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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 18–50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex

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Last online
Yesterday – 6:49pm
Straight, Queer
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
5' 11" (1.80m)
Body Type
Atheism and laughing about it
Working on Space camp
Doesn’t want kids
English (Fluently), German (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I bet you won't read the whole profile.

I'll start with the most important detail, I'm currently in a relationship with an absolutely wonderful, sexy, intelligent and beautiful woman, she is interested in meeting another woman to scene with on occasion casually, so I'm here partly to see if I can help with that. She is also quite the voyeur. She would also like to be watched. We've been together almost 12 years.

My girlfriend is also interestingly (at least to me) very interested in me finding a kinky FWB, just In case you aren't interested in getting involved with a couple.

She mentioned recently that she would like to have a woman watch us together, with no physical participation required on the woman's part.

I happen to like tomboys, androgynous, genderqueer and butch women. I also like punks and goths, though I'm not one myself. Ideally a woman who is an equal mix of effeminate fag and butch dyke, a tomboy fag. My girlfriend prefers them more femme, like herself. I too like femmes, my girlfriend being an excellent example.
I'm a top and I've never been in a vanilla relationship.
I used to teach S&M 101 for a local leather group.

I'm also just interested in meeting interesting people. Just to on occasion hang out with or talk about movies with, hike with etc.

In my free time I read, I go hiking, the Lynn Woods are a surprisingly good place to hike, or mountain biking, target shooting, or do more photography and occasional camping. I do some sea kayaking which I really enjoy. I do a lot of bike riding along the beach.

I reload my own ammunition for most of the target shooting I do. Want to learn about it? Just ask.

I'm interested in and have done a good bit of fetish style photography for friends and with my girlfriend.
(If you were to have a military style outfit (18th or 19th century? Revolutionary War, Prussian?) laying around and you wanted to do some modeling in it with a firearm and learn how to shoot if you don't already know how to then let me know. I may be able to help you.)

I am kinky, quiet, and inquisitive

I enjoy exercising on a regular basis.

I'm like an onion

I'm a veteran.

What else would you like to know?
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Recovering from an emergency appendectomy on 16 Aug...
I don't recommend it. Finally allowed to lift over 10lbs...

I'm successfully self employed.

I do computer support.
I'm a photographer and I teach photography.
I'm a technical illustrator.
I do handyman work.
I'm a firearms instructor, certified by both MA State Police and the NRA.

I tend to keep busy but on occasion have free time to try something new, which I always enjoy doing.

I'm at Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu classes 4-6 times a week and the gun range at least once a week.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Pistol and rifle shooting.
Apparently I'm not too bad at shooting clay pigeons either.

I don't hunt, as much as I shoot you'd think I would have been hunting but I never have been, not that I have any objection to it, just never had the chance.
Just ask if you'd like to come along to the range, NSA. I really enjoy showing people how to shoot.

Photography (I'm a professional photographer.)(DSLR but on occasion a 4x5 film camera.) I teach as well.

Sitting quietly and patiently in the woods waiting for some little critter to come along so I can photograph it.

General fixing of things from mechanical items to computers.

I can detail strip a M1911A1 pistol blindfolded with just the tools in the pistol and a .45 ACP cartridge.
I can put it back together blindfolded as well.

Technical illustration

Using a bullwhip of which I have over a half dozen.

I'm also very good with Adobe Photoshop and Illustrator.

I'm not too bad at sharpening a knife.

I can make fire with water, seriously.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Hunter green hanky, left back pocket. Though that is by means the only color of hanky I could wear.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Favorite season: Fall

I am extremely fond of All Hallows Eve. In fact Halloween is the only holiday I have any real interest in.

Lord of the Rings, The Hobbit, anything about: Joan of Arc, supernatural horror,Victorian ghost stories, werewolves (Lone werwolves, not in packs like today's authors seem to like writing them, also they are far better than vampires.) Curse of the Wolfman, Silver Bullet, And Then There Were None (not the original title,) The Legend of Sleepy Hollow, H.P. Lovecraft, Edgar Allen Poe, H. Rider Haggard, Red Riding Hood, Sir Aurthur Conan Doyle, The various Supernatural/Fantastic Sherlock Holmes anthologies. Revolutionary War histories.

The Door of the Unreal by Gerald Biss
A classic of werewolf literature.

