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fdearl

29 / M / Straight / Single

Phoenix, Arizona

His Details

Last Online
May 23, 2012
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 9″ (1.75m).
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
Sometimes
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Buddhism and laughing about it
Sign
Pisces but it doesn’t matter
Education
Working on college/university
Job
Unemployed
Income
Less than $20,000
Offspring
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
I hate these, especially they essentially ask us to place ourselves in a box. No matter what I write, it is in error because words cannot describe me fittingly. It is sort of the flaw of language, words can only portray an idea, they cannot transfer it in a meaningful way. Many people throughout history have realized this, how difficult it is to be clear with language. We attempt to more vividly describe our thoughts and this tends to result in even more misunderstandings. English classes throughout the education system basically fill their curriculum with proof of this, asking people to try to decipher what others are trying to portray. The only person that can ever fully understand the words is the one that wrote them, and everyone else that reads them will inevitably come to entirely different conclusions.
What I’m doing with my life
Most simply, I am living it... I have pursued avenues for income, and I have pursued avenues for enjoyment. My main pursuit is personal growth, however, and the rest is quite superficial. Nothing else really defines me other than this pursuit, for nothing else is nearly as meaningful.
I’m really good at
I am really good at things I practice, and quite average at things I am attempting for the first time. There are always those that are better than me at something, and those that are worse, and thus I consider myself quite average - even at those things which I excel at. Just like anyone, if I commit to something, I will perform well. If I have no particular interest I will not do well... grouping activities into these two groups is impossible since it various with mood.
The first things people usually notice about me
Aren't I the wrong person to ask this question? I am not them, and thus cannot know the answer to this question. No matter what someone may notice, it does not define me, for they are likely to see only superficial things until they get to know me. This is probably the most irrelevant question on this entire site!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
My favorite anything is what I am currently pursuing, for this is all that matters. I have certain tastes, but to pinpoint a particular favorite is pointless. If you become too attached to anything, it will eventually lose its very appeal, it will get old. I think it is better to have as eclectic an experience as possible in this life and try to experience everything you can. Honing in on particular things tends to limit this greatly.
The six things I could never do without
I think people place too much emphasis on thoroughly pointless things, attaining things which lack permanence and thus always striving for something else. I think this is the nature of depression, never reaching a point where you are simply content with life. This doesn't mean I lack hobbies or other enjoyments, it simply means that I do not define myself by any of them.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I firmly believe thinking causes us to be distracted from the present of this second. When we are constantly considering the past or future, clinging to one and dreaming of the other, we tend to forget to be thankful for the now.
On a typical Friday night I am
I dislike planning, and I dislike routine, thus there is no "typical" in my life unless it is out of my control (sleeping, eating, etc) - for me, this makes life much more rewarding. Even an event that you enjoy thoroughly becomes monotonous if it is schedules in my opinion.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Is that I have private things... lol... I really don't, I'm sort of an open book - take it or leave it. I would certainly not express such things for no reason, however, as I feel that half the fun of getting to know someone is in discovery of these things. It is really sort of a preposterous question if you think about it, but I still need a lot more words apparently to reach 500 - another stupid rule on this site.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 18–27
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, activity partners, long-distance penpals
You should message me if
You want to talk... I guess this is the part where I'm supposed to put my marketing cap on and try to sell myself? I really see no value in this, however. It will not fulfill me in any way if you do or do not converse with me, and inevitably others will choose differently from yourself.