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65 M Portland, OR

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Graduated from university
Science / Engineering
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My self-summary
I'm an easy-going, intellectual, semi-vegetarian, left of center, non-religious person, who doesn't smoke or use drugs. I enjoy political discussions and philosophizing, soft mountaineering, gardening, and classical music, and value opportunities to learn and grow, communicate, and share intimacy.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm doing things differently (should I put this in the past tense?). Although there have been costs associated with different, I can't imagine changing too much. The course has been fun, edifying, and in retrospect rational. The future, however, is delightfully open. Companionship would be a welcome change of trajectory.

When I was younger I wanted to be a scientist. Too many distractions intervened - It was after all the 70s. After kicking around in my 20s I tried my hand at freelance photography, which, after a bit more floundering, led to alternative energy. I did enjoy those Carter years of 'war on energy'. Enough so they led to training as an engineer. I became an engineer during Reagan's misplaced closing down of Carter's initiatives. When having fun in one's chosen endeavor fails, go back to school, right? Not finding what I wanted in the states, I spent quite a few years abroad, first on a year long bicycle trip around Europe, and then writing patents in Taiwan, and teaching English, and geography, history, and physics, in Bulgaria. Returning to the states in my 50s, I started on still newer paths, a late in life technical career. Though these newest legs have been a bit choppy, the journey has been, and continues to be, quite satisfying in a physics, statistics, biology sort of way. I feel fortunate for being compensated for at least the vestiges of a scientific career, what I dreamt about earlier in my life. I love the life of the mind. And I love a certain eclecticism - maybe it's just the shroudings of age, but I'm finding the dots are often enough coming together. Perhaps despite the consolidation, I continue to see my life more in terms of becoming (ah, that Heraclitean stream), as opposed to having become (how boring). Eventually that 'having become' is so unavoidable too, isn't it? Until then the combinations are large.
I’m really good at
I'm fascinated by what I call the architecture of thought, the contribution we each make to the anaphora of our collective life, and structures (such as conferences) which channel its flow. I've gotten satisfaction from organizing a dozen or so large conferences, a small contribution perhaps to the direction of enthusiasm in a few restricted domains. What I really enjoy is exploring themes in the vein of C.P. Snow's Two Cultures. I'm a bit of a Renaissance person who thinks outside the box, relishes playing devil's advocate, and fancies he might occasionally chart a few paths that aren't there yet.
The first things people usually notice about me
Other people notice different things than we notice about ourselves, which is yet another world apart from the way we describe ourselves to others. I venture these layers of presentation might have been among the insights of a dry book I was required to read as a freshman in college, Erving Goffman's "Presentation of self in everyday life". Suffice college mentors deemed it important a freshman understand that what others notice may be different from what we notice about ourselves or others let on they notice.

Some people like simplicity, and others seek out complex. Far be it, however, we're consistent. I like a simple life, maybe because it affords plenty of time to reflect. On the other hand I'm rarely satisfied with a simple answer (though I am getting better). Granting the time lag with which inner skeptical worlds display, the mishmash from seeking complexity probably doesn't show much on first impression. Outwardly I'm a warm and easy-going person, though perhaps with a bit of diffidence. In comfortable environments I'm known to make wry comments with a smile. In not so comfortable environments I may prudently blend into the woodwork. Of course this leaves a good amount of variability in-between.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I love magical realism, though I might be slippery in what I call magical realism. Contemporary exemplars such as Gabriel Garcia Marquez's "100 years of solitude" to my mind recall other hyper-real styles that put earlier times and institutions under a similar anamorphic lens (Gargantua and Pantagruel, Gulliver's Travels, A Connecticut Yankee in King Arthur's Court). We are a mapping species, and the condensation of Colombian history in 7 generations of the Buendia family is transcendent for its recurring themes and fatalistic portrayal of history. In a more formalistic way I also love parts of James Joyce's "Ulysses" for the music of its language. "Pray for the repose of the soul of. Does anybody really? Plant him and have done with him". Not that the long-winded tome doesn't also drag, but likely my ill-reading of Ulysses is in part my inability to pick up on its over-abundance of allusions and cadences.

I mostly listen to classical music. My taste runs from Hildegard von Bingen and Gregorian chant to Messiaen, love Beethoven and Shubert late string quartets, Bach fugues and cantatas, Pergolesi's "Sabat Mater", Mozart k. 563, Shostakovich at his most cynical, and Prokofiev at his most sarcastic. Early Joan Baez and Joni Mitchell also works, and in jazz my taste runs along the line of Oscar Peterson, Stan Getz, and Miles Davis. (At the moment I'm smitten by the gypsy cello sounds of Adam Hurst.)

My tastes in food tend toward spicy, and I'm quite improvisational in my cooking (read experimental, as concoctions don't always pan out).
The six things I could never do without
I'll start with three: Food, water, and air. From this baseline we can go up the Maslow hierarchy. Warmth and security strike me as quite basic. Sleep. Friendship and intimacy are a few steps up the ladder. Are we making headway toward self-actualization yet?

I've been criticized for taking this question too literally. OK. Here then is an attempt at defining magic moments 'I couldn't have done ('be' in the ontological sense) without'. Some of these would include: Discovering Albrecht Durer woodcut prints in the Smithsonian during the 1968 anti-war protests (while trying to locate the woman I hitch-hiked to DC with). Robert Persig's "Zen and the art of motorcycle maintenance" (Did I really read it a number of times?). 'Discovery' of Chuckanut Bay and Fairhaven. The high I got from organizing my first technical roundtable for Whatcom Solar Association. Camaraderie in those alternative energy years. The high I got from organizing "George Orwell's 1984: Myth, Reality, and Legend" while in engineering school. The 'revelation' of learning about the Mandebrot set, deterministic chaos, and fractals. Satisfaction from having survived the bugs, narrow, lipped two lane road, and rigors of biking 100 miles a day, over the Great Lakes on a trip from Minnesota to Montreal and NYC. Running around Roma and Firenze in search of more Caravaggio's and Pontormo's. Visiting Pontormo's "Deposition" in Santa Felicita at least once a day while in Firenze. Discovering Luca Signorelli's frescoes in the Duomo at Orvieto. An amazing, now almost hallucinogenic experience to recall, bike trip over the mountains between Firenze and Bologna. Magic hot waterfalls, somewhere in the haze. The Giovanni Bellini's in Venezia, as well as the very early morning fog and colors of the city. The Vienna Boys Choir performance of Haydn's "Nelson Mass" in the small, opera house like Hapsburg chapel. Vermeer's "Milkmaid" in the Rijksmuseum (another one of those visit-with-frequently's). Inexpensive opera in Budapest. The mellifluous chants of Yoan Kukozel performed by opera singers in Sofia's central cathedral on Easter. Prisoner's dilemma, self-organizing algorithms, and game theory. Karl Popper's "Open society and its enemies". Lost innocence from having won a Pyrrhic victory over the Bulgarian Department of Education. A lot of chess while taking a winter rail trip across Siberia. The mountain villagers of Eastern Turkey, who, suspicious at first of the intrepid adventurer, always brought out pan bread and goat cheese for their 'American friend'. Stuart Kauffman's "The origins of order" (albeit a lifelong project, as it inevitably puts me to sleep after 10 pages). The (mis-)adventures of starting a scientific career late in life. Insights from losing hearing in one ear, hints of "A man may see how this world goes with no eyes". Essentially single parenting the easiest kid in the world to raise. Dreams of new adventures, the benefit of 10 years+ staidness.

While the question was put in the present tense 'do', I answered it as if in the past participle sense 'done'. Seems to me what one 'can't do without' follows most naturally from one's experiences, especially those that have left an impress.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I mull over whatever comes my way. My mind easily goes from the particular to the general (perhaps from early playing around with numbers). I enjoy trying to make sense of it, and I may well be a junkie for 'Ah-ha' moments (partial reinforcement schedules are most addicting). Do the ah-ha moments increase dopamine in the nucleus accumbens too?

I'd be less than honest, however, if I didn't also add I spend time thinking about companionship. I'm conscious how not being in a stable relationship extends to other facets of my life. I feel the brunt of an opportunity cost, a dimension of creative energy not fully realized.
On a typical Friday night I am
Probably at home. I'm not averse to the social life, but I tend to live modestly, and on Friday night it's likely I'm watching the news, listening to some Shubert, reading, or even planning something work related (good ideas are more likely to come to me in off hours). I don't feel compelled to fill up my Friday evenings with social events.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I actually enjoyed writing a profile, and, even more perverse, also enjoyed answering simplistic questions. I think these show reasonable and consistent tone - but in this you are the judge. Contrast even keel to dating correspondence (emails). In correspondence I'm continually struck by the inadequacy and stiffness of the medium, as if tones are filtered out. Bon mots come off as hurled projectiles, and anything less than exaggerated exuberance as negativity. I must learn the register of this medium.

Of course I could reveal a lot of other secrets, not that most of them aren't open. Perhaps someone would take interest in the fact I have never watched, start to finish, a football, baseball, or basketball game (guess this might be relevant to sports watching aficionados).
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
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  • For new friends, long-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
You're as prone as I am to philosophical conversations, and to enjoying sharp turns in perspective. I like it piquant. You're playful and remain much the optimist, despite the slings and arrows from problems that don't have a solution, or, as I might say, you've earned your smile lines. You're different from Rosalind, finding attraction quite orthogonal to 'rich eyes and poor hands', in a field pulled more by the lure of reflection, vita activa balanced with a good measure of contemplation. Your passion is tempered by a good measure of patience and acceptance. And you appreciate it all, experience, taken with earthy humor and wit, mined for all its lessons. You also want a relatively open relationship, outer directed, not one that collapses into solipsism or a Byzantine tangle of emotions, but one in which 'ah-ha' moments, hiking, adventuring, and social activism are shared. You're not stuck on 'dating', but would enjoy friendship either with or without physical intimacy, though cognizant intellectual, emotional, and physical intimacy probably are of one fabric. Symbiotic mutual actualization, let's try to be wordy, is what I think closeness is all about. I'd prefer a continuing relationship, one resilient and open to evolution - underscore the importance of growing through. Chronological age may be less important, trumped by agency, passion, and imagination.

"Lust is easy. Love is hard. Friendship is most important." - Carl Reiner

"Imagination is more important than knowledge." - Albert Einstein

"All philosophy is based on two things only: curiosity and poor eyesight... We want to know more than we can see." - Bernard de Fontenelle

"Health is the greatest gift, contentment the greatest wealth, faithfulness the best relationship." - The Buddha