I am an unconventional thinker buried in a fairly conventional ‘white bread’ exterior. I am drawn to the quirky, original and creative, and repelled by the ordinary. From my earliest memories I have never thought like everyone else, nor have I felt much pressure to do so. One of the questions that I consider pivotal in the OkCupid system is ‘Would you rather good or interesting things happened?’ I think if I had experienced more tragedy in life I might feel differently, but in general, I learn so much more from interesting and unexpected things, I would never trade those experiences for the usual ‘good’ things. That said, I have no tolerance for self-destructive behavior and personalities, so courting the destructive side of ‘interesting’ doesn’t work for me.
I like people and deal with them quite well, but I prefer to balance companionship with solitude. I have been single for a few years now and although I feel that I have a lot to offer and to share, I honestly don't 'need' someone in the way most people think of it. That said, I still love meeting great people with interesting insights and good hearts, and I always have my eyes open to good things coming from others. As independent as I am, my vision for the future does include having a partner with me.
He just has to be the right kind of guy.
I once saw this interpretation of my name:
He thinks long and hard before making decisions.
Never runs before he can walk.
He has a good sense of humor for a serious man.
Not a man to cross. (woah!)
I might add:
I clean up well.
I do know what I like when I see it but I can't truthfully state that I always know exactly what I'm looking for. Some of my random likes include guys with glasses, lean builds, a youthful outlook regardless of age, nerdyness in moderation, appreciation for arts and culture, and a fundamentally honest, open personality. I prefer not to guess.
I invite you to surprise me. I am always looking for good surprises.