Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am usually intelligent, but alcohol or attractive women both lead
me to do foolish things. I don't drink much at all anymore so now
it is just women. I am often attractive, at least I clean up
I am just me, I take life as it comes. With humor, sarcasm and the
realization that we all are just trying to get from the beginning
to the end as best we can and that no one gets out alive.
I am also married in an open, wonderful, incredible "polyamorous"
relationship. That word is in quotes because each relationship is
unique and I don't want you or me to be trapped by what we think it
means. If you want to know what it means to me and my amazing wife,
just ask. Her profile is: aroseisxox.
A note about the percentages on here.....my wife and I are only a
90% match and 60%(!) friends and even 6% enemies. One of my best
platonic friends and me are only a 46% match and 40% enemies! Real
life is different than algorithms. Take a shot, message me.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Learning. Constantly learning. I try not to define "what I am doing
with my life" by my job. I have a great gig right now, that I fell
into. I have had great jobs, and horrible jobs, been good at all of
them, but my jobs don't define me, nor "what I am doing". So,
besides learning, what the F*&% am I doing? Being really happy.
Reading, travelling, growing on a personal level. Being constantly
amused by the absurdities and wonders of life. Glad to be alive,
I recently decided to go back to college. My greatest regret is
never having received a degree. So I am skipping the undergrad and
going for my MBA at the UW Foster school. Update: I received my MBA
last June, very glad I did it.
But about half the time, what I am doing is eating, laughing,
watching sports, reading, watching MSNBC, flirting or otherwise
wasting a brilliant and obviously humble mind.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Figuring things out, trying to sort things out. I am really good at
seeing the riduculous and contradictory in others, because of
course, I have none in me. I am good at building and fixing things.
Not cars, but houses and things around houses.
I am good at listening to what people mean when they say things.
Not the just words, but the meaning and hidden intent. Honest,
really, I do this. But only when I am concentrating. I can be a
self centered, not paying attention man, just like any other guy.
You have to get my attention. Bright shiny objects, big words, new
ideas, beauty, they all get my attention. Did you ever notice that
when someone says "honest" or "frankly" or "sincerely" in a
sentence, it indicates that they aren't being that way? hmm....
The first things people usually notice about me
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My sense of humor. Really, I'm usually very funny, in spite of this
No one ever notices the scar on my lip from the knife fight at age
3, I am always perplexed by that. Or are people just too nice to
ask about a scar on your face?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Favorite movie of all time, "Bull Durham". It's not about
I also really like "The King of Hearts". I love movies, love
talking about movies and "film" of course. The 2 finest films ever
made, for very different reasons, are "Schindler's List" and
"Apocalypse Now". Not my favorites, but the finest films ever made.
It's okay, go ahead and debate me, change my mind.
Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid. Lawrence of Arabia. Sgt. York.
Annie Hall. Broadway Danny Rose. Goodfellas (I can watch any part
of that, at any time). Field of Dreams. Chicago. Eight Men Out.
Matewan. Actually any John Sayles film. Any Coen brothers movie,
ever see Blood Simple? Terrific.
I loved The Grand Budapest Hotel, keep thinking about the structure
of Gone Girl and found the move Ted to be surprisingly funny.
I just saw "Ex Machina" and the sign of a good movie is I keep
thinking about it. Ex Machina is a very good movie. Visually
interesting, smart and obviously, thought provoking.
I read, a lot. I read a wide variety of things. Mostly non-fiction.
I recently read "Predictably Irrational" really good book. I like
American humorists. Keillor, Trillin, Sedaris, P.J. O'Rourke is one
of my favorites and of course the master of them all, Twain. I try
and read the "essential novel of each decade" in my never humble
opinion. Catcher in the Rye. Catch-22. The World According to Garp.
Bonfire of the Vanities. Among others.
For my suggested reading list for others, "You're Not So Smart" is
a great, quick read about the way we perceive ourselves. Fooled By
Randomness and A Random Walk are good reads. The Signal and the
Noise, is a readable, fun book about how statistics should be
viewed, plus it 'splains some things. ;-)
Foods...it is too difficult, let's just say I am picky. I almost
always have the same thing for breakfast at a restaurant.
Music, I love the blues. Then rock n roll. Then the blues.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
And then the 4 "Esses":
Sleep, Sex, Sports and Sustenance.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Ideas, work, sex, relationships, philosophy. No, not philosophy in
the common sense. Ideas and how they change things. History and
what is means to us today. How people interpret their lives and
Religion and religious beliefs. I am an atheist, which is a belief
system, after all the universe proves one of two things: there is a
god, or there isn't, and none of us know which it proves. But I
used to be a fundamentalist Christian, so I have an odd
I think about women a lot. Not just sexually, although, I am sure
that takes up a lot of my thoughts. Not too much, maybe not enough,
but a lot. Wait, is that too open and direct? Damn.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Watching a movie, reading, having dinner, flirting, the usual.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have been to jail, but only for 2 days. The food was terrible,
but a tall crack dealer, who was a great guy except for the part
about being a crack dealer, watched my back and taught me to play
dominoes for money.
You should message me if
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You are very open minded. I am in an open relationship with my
wife, who is on OKCupid as well. We are poly/open/swingers whatever
you wish to call it, and I like making new friends and
So, I can be a friend, date, sounding board, partner, whatever.
Just come with an open mind.
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