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43 Boston, MA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 18–50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Today – 4:34pm
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Atheism, and laughing about it
Pisces, but it doesn’t matter
Working on space camp
Seeing Someone
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
---The following has nothing to do with dating or sex----

So this is an odd place to put this but what the hell...

I am looking for an organizer. I'm not keen on just hiring a local organizer out of a directory due to the unique nature of my organizing requirements (no it's not my sex toys, I have someone to organize those). So I thought I'd put it out here that I'm looking for some professional organizing (or even ProAm) assistance and that way whomever messages me is at least forewarned and clearly willing to help with an unusual organizing job.

Message me and I'll tell you what I need assistance with. I am guessing it's a one day, at most two days, job.

---This ends the non dating/sex portion of the profile---

I'll start with the most important detail, I'm currently in a relationship with an absolutely wonderful, sexy, intelligent and beautiful woman, she is interested in meeting another woman to scene with on occasion casually, so I'm here to see if I can help with that. She is also quite the voyeur. We've been together over 10 years.

My girlfriend is interestingly (at least to me) very interested in me finding some FWB.

I happen to like tomboys, androgynous, genderqueer and butch women. Ideally a woman who is an equal mix of effeminate fag and butch dyke, a tomboy fag. My girlfriend prefers them more femme, like herself. However she would also be interested in meeting a tomboy type.

I'm also just interested in meeting interesting people.

In my free time I read, I go hiking, the Lynn Woods are a surprisingly good place to hike, or mountain biking, target shooting, or do more photography (which I teach as well) and occasional camping. I do some sea kayaking which I really enjoy. I do a lot of bike riding along the beach.

I reload my own ammunition for most of the target shooting I do. Want to learn about it? Just ask.

I'm interested in and have done a good bit of fetish style photography for friends and with my girlfriend.
(If you were to have a military style outfit (18th or 19th century? Prussian?) laying around and you wanted to do some modeling in it with a firearm and learn how to shoot if you don't already know how to then let me know. I may be able to help you.)

I am kinky, quiet, and inquisitive

I'm like an onion

I'm a veteran.

What else would you like to know?
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm successfully self employed.

I tend to keep busy but on occasion have free time to try something new, which I always enjoy doing.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Pistol and rifle shooting, no I don't hunt, as much as I shoot you'd think I would have been hunting but I never have been, not that I have any moral objection to it, just never had the chance. I'm at the range almost every week, just ask if you'd like to come along. NSA (By which I mean No Strings Attatched, as opposed to alerting No Such Agency, I'm sure they already know and don't care.)
Photography (I'm a professional photographer.)(DSLR but on occasion a 4x5 film camera.) I teach as well.
General fixing of things from mechanical items to computers, I can detail strip a M1911A1 pistol blindfolded with just the tools in the pistol and a .45 ACP cartridge.
I can put it back together blindfolded as well.
Technical illustration
Using a bullwhip of which I have over a half dozen.
I'm also very good with Adobe Photoshop and Illustrator.
I'm not too bad at sharpening a knife.
I can make fire with water, serously.

Plus I enjoy (and I've been told I'm good at) passing on the above skills, among others, to those interested in learning them.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Tell me after we meet.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Lord of the Rings, The Hobbit, anything about: Joan of Arc, supernatural horror,Victorian ghost stories, werewolves (Lone werwolves, not in packs like today's authors seem to like writing them, also they are far better than vampires.) Curse of the Wolfman, Silver Bullet, H.P. Lovecraft, Edgar Allen Poe, Sir Aurthur Conan Doyle, H. Rider Haggard. The various Supernatural/Fantastic Sherlock Holmes anthologies.

“Eye of the Storm” by Kelley Eskridge (novella.) You can find it in these anthologies;
-Dangerous Space
-Beyond Binary: Genderqueer and Sexually Fluid Speculative Fiction
-Sirens and Other Daemon Lovers

The Door of the Unreal by Gerald Biss
A classic of werewolf literature.

"Taboo" by Geoffrey Household
An excellent werewolf styled story.
You can find it in
-Great Tales of Terror and the Supernatural
Know a good classic werewolf tale? Please pass it along.

James Bond books by Ian Fleming.

The Richard Sharpe series of books by Bernard Cornwell.

I enjoy reading books about Safaris. "African Game Trails" by Theodore Roosevelt it is, to say the least, fascinating. "Man-eaters of Kumaon" by Jim Corbet is also extremely interesting. "The Man-Eaters of Tsavo" by John Henry Patterson was interesting but not a riveting read. The movie (The Ghost and the Darkness) was more exciting although fictionalized to an extent. The lions did kill roughly 135 people in just one year.

Indiana Jones (Raiders is the best of course), Blade Runner, Lord of the Rings, Lawrence of Arabia, Layer Cake, The Princess Bride, Jim Henson movies, Legend, The Ghost and the Darkness, Exaclibur, Aliens, Underworld, Tomb Raider, The Wolfman, In Bruges, The Usual Suspects, Serenity, Tears of the Sun, Act of Valor,Saving Private Ryan, Appleseed, American Werewolf in London, Dr. Horrible's Sing-Along Blog, Unthinkable, Solomon Kane, Don't be afraid of the Dark, Deathwatch, horror movies. James Bond.

I'm always trying to find a movie that can give me a nightmare.

I don't have cable. enjoyed Burn Notice on Netflix.
People have been telling me for years that I'm Ron Swanson, and it only annoyed me, now having seen the first few seasons of Parks and Rec I now realize they were complimenting me.
I look forward to the release of Showtime's Penny Dreadful on Blu-Ray.

