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fancypantsH

38 M Saint Paul, MN

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 25–65
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 6:38pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Sign
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Other
Income
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Offspring
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I like quotes.

“The world is full of order that doesn’t necessarily deserve our respect. Sometimes there is meaning, justice, and logic present in the way things are, but sometimes there just isn’t. And I think that the moment we realize this, is the moment we become creative people because it prompts us to mess things up and do something better with the basic pieces of experience.”
~ Kelli Anderson

Speaking of the basic pieces of experience: I have more LEGO bricks than you...but I will share.

When I was a kid (I think about 4), instead of having an invisible friend I would show up at my own front door and ask if I could come out and play. When my mom inquired as to who I was I answered "Peter". I would then come in and help my mom around the house and be very polite. I think my mom wanted to adopt him.

I'm a bit scared of power tools, heights, and horses...but I am trying to get over the power tool thing.

I collect jokers from decks of playing cards. I think I have about 200.

I currently have two broken teeth. One from wrestling...the other from a PBJ with extra crunchy peanut butter. EXTRA crunchy.

I have a deep sense of my own connection to what I consider to be god, but I've only had one experience which I would actually call a "religious" one, and it involved a late night study session, a strong desire for snacks, and a dime.

I don't really like to watch sports (besides UFC), but I'm a sucker for sports movies where the underdog high school team makes it to the big game wins/loses/learns a thing or two about friendship and life, and I cry every time I watch them (including Drumline, if that counts).

I feel that at one time in my life I had a serious addiction to Ebay. I might have bought a concertina and other things...

I can be stubborn when I decide on a course of action. I once sat in a lake under a dock for 3 hours in almost total darkness just so I could scare some friends of mine who claimed they were going skinny dipping. They never came out to the dock.

This behavior may be related to the fact that I wanted to be a ninja when I grew up. I also once sat under a kitchen table for about 2 hours in hopes to scare my friend Mike. I scared him big time.

I dated Miss North Dakota.

I am pretty horrible at writing thank you cards. Umm...thanks?

I hate it when I have a plan or I'm working on a plan to do something and someone suggests that I do it before I can carry out the plan.

I make a lot of "to do" lists as a way to avoid doing the things on said list.

I was married for a while to a pretty cool woman. We are still friends and occasionally grab brunch to catch up. If I had to name the things most directly responsible for me marrying my ex-wife I would have to say Nine Inch Nails, The Vagina Monologues, and that old Embers that used to be on Hennepin.

I nude modeled in college.

I met Lionel Richie. He signs his autographs "Hello."

If I'd been a girl, my parents would have named me Sarah.

When I go to the movies, the candy I usually want is Dots. When I eat them, I have to take two different colored dots (hard to tell in the dark theater) squish them together and eat them. If there is an odd number of Dots in the box, I won't eat the last one. If the last two are the same color, I won't eat either of them. At least two other people in my family developed this same habit without knowing the others did it. So...Dot smooshing is genetic.

For a while, I was so good at imitating the sounds of squirrels that I could coax one down from a tree. It wasn't until they got within feet of me that they realized I wasn't a squirrel, at which point they gave me a stern talking to.

One of the proudest days of my life was when my youngest sister upon being told by my parents that Santa wasn't real scowled at them and yelled: "Well I think that Santa Claus is real, and Jesus is fake because I've seen Santa, but I've never seen Jesus!"

My favorite thing to do is create amazing experiences for my family and friends. This 4th of July I buried a treasure chest full of frozen chocolate coins in the beach for my 4 year old nephew to find and dig up. I might have worn a pirate hat the whole time...

Alright, a final quote for you. One of my favorites:

"He rubbed his eyes and scratched his head and laughed because he wasn't dead."

