am of the internet generation - I wouldn't survive very long
without a high speed internet connection (and either my android
powered smart phone or Macbook).
A clean, quiet place to think. In order to make important life
decisions and reconnect with myself, I need a tidy and quiet place
to meditate regularly. Without this I get mighty moody, and nobody
Condoms, gloves, saran wrap and lube - I'm a huge sexual health
advocate and insist on safe sex practices at all times.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My life; what I like about it, what I want to change about it, how
I'm going to make those changes, etc...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Friday nights are date night with GeekyQueerBear so we're usually
having a food adventure, a sexy adventure, or just snuggling and
enjoying some quality time just the two of us.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I am learning to accept genuine love. My thought processes and
reactions can be a tad unexpected.
You should message me if
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If you're looking for open-minded, mentally stimulating,
intelligent conversation, send me a msg. Or if you're a sex geek
who's looking to connect with other people into communicating and
sharing physical intimacy. That being said, I am not interested in
casual or cyber sex, so if all you're looking for is a quick lay or
long distance fantasy realization over cam, move along.
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