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fearandwhiskey

27 M Brooklyn, NY

My Details

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Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Height
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Thin
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
Sometimes
Drinks
Often
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Sign
Scorpio
Education
Working on Ph.D program
Job
Student
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Pets
Speaks
English, Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Nihilism and apple pie.

But really, I've found that the only adequate orientation to this world is to feel utterly disgusted and ecstatic at once. A few years ago I was out until nearly noon drinking and dancing (the dancing part almost never happens). When I left the club and met the glare of the sun, I just sat down on the sidewalk and watched smoke billowing from two distant smokestacks. For some unknown reason, and in spite of (and conjunction with) such a delirious evening, I found it all so suddenly abhorrent. Then I casually broke a beer bottle on the sidewalk, wandered around the city for a couple of hours in a subdued rage, and then calmly returned home to the sound of church bells and the smell of my friends cooking breakfast. It is hard to discern any consistency on the surface of this world.

I am a very grounded and practical person, perhaps to a fault. I keep my room rather immaculate and sweep the floors of my apartment nearly every morning.

I keep my friends very close. My friendships are affinities, based on shared ways of thinking through the world that were forged in mutual experiences and commitments.

I need to keep my body moving. I regularly run, play pick-up basketball, and would always prefer my bicycle to the subway.
What I’m doing with my life
Study and occasional hijinks. Rolling with the contradictions.

I guess I am in training to become a professional academic - to do "social science" for a living - which actually feels pretty bizarre. I worked in specialty coffee for a long time, but I could never muster the requisite enthusiasm for serving overpriced beverages to whiny yuppies. I can't really fathom doing anything with my life besides reading books, researching increasingly terrible social phenomena within the historical orbit of capitalism, and pretending to believe that such study can somehow contribute to the coming of communism. So I applied to graduate school figuring it to be a more or less suitable job. Like all jobs, however, this one is in large part a frustrating way to put food on the table. I am really only interested in having time to read all the books (and not always the ones required for classes); I'll just hack the professional part as this is unfortunately required of me.

In general terms, I study the structural transformation of the city over the past half-century or so, and how this has impacted the composition of housing and contributed to fucked-up new policing techniques in poor and working-class neighborhoods.
I’m really good at
Grocery shopping.

Apparently, I am a natural at shucking oysters.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Marx and Marxist critique. I spent two whole years dedicated to the study of the three volumes of Capital. Contrary to most popular characterizations of the Marxist tradition, it is beautifully complex, inexhaustibly rich, and forever incomplete. Parts of Capital are actually more emotionally and existentially stirring for me than any of the novels I have ever read. I get giddy with this shit.

That said, I do enjoy reading novels. Some of my favorite authors, and in no particular order, are Isaac Bashevis Singer, Imre Kertesz, James Baldwin, Jean Genet, and B. Traven. As a teenager I became obsessed with Roberto Bolano, but now there is nothing left to read.

I love Chris Marker's film Sans Soleil and W.G. Sebald's novel The Emigrants. Even though one is made with film and the other with words, they somehow seem to have been forged from the same medium. I highly recommend both. This is worth checking out.

Several of my friends are obsessed with film, but I am hardly a film buff. Somehow, however, for the past two summers I have been roped into organizing a little film festival with a tiny museum I am involved with on the Lower East Side. It takes place in August and the screenings happen in community gardens. It is actually quite nice.

Like most humans with computers and periodical hang-overs (or occasionally overwhelming feelings of doom at the thought of having to venture out into the world), I sometimes watch television shows. I can't say that I have favorites, though.

I listen to music often and always different genres, always changing. I will be forever indebted to punk.

I love to cook dinners for friends and bake pies.
The six things I could never do without
No. 2 pencils, black pepper, spiral notebooks, the bicycle that I've ridden since junior high school, breakfasts, my acoustic guitar.

I could really do without all of these things, save for the pencils.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The subject-object dichotomy, capitalist social relations
(especially as these are reified in such forms as the commodity or gender), or what to make for dinner.
On a typical Friday night I am
Sipping whiskey and reading at my desk, endless banter and debate in someone else's living room, or just out and about with friends. Maybe at a punk show.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 21–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You'd rather skip the get-to-know-you messages and just make a date.

You are concerned with how fucked the world is, and hope against hope that it could be otherwise.