My son is #1 in my life - always will be and any potential mate needs to know this and accept this. He's special needs - moderate autistic, and if that scares you off so be it, but it is a fact about him and something you need to be aware of. I only have him part weekends for now anyhow.
I've been dubbed a 'geek', but take no shame in that, in today's world, I think being a geek is a compliment, not an insult.
I do take care of my personal fitness however, as driving a desk does not provide for good fitness :)