“Eye of the Storm” by Kelley Eskridge (novella.) You can find it in these anthologies;
-Dangerous Space
-Beyond Binary: Genderqueer and Sexually Fluid Speculative Fiction
-Sirens and Other Daemon Lovers

"Taboo" by Geoffrey Household
An excellent werewolf styled story.
You can find it in
-Great Tales of Terror and the Supernatural
Know a good classic werewolf tale? Please pass it along.

James Bond books by Ian Fleming.

The Richard Sharpe series of books by Bernard Cornwell.

I enjoy reading books about Safaris. "African Game Trails" by Theodore Roosevelt it is, to say the least, fascinating. "Man-eaters of Kumaon" by Jim Corbet is also extremely interesting. "The Man-Eaters of Tsavo" by John Henry Patterson was interesting but not a riveting read. The movie (The Ghost and the Darkness) was more exciting although fictionalized to an extent. The lions did however kill roughly 135 people in just one year which is extremely unusual.
In a 2005 study published in Nature, it was found that "Lions have killed more than 560 Tanzanians since 1990..." In just one country in Africa lions kill on average 37 people a year.

Indiana Jones ( Raiders is the best of course), Blade Runner, Sleepy Hollow, Lord of the Rings, Lawrence of Arabia, Layer Cake, The Princess Bride, Jim Henson movies, Legend, The Ghost and the Darkness, Exaclibur, Aliens, Evil Dead series, Underworld, Tomb Raider, The Wolfman, In Bruges, The Usual Suspects, Serenity, Tears of the Sun, Act of Valor,Saving Private Ryan, Appleseed, American Werewolf in London, Dr. Horrible's Sing-Along Blog, Clue,Unthinkable, Solomon Kane, Don't be afraid of the Dark, Deathwatch, Stardust, Elvira Mistress of the Dark
Horror movies, especially supernatural horror.
James Bond (I have all of them on BluRay.)
Star Trek and Star Wars movies.

I like movies with Easter Eggs.

Han shot first.
There is no debate.
In fact he was the only one who shot, Greedo never even gets a shot off.

Superman vs Batman, Superman wins every time.
Again nothing to debate.

I'm always trying to find a supernatural horror movie that can give me a good nightmare.

I don't have cable.
I will occasionally watch shows on Netflix, Hulu or other online venues.
Burn Notice, The Blacklist.
People have been telling me for years that I'm Ron Swanson, and it only annoyed me, now having seen the first few seasons of Parks and Rec I now realize they were complimenting me.

Penny Dreadful Looking forward to season 3.

I just started watching Sleepy Hollow on Hulu.

I don't watch sports. I have no interest in baseball, football, basketball, hockey, soccer, etc.

OKC seemed to have forgotten about them.
Platinum Grit
Girl Genius
Least I Could Do
Looking For Group
Questionable Content
Dork Tower
The Oatmeal

Kate Bush, Pink Floyd, Joan Jett, Warren Zevon,
Sarah McLachlan, Billy Joel, Barenaked Ladies, Clannad, Concrete Blonde, The Cranberries, Dar Williams, David Bowie, Depeche Mode, The Dresden Dolls, The Eagles, ELP, Elton John, Rush, AC/DC, Everclear, Evanescence, Fiddler's Green, Garbage, Great Big Sea, Heart, Hal Ketchum, Jimmy Buffet, Joan Osborne, John Denver, Jon Astley, Kim Carnes, The Kinks, Laurie Anderson, Led Zeppelin, Loreena McKennitt, Ludwig van Beethoven, Mannheim Steamroller, Meat Loaf, Melissa Etheridge, Melissa Ferrick, Oingo Boingo, Pat Benatar, Paula Cole, Peter Gabriel, Pink, Placebo, The Pogues, The Police, Queen, Roxette, Styx, Talking Heads, Tangerine Dream, Tanita Tikaram, Tori Amos, Trans-Siberian Orchestra, Vangelis, The Who, Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart
Just to name a few.

Food: Italian, new kinds I haven't tried.
Kalamata olives.

Meat and cheese. Meat with cheese melted over it and a bit of red sauce in the middle and a side of spaghetti.

Tea: In winter, Twinings Lady Grey tea, loose leaf. Which I need to find a new source for, my old source (Marty's in Newton) no longer carries it.

Scotch: single malt, smoky and peaty, from the Islands or Islay.

What no one plays games anymore?
Witcher III, Skyrim, COD, Arcanum, Tomb Raider, Far Cry, Uncharted. Admittedly I don't play video games all that often lately.
I have Mansions of Madness and seek interested parties to play it.
D&D many moons ago.

Fun game I found to play on my Android; Call of Cthulhu: Wasted Land It's set in the trenches of WWI and you battle Germans, an ancient cult, and more...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Air, shelter, water, food, clothing. In that order.

If you can tell me how long you can go without the above items you win a prize.

A knife, cordage and a container for water is also very useful.

Seriously, I've learned through experience that other than the above I can live without everything else.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Sex, why do I like what I like, why do others like what they like.

How the world would be if I was in charge... ;)

Pre-victorian and Victorian era fantasy steampunk and clockpunk (yes with elves and magic and supernatural creatures.)

Going on a real safari, and how to do all that entails without actually killing any animals.

It is impossible to travel into the future and meet yourself, unless...
You never actually travel into your future.

We all dream of a world of sunshine, happiness and peace.
The problem is:
Half of the people think it sounds like a wonderful place to live in;
The other half think it sounds like a wonderful place to pillage.

Thigh gaps and why the hell people began thinking they are a good thing. According to Wikipedia; a thigh gap is a space between the inner thighs of women when standing upright with knees touching.
Ladies your thighs are supposed to touch when you stand upright with your knees together.

If it's possible for either the Democrats or Republicans to come up with a candidate I'd be happy to vote for. (Ok I don't really spend much time thinking about that because I'm an eternal optimist and I'm positive neither party can get it together.)
So I am always voting for the lesser of two evils, that is until the day Cthulhu runs for office...

Did you know OKC has a forum?
OKC doesn't want you to know.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Hanging out with friends.
Watching Netflix or a DVD at home or reading a book.
Maybe playing a video game.
Getting take out from Yan's China Bistro
Never hanging out in a bar or club.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have a couple boxes of Zombie Max ammunition... Because I know for a fact that the time is coming when...
They will be collectors items.

I have a not very active tumblr page.
But you will have to ask me for it if you're curious.

Gloves are not the only one....
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You have even the slightest desire to have any form of contact with me.

Since joining OKC in 2008 I've only sent about a dozen unsolicited "hey wanna hang out" messages (I just counted.) Most other messages I send are to ask a simple question or offer a book or movie suggestion. I also send YouTube video links I think people might get a kick out of, doesn't mean I'm stalking you, means I read your profile...

I rated your profile 4 or 5 stars (now just liked) or I added you to my favorites. I didn't message you because although there is something about you that I like, I like to know it's reciprocal and you messaging me is a pretty good indicator.

Just because you message me I do not assume it means you wish to have sex with me or my girlfriend and I...
No really, subtlety in this area is lost on me, spell it out if that's what you want.
Otherwise I will think you actually want to do whatever it is you message me about.
You're kinky, into BDSM, maybe bisexual. I've been in S&M relationships exclusively since I was 17, I'm not changing now.
You like wearing gloves, leather, latex, or PVC and you want someone to dress you up.
You're a gay tomboy.
You want to try a threesome with a kinky couple.
You're Deunan Knute, Allison Hart-Burnett or Jasmine Tridevil or you know who they are.

You're a succubus, I've always figured they must be a fun time in bed :).

You have a sense of humor.
You have this friend and you think we'd really hit it off. You'd be surprised how many great relationships of mine have started that way.
Platonic possibilities:
You are interested in trading your organizing skills for something.
You like guns and want a range buddy.

You're curious about guns and want to learn more and go to the range.

You are afraid of guns but you want to conquer your fear.
You want to meet up for a hike in Lynn Woods "the second largest municipal park in the United States." Maybe explore Dungeon Rock.
You realize there is obviously more to me beyond this specifically targeted profile and you really meant it when you checked New Friends/Activity Partners/LD Pen Pals. You want someone to hang out with. Watch a movie now and then, play a game. Maybe go hiking, kayaking or get a little range time in.

You want to learn to shoot, I am a certified firearms instructor, I've been teaching women to shoot since 1996, women make much better students than the vast majority of men.
You want to learn how to navigate using a map and compass and other outdoor skills.
You want to learn to take photos or have your photo taken (maybe even just to get a new profile pic.)
You read this far...