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59 Berkeley, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 42–52
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My details

Last online
Apr 17
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Judaism, but not too serious about it
Pisces, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Science / Engineering
Doesn’t have kids
Has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly), Italian (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Hello and welcome to my self summary section. I suppose this is where I'm supposed to encapsulate my charms and brilliance in a plethora of pithy prose...or I suppose I could just ramble on for a bit...not great at self promoting, but, if we hit it off, am likely to be one of the best friends you've ever had. You might want to have a glass of wine before reading on...and take off your shoes, too...there, doesn't that feel better? Good. Well, then....let's proceed.

I'm a curious collection of traits and quirks...very smart, have a sense of humor (see above), sensitive, empathetic, lively, and fun. I'm quite to hike, bike, walk, explore, lay in the sun, but also to cook up a tasty dinner (cooking with a special friend...sipping a glass of red and chattering about everything and nothing is a special treat), watch a game, talk about what's going on in the world (I follow politics and current events...but not the People magazine kind of current events...those are just white noise to me), read a book, and just relax....I like the Italian idea of "la dolce fare niente" (the sweetness of doing nothing). Oh and chocolate.... can't forget you prefer dark or milk (yes, this is a test)...

Some other random factoids: have a house (that I designed), a cat (that I did not design...although I adore her), a comfortable life, enough free time, and senses of humor, passion, compassion, and the absurd. Also common sense...and some uncommon senses, too.

I'm looking for a sweetheart/partner in crime (don't worry, mostly minor infractions;-), with whom to explore, laugh, cry, be playful and silly, share serious times, hold hands, travel, cook, cuddle, and wake up on the morning wrapped up in each other...saying with our eyes, "we did that!?"....and bursting into laughter...

I could go on...but you get the picture...if not, well, my picture's on the next page;-)
What I’m doing with my life
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trying to make the world a better place...while still earning a living and keeping a semse of humor and perspective...
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
making odd connections, seeing the big picture, being there for friends, compassion, passion, analyzing things, making horrible puns;-)
The first things people usually notice about me
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oddly, probably my eyebrows...and my's deep, and people really seem to like it...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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The best movie I've seen lately was Searching for Sugar Man...see it!

As for music...I gravitate towards singer songwriter types...with clever and insightful lyrics and some sort of passion...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
intellectual stimulation
...and you?

oh...and the kitty
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
...the state of the world, what to have for dinner, how to be a better person, what makes people tick, why some cultures get it...and others don't, words, ideas, passions, compassions...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Having a glass of wine, visiting with friends, walking, curled up on a warm couch, out to eat, cooking up something tasty....
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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If I admitted it, it wouldn't be private, now would it?

Is there both private and most private? Isn't that kind of like like virgin and extra virgin?
You should message me if
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something here strikes a chord...and you think we'd connect;-)