I know why I do it. I can take the time to get to know someone without leaving my house, prepping my hair, or worrying about what designer label shirt I am wearing.
But really, that excuse is just silly. I want to impress the woman that I am taking out to dinner (and actually go to dinner) with my charm, my taste in clothing, and my wit. And by God, I am social enough to get off of my fat and lazy ass to go out somewhere and actually take the time to do it!
I like to see my date laugh, watch her smile and to let her know I am right there with her when she cracks a joke or tells me what the meaning of life is to her. I want to fall in love face-to-face. Maybe I am a romantic at heart, or maybe I am an asshole by nature, but I really don't care what a complete stranger thinks of me after 'meeting' me online. If she thinks I am sexy, or if she thinks I am the biggest dork this side of Texas --No offense Texas, and you should celebrate your dorkiness-- that is entirely her prerogative.
Sure, I have a lot of self-improvements that I would like to hide from my date, hell from everybody, but don't we all. I don't wake up with the freshest breath because I smoke, and I am sure that I scratch my butt in public after you put a few drinks in me, and I tell awful jokes that make absolutely no sense at all. But that is what makes me, me. I would like to keep all of those things in a file marked top-secret, but if I did you would never see my smile or the way I lean into your conversation as you tell me something sexy, witty, smart, or just silly.
Don't get me wrong, I love OkCupid, and the people I meet on here, but there comes a time where you just want to stare into your dates eyes and just get lost.
Sometimes I can get caught up in the moment and ramble on for days about nothing-- trust me it even gets boring to me-- when I am conversing through emails. Then I remind myself that I am not looking for new pen pals to talk with, that is what my facebook friends are for, I am on here actually looking for someone who really gives a shit.