OKC seemed to have forgotten about them.
Platinum Grit
Girl Genius
Least I Could Do
Looking For Group
Questionable Content
Dork Tower
The Oatmeal

Kate Bush, Pink Floyd, Joan Jett, Warren Zevon,
Sarah McLachlan, Billy Joel, Barenaked Ladies, Clannad, Concrete Blonde, The Cranberries, Dar Williams, David Bowie, Depeche Mode, The Dresden Dolls, The Eagles, ELP, Elton John, Everclear, Evanescence, Fiddler's Green, Garbage, Great Big Sea, Heart, Hal Ketchum, Jimmy Buffet, Joan Osborne, John Denver, Jon Astley, Kim Carnes, The Kinks, Laurie Anderson, Led Zeppelin, Loreena McKennitt, Ludwig van Beethoven, Mannheim Steamroller, Meat Loaf, Melissa Etheridge, Melissa Ferrick, Oingo Boingo, Pat Benatar, Paula Cole, Peter Gabriel, Pink, Placebo, The Pogues, The Police, Queen, Roxette, Styx, Talking Heads, Tangerine Dream, Tanita Tikaram, Tori Amos, Trans-Siberian Orchestra, Vangelis, The Who, Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart
Just to name a few.

Food: Italian, new kinds I haven't tried.

Meat and cheese. Meat with cheese melted over it and a bit of red sauce in the middle and a side of spaghetti.

Tea: In winter, Twinings Lady Grey tea, loose leaf. Which I need to find a new source for, my old source (Marty's in Newton) no longer carries it.

Scotch: smoky and peaty, from the Islands or Islay. I tend to collect much more than I drink. A single bottle can last me a couple of years or longer. I'm now up to 14 bottles, which at my current rate of consumption will last me into my late 50's.

What no one plays games anymore?
Skyrim, COD, Arcanum, Tomb Raider, Far Cry, Uncharted. Admittedly I don't play video games all that often lately.
I just recently acquired Mansions of Madness and seek interested parties to play it.

Fun game I found to play on my Android; Call of Cthulhu: Wasted Land It's set in the trenches of WWI and you battle Germans, an ancient cult, and more...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Air, shelter, water, food, clothing. In that order.

If you can tell me how long you can go without the above items you win a prize.

A knife is also very useful.

Seriously, I've learned through experience that other than the above I can live without everything else.

I am however extremely fond of All Hallows Eve
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Sex, why do I like what I like, why do others like what they like.

How the world would be if I was in charge... ;)

Pre-victorian era fantasy steampunk and clockpunk (yes with elves and magic and supernatural creatures.)

Going on a real safari and how to do all that entails without actually killing any animals.

We all dream of a world of sunshine, happiness and peace.
The problem is:
Half of the people think it sounds like a wonderful place to live in;
The other half think it sounds like a wonderful place to pillage.

If it's possible for either the Democrats or Republicans to come up with a candidate I'd be happy to vote for. (Ok I don't really spend much time thinking about that because I'm an eternal optimist and I'm positive neither party can get it together.)
So I am always voting for the lesser of two evils, that is until the day Cthulu runs for office...

Did you know OKC has a forum?
OKC doesn't want you to know.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Hanging out with friends.
Watching Netflix or a DVD at home or reading a book.
Maybe playing a video game.
Getting take out from Yan's China Bistro
Never hanging out in a bar or club.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
As you can see from my stats, I'm a sucker for answering these questions on OkCupid.

I enjoy white milk and chocolate milk equally...

I have a couple boxes of Zombie Max ammunition...

Gloves are not the only one...
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You have even the slightest desire to have any form of contact with me. Since joining OKC in 2008 I've only sent about two dozen unsolicited "hey wanna hang out" messages (I just counted.) Most other messages I send are to ask a simple question or offer a book or movie suggestion. I also send YouTube video links I think people might get a kick out of, doesn't mean I'm stalking you, means I read your profile...

I rated your profile 4 or 5 stars (now just liked) or I added you to my favorites. I didn't message you because although there is something about you that I like, I like to know it's reciprocal and you messaging me is a pretty good indicator.

Just because you message me I do not assume it means you wish to have sex with me or my girlfriend and I...
No really, subtlety in this area is lost on me, spell it out if that's what you want.
Otherwise I will think you actually want to do whatever it is you message me about.
You're kinky, into BDSM, maybe bisexual. I've been in S&M relationships exclusively since I was 17, I'm not changing now.
You like wearing gloves, leather, latex, or PVC and you want someone to dress you up.
You're a gay tomboy.
You want to try a threesome with a kinky couple.
You're Deunan Knute or Allison Hart-Burnett or you know who they are.

You're a succubus, I've always figured they must be a fun time in bed :).
Platonic possibilities:
You're not afraid of guns and want to go to the range.

You are afraid of guns but you want to conquer your fear.
You realize there is obviously more to me beyond this specifically targeted profile and you really meant it when you checked New Friends/Activity Partners/LD Pen Pals. You want someone to hang out with. Watch a movie now and then, play a game. Maybe go hiking, kayaking or get a little range time in.

You want to learn to shoot, I am a certified firearms instructor, I've been teaching women to shoot since 1996.
You want to learn how to navigate using a map and compass and other outdoor skills.
You want to learn to take photos or have your photo taken (maybe even just to get a new profile pic.)
You read this far...