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fernsetcetera

31 F Knoxville, TN

I’m looking for

  • Guys and girls who like bi girls
  • Ages 23–60
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Sep 27
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Often
Drugs
Religion
Other, and laughing about it
Sign
Aries, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Dropped out of Ph.D program
Job
Income
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Has dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm a queer polyamorous transplant from California who has been struggling to find my place out here in Knoxville for some time.

I have a special love for tea and going out to dinner by myself. I love traveling and trying new things, but paradoxically I tend to be a bit of a hermit these days.

I love art but have no real eye or hand for it. In a perfect world I'd surround myself with artists to help coax me out of my overly practical self from time to time. I'm an INTJ.

I'm mostly on here for making new friends and finding new insight into Knoxville, but I'm tentatively open for more if the chemistry is right.

If I am not answering your emails, especially if we have emailed more than once before, most likely it is because I am really getting slammed with emails on here and I don't have the time or energy to keep up. Alternatively, if you send me a one line misspelled email asking for sex and we are a 10% match, don't expect a reply. If you send me a one line email like "Hi how are you, look at my profile" or anything that looks like it could be cut and pasted into an email for anyone else, don't expect a reply. For some reason I have been getting lots of messages from very religious men who want a lot of children. I don't get it, but my partner says it is because I'm at that magical childbearing age and desperate folks aren't paying attention to much else.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I moved out here for grad school in the sciences, but had to effectively drop out two years ago for health reasons. In the meantime I've been fostering dogs, gardening, and pondering how to build a true sense of community with where and who I am today, rather than with where I wish I was. I like to think of it as the anti- Burning Man.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
puzzles, finding things, talking about what bothers me (although it takes me a while to figure it out), having compassion, compromise, endurance, synthesis, detecting strange smells
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My height, my hair, my shoes, my laugh...I walk with a cane sometimes and I can be extremely stubborn.

Because folks keep asking: the cane is to help me walk, not a fashion statement. It also helps me to thwack people, poke things, and catch things before they blow away.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I like going out to lunch or dinner by myself and trying new foods. I enjoy slowly perusing menus and imagining different flavors, even if I already know what I want.

I like books that make me think. I have a huge book collection but I've read less of it than I would like to admit. I think the best novels are concisely written and reveal something important about human nature.

There isn't much music that I *don't* like. I'm especially fond of Aphex Twin and industrial music. Lately I've been listening to a lot of pop/R&B and 90's rock. It varies. As long as the music doesn't make me cringe I'm generally delighted to hear new things.

Most of the genres of movies and shows have their place depending on my mood. I prefer my horror movies with a healthy dose of camp. I have a wicked sense of humor that ranges from 12 years old to biting sarcasm, and yet I am easily offended if you know how. Thusly I love comedy but it can be a struggle to find comedy that 'feels right', especially out in public.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I could do without just about anything at this point in my life. I have learned that I can adapt more than I ever gave myself credit for when I was younger.

I live for moments. Moments that take my breath away, that make me laugh and see the beauty in things, moments that make me roll my eyes at the world while I develop more patience.

If I'm forced to pick a few of the creature comforts, that would probably be plumbing and modern medicine.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What is the right way to place value on knowledge and intelligence when the mind and/or brain is such a fragile thing?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Hanging out with my dog at home. I can't afford to go out as much as I might like.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I love pen-pals, but I am very very bad at keeping things going over an extended period of time.

I don't know how to relate to completely straight people or folks that have never worked with their hands.

My brother thinks I should filter all my OKC emails to eliminate anything pulled out of a PUA forum. Hmm. If you don't know what that means, you might not be an idiot.
You should message me if
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-You are also polyamorous. I'm not interested in any kind of sexual relationship unless we have the same values and ideals about what that means.
-You value friendship with women whether or not it "goes anywhere".
-You've read my whole profile and think we might have something in common.
-You'd be up for skill sharing (I love to learn from people!)
-You aren't afraid to ask and answer questions openly