~ Maurice Sendak
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Just finished my masters in Marriage and Family Therapy. Working at a domestic violence shelter as a youth advocate. Dating. Just moved to St. Paul and trying to find time to unpack. Enjoying the amazing people I already know and looking to know others.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Building with Lego bricks.
Finding other people's lost items, but not my own.
Putting on a dance party for the people where I work - seriously, I own a laser light.
Listening and getting people to talk.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My hair, and then they ask if they can touch it.
Maybe from now on I will ask people what they first notice so I have more to say...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I like a lot of different kinds of music. The first cassette I ever bought was Warrant: Dirty Rotten Filthy Stinking Rich. My parents made me return this immediately when they saw it, at which point I purchased Camouflage: Voices and Images, which was a German band similar to Depeche Mode. My first CD was House of Pain: Shamrocks and Shenanigans. My first vinyl was Michael Jackson: Thriller. When I was in high school I would guess my favorites were NIN, Toad the Wet Sprocket, Sarah McLachlan, and De La Soul. Some current favs and other oldies but goodies: James Blake, Lateduster, Dosh, POS, The Sensational Joint Chiefs, Radiohead, Daft Punk, Jolie Holland, Aphex Twin, Miles Davis, Erik Satie, U2, Frank Ocean...

I like to read, but while I was in graduate school I had little time other than books about Marriage and Family Therapy. For fun, I mostly read fantasy. I have read The Lord of the Rings, Harry Potter, and The Borribles trilogy multiple times. Huge fan of Neil Gaiman. I read A Wrinkle In Time every year or so...The Little Prince...Trying to think of nonfiction books...The Ethical Slut is great...Portrait of an Artist: A Biography of Georgia O'Keeffe...I like poetry. My favorite poets are Stephen Dunn, Marge Piercy, Wendell Berry, and Mary Oliver.

Favorite movies in no particular order: The Fall, Mirrormask, Amelie, Spirited Away, The Fisher King, Finding Nemo (though I like pretty much everything Pixar does), Sean of the Dead, Hot Fuzz, Alien, Big Trouble in Little China, Inside Man, Memento, Fight Club, Cabin in the Woods (if you don't like Joss Whedon, don't see it), You Me and Everyone We Know, Pan's Labyrinth, Emperor's New Groove, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Where the Wild Things Are, The Royal Tenenbaums, The Wedding Singer...there are others...

TV...don't watch a lot of it lately, but I have liked what I saw of True Blood, American Horror Story, The Big Bang Theory, Ru Paul's Drag Race, and I watch some Family Guy and Bob's Burgers on occasion. Some old favorites include The Muppet Show, I am a Joss Whedon fan so Firefly, Buffy, Angel...when I was in highschool I liked The Cosby Show, My So-called Life, and I am embarrassed to admit that I was part of a small crew of random guys in my undergrad that would get together and watch Dawson's Creek. It was kind of magical... Also, does Ted Talks count as TV?

Why is food in this section? Hmm...I like many kinds of food. I like to cook. I can be a food snob, but I also love me a good burger... brunch is a favorite meal...Thai, Chicago style pizza, restaurants like Victory 44 and Restaurant Alma...Seward Cafe is one of my favorite places to relax with a good book and bottomless tea...Glam Doll Donuts, The Creamery...Surly Beer...Young's Double Chocolate Stout (my fav)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Relationship dynamics...food...nerdy things...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
On a date with my sweetheart. Sorry, Fridays are taken.
You should message me if
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(update as of 4/8/2014)

...you are a patient person. I have found a primary partner!!! So as of now, my dance card is pretty full. Obviously feel free to message me, but know that I am not looking for anything serious.

(Old version)
If you believe that polyamory is possible. I have been dating (as a secondary partner) two amazing married women for the last few years. They both have healthy open marriages, and they have me. I want what they have: an amazing spouse/partner and loving significant others, too, because I know it is possible. Maybe that sounds serious and complicated, but you would be surprised how easy it can be. We have done this now for years, basically drama free. This is just what I am looking for. Who knows what I will find? All I know is that I plan to have fun in the process. If you are interested or curious, let me know.

In the interest of full disclosure, I do have herpes simplex 1. It is sometimes called "oral herpes," but you can get it other places, like genitally, as I do. I take medication for it, and have had only the initial outbreak. If this puts you off, I get it. However, before you let that stop you from dating me, do yourself a favor and get tested. You may think you were tested, but unless you SPECIFICALLY ask to be tested for herpes, they only do it if they suspect you have an outbreak. The numbers vary, but supposedly between 70 and 80 percent of the population have either type 1 or 2. I am just saying, you may already have it and just not know. That is my herpes public service announcement. Cue the music.