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31 M Ithaca, NY

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 24–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 10:20am
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Atheism, and very serious about it
Aquarius, but it doesn’t matter
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
English, Thai (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Shockingly, I'm on okcupid to meet potential romantic partners. I live with my long term partner in a committed and loving non-monogamous relationship. If you are interested in talking about ethical non-monogamy, you should send me a message.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Playing music with my band Black is Green, teaching SAT test prep, tutoring high school math, playing and watching soccer, and thinking about how to better understand my emotions. Or getting drunk and making a fool of myself and making myself laugh.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Lots of things: playing music, problem solving, being honest and open...forgetting to eat and then stuffing my face with lots of yummy things. I'm a good cook when I have someone to cook for. I also give great back rubs.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Let's have one of each to start....
Book: Franny and Zooey
Podcast: Dan Savage, or Radiolab
Movie: Wristcutters: A Love Story
Show: True Blood
Music: Black is Green obviously, or Jeff Buckley
Food: Mmm, Thai food - Bla Duk Foo
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
This is question is so silly... how about the three instruments I don't want to go without:

Cello -- love it, played it, electric preferably.
Electric Bass -- um yeah, that's my thing, low end rocks.
Guitar -- I think it's the easiest instrument to write music on alone.

Obviously I love strings. Other instruments are fabulous, I just happen to be terrible at them.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why openness and honesty are so important, and how to implement that.

My loving non-monogamous partner.

On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Hanging out with friends, having drinks somewhere, and shooting the shit.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I see a therapist once a week, and I love it.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Message me if you are sex positive and interested in dating someone who wants to communicate openly and honestly with his partners.