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35 F Brooklyn, NY

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Last Online
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5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Judaism, but not too serious about it
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Has dogs and likes cats
English, Spanish

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My self-summary
The 1980s: Spend my childhood cavorting with editors and illustrators and Kermit and Gonzo both on and off the page and coloring in princesses that my mom draws for me. I'm on Sesame Street in a skit about washing your hands before you eat. My parents feed me great literature and beautiful words like food. Everything I know is secondhand. I have snap bracelets and collect garbage-pail kids. I have those white sheets with the primary color animals on wheels, and I make up my own bedtime and my own recipes which are frequently huge green cookies that tasted like soap and dirt.

The 1990s: Protest the the first war in Iraq with armbands in junior high school, listen to the Indigo Girls on my first CD player and finally feel understood, stave off my parents' attempts to get me to smoke pot, learn how to make rainbow friendship bracelets at music camps, write an autobiography about how I am a workaholic at age 12. Raise my hand too much, draw "calculus virgin" cartoons with my friends in calculus, attempt to figure out hair situation. Attempt to figure out makeup situation: In college, when pathologically under-slept, I rip out all of the eyelashes on my left eye with my eyelash-curler by accident when I am getting ready to play in the pit orchestra of a production of Sweeney Todd. The feeling of horror that courses through my entire body as I look down at that perfect row of eyelashes clamped in the curler makes me understand the profundity of my vanity. Later that night I also fall backwards down the stairs of the stage and break the meat grinder (see: Sweeney Todd). Eyelashes grow back.

The 00s: I develop a love-affair with old-time and bluegrass music. To this day there is nothing sexier to me than a great banjo player or fiddler. Inspired by the Dixie Chicks, I decide I will become a country music star, wear long skirts, and move to Austin. I spend a delicious summer traveling around North America on a grant's dime faking my way through all sorts of fantastic oldtimey music. I fall into, and in love with, violin teaching instead and I join many nyc bands. I cross state lines and interstate highways to chase dogs in hopes of rescuing them. Many of my favorite people have tried to curb my addiction, but I only let them down. Eight years ago I decided to keep a particularly pathetic rescue who has blossomed into a loving (and devilish) little pit bull named Honey. If you're gonna be mine, you might get sucked into this life of puppy-nabbing in one way or another.
What I’m doing with my life
Helping run two violin departments in Brooklyn and Tenafly, and teaching fledgling violinists to focus all of their brainpower on a box with four strings and a twig strung with horsehair. I fucking love it. I speak "kid", and my kids are no joke.

Infusing my coffee with mint.

Making messes, kissing while cleaning them up, and making things dirty again.

Cuddling the hell out of a devilish little pit-bull I found 8 years ago in the South Bronx.

Playing with the illustrious "Craigslist Quartet", trying to only eat home-cooked meals, biking boroughs and singing loudly as I go.
I’m really good at
Talking about things, laying it plain, shooting it straight.
Thinking before I speak.

and also losing everything and breaking stuff. That's, like, what I'm the best at.


Conversation and quietness. Really really good conversation feels like scattering cue balls look.

I like puzzles, and I'll find the chink in your armor and (tenderly) pry you open. Be prepared. You were warned.
The first things people usually notice about me
Always the hair.
Crazy big smile.
Hourglass figure. Badaboom.
Sweet as sugar.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I live by the motto, "Never rush, never rest," so I'm always reading something slowly. I could be the slowest reader on earth. Some of my old faves:

Catch-22 and
David Copperfield
Lie Down in Darkness by Styron,
A Heartbreaking Work of Staggering Genius,
Sam Lipsyte,
Poisonwood Bible.
I love the Hitchiker's Guide Trilogy
and I think this little kid book called A Hole is To Dig is pure genius and also the only book that takes me less than 7 months to get through.

I am not so much a vegetarian as a snobatarian. I'm kind of like that Portlandia skit. It makes me blush a little. Also, if I had to choose rainbow sprinkles or chocolate chips, