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65 • M • Portland, OR
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- 5′ 5″ (1.65m)
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- Mostly vegetarian
- Graduated from university
- Science / Engineering
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- Has a kid
When I was younger I wanted to be a scientist. Too many distractions intervened - It was after all the 70s. After kicking around in my 20s I tried my hand at freelance photography, which, after a bit more floundering, led to alternative energy. I did enjoy those Carter years of 'war on energy'. Enough so they led to training as an engineer. I became an engineer during Reagan's misplaced closing down of Carter's initiatives. When having fun in one's chosen endeavor fails, go back to school, right? Not finding what I wanted in the states, I spent quite a few years abroad, first on a year long bicycle trip around Europe, and then writing patents in Taiwan, and teaching English, and geography, history, and physics, in Bulgaria. Returning to the states in my 50s, I started on still newer paths, a late in life technical career. Though these newest legs have been a bit choppy, the journey has been, and continues to be, quite satisfying in a physics, statistics, biology sort of way. I feel fortunate for being compensated for at least the vestiges of a scientific career, what I dreamt about earlier in my life. I love the life of the mind. And I love a certain eclecticism - maybe it's just the shroudings of age, but I'm finding the dots are often enough coming together. Perhaps despite the consolidation, I continue to see my life more in terms of becoming (ah, that Heraclitean stream), as opposed to having become (how boring). Eventually that 'having become' is so unavoidable too, isn't it? Until then the combinations are large.
Some people like simplicity, and others seek out complex. Far be it, however, we're consistent. I like a simple life, maybe because it affords plenty of time to reflect. On the other hand I'm rarely satisfied with a simple answer (though I am getting better). Granting the time lag with which inner skeptical worlds display, the mishmash from seeking complexity probably doesn't show much on first impression. Outwardly I'm a warm and easy-going person, though perhaps with a bit of diffidence. In comfortable environments I'm known to make wry comments with a smile. In not so comfortable environments I may prudently blend into the woodwork. Of course this leaves a good amount of variability in-between.
I mostly listen to classical music. My taste runs from Hildegard von Bingen and Gregorian chant to Messiaen, love Beethoven and Shubert late string quartets, Bach fugues and cantatas, Pergolesi's "Sabat Mater", Mozart k. 563, Shostakovich at his most cynical, and Prokofiev at his most sarcastic. Early Joan Baez and Joni Mitchell also works, and in jazz my taste runs along the line of Oscar Peterson, Stan Getz, and Miles Davis. (At the moment I'm smitten by the gypsy cello sounds of Adam Hurst.)
My tastes in food tend toward spicy, and I'm quite improvisational in my cooking (read experimental, as concoctions don't always pan out).
I've been criticized for taking this question too literally. OK. Here then is an attempt at defining magic moments 'I couldn't have done ('be' in the ontological sense) without'. Some of these would include: Discovering Albrecht Durer woodcut prints in the Smithsonian during the 1968 anti-war protests (while trying to locate the woman I hitch-hiked to DC with). Robert Persig's "Zen and the art of motorcycle maintenance" (Did I really read it a number of times?). 'Discovery' of Chuckanut Bay and Fairhaven. The high I got from organizing my first technical roundtable for Whatcom Solar Association. Camaraderie in those alternative energy years. The high I got from organizing "George Orwell's 1984: Myth, Reality, and Legend" while in engineering school. The 'revelation' of learning about the Mandebrot set, deterministic chaos, and fractals. Satisfaction from having survived the bugs, narrow, lipped two lane road, and rigors of biking 100 miles a day, over the Great Lakes on a trip from Minnesota to Montreal and NYC. Running around Roma and Firenze in search of more Caravaggio's and Pontormo's. Visiting Pontormo's "Deposition" in Santa Felicita at least once a day while in Firenze. Discovering Luca Signorelli's frescoes in the Duomo at Orvieto. An amazing, now almost hallucinogenic experience to recall, bike trip over the mountains between Firenze and Bologna. Magic hot waterfalls, somewhere in the haze. The Giovanni Bellini's in Venezia, as well as the very early morning fog and colors of the city. The Vienna Boys Choir performance of Haydn's "Nelson Mass" in the small, opera house like Hapsburg chapel. Vermeer's "Milkmaid" in the Rijksmuseum (another one of those visit-with-frequently's). Inexpensive opera in Budapest. The mellifluous chants of Yoan Kukozel performed by opera singers in Sofia's central cathedral on Easter. Prisoner's dilemma, self-organizing algorithms, and game theory. Karl Popper's "Open society and its enemies". Lost innocence from having won a Pyrrhic victory over the Bulgarian Department of Education. A lot of chess while taking a winter rail trip across Siberia. The mountain villagers of Eastern Turkey, who, suspicious at first of the intrepid adventurer, always brought out pan bread and goat cheese for their 'American friend'. Stuart Kauffman's "The origins of order" (albeit a lifelong project, as it inevitably puts me to sleep after 10 pages). The (mis-)adventures of starting a scientific career late in life. Insights from losing hearing in one ear, hints of "A man may see how this world goes with no eyes". Essentially single parenting the easiest kid in the world to raise. Dreams of new adventures, the benefit of 10 years+ staidness.
While the question was put in the present tense 'do', I answered it as if in the past participle sense 'done'. Seems to me what one 'can't do without' follows most naturally from one's experiences, especially those that have left an impress.
I'd be less than honest, however, if I didn't also add I spend time thinking about companionship. I'm conscious how not being in a stable relationship extends to other facets of my life. I feel the brunt of an opportunity cost, a dimension of creative energy not fully realized.
Of course I could reveal a lot of other secrets, not that most of them aren't open. Perhaps someone would take interest in the fact I have never watched, start to finish, a football, baseball, or basketball game (guess this might be relevant to sports watching aficionados).
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"Lust is easy. Love is hard. Friendship is most important." - Carl Reiner
"Imagination is more important than knowledge." - Albert Einstein
"All philosophy is based on two things only: curiosity and poor eyesight... We want to know more than we can see." - Bernard de Fontenelle
"Health is the greatest gift, contentment the greatest wealth, faithfulness the best relationship." - The Buddha
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