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34 Brooklyn, NY Woman


I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 21–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Dec 15, 2014
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
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My self-summary
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there is no summarizing anything. i was a lesbian for too long. we are long-winded.

thank you for the birthday wishes. i wish i could keep milking that but it's passed and i'm just too honest.

i'd say i'm both wild and neurotic, which sometimes works, sometimes doesn't. i am a therapist and specialize in sexuality. it's my passion and i'm a natural at it, turns out. i have never-ending curiosity about how weird and surprising we all are. i am never bored.
What I’m doing with my life
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knocking into things and falling down. apparently getting better at life is a bruise-inducing process. why they thought i'd make a great ballerina is beyond me.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
gender and sexuality theory, sex therapy, getting relative strangers to somehow confide in me, making documentaries, walking my heels to death, being wild and ill-behaved, giving a whole lot of heart. flirting. yeah, flirting.
The first things people usually notice about me
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my eyes and how, apparently, i use them.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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henry miller, bukowski, augusten burroughs, a.m. homes, david sedaris, t.c. boyle, miranda july. books that make me feel like we are all freaks and that is all ok. amber hollibaugh and carole vance for sex-positive feminism. e.e.cummings, always.

lucinda williams, townes van zandt, gram parsons, tom waits, leonard cohen, bob dylan, neil young, randy newman, fred neil, lou reed, jawbreaker, gillian welch, steve earl, the distillers, postal service, bruce springsteen, the pretenders, flogging molly, paul simon, ma rainey, mississippi blues, dramarama, whiskeytown, dead moon. sometimes i listen to pearl jam when i'm pissed. inoj and other rnb ladies when i'm happy.

running on empty, both the film and the jackson browne song.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
vintage heels.
bodies of water.
my teasing comb.
love, all kinds.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
this is kinda what i'm about:
midsummer thunderstorms. nighttime swingsets. high-speed car chases. pick-up trucks. rooftop camping. gold chains. vintage typewriters. jacked up high heels. big hair. pin up girls. concealed weapons. tight pants. doorways. alleys. laundromats. soda fountains. dark corners. gettin caught in downpours. fanciness at all times. motorcycles. being a bother. country houses with wraparound porches, summer downpours, and mint juleps. bare feet. leathers and feathers. the sound that radiators make. perfect metaphors. making my plants decide to live. getting my boots dirty.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
probably cleaning my house to ma rainey and bessie smith. what.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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mm, i think i already did that. but heaven knows there's a lot more. and if you're not like me, you might not like it.
You should message me if
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this kinda thing

you know how to use words in a way that makes more than one part of me light up.

you know how to seriously fucking cuddle and you like doing it. if you're not into public affection or even private affection, keep looking. it's too much fun for me to go without it.

you are a funny, smart, mean-sexy looking but very sweet acting boy with extraordinary taste in music. that goes for my girls too. i love tall, i love tattoos, i love tight dirty black jeans and fucked up hair.

there is undeniable chemistry and you are respectful in all your glorious naughtiness.

you are a gentleman (of any gender), and you can be humble and silly and human. and if you will find it lovely that i am too.

you know how to make plans and keep them, and your mama taught you some manners. and you get off on treating me like a lady, even if i'm also other things, at other times :)

and no, sorry fellas, i'm not looking for one night stands, fuck buddies, or serial short-term dates. i'm only here on the chance that there is someone beautiful and real out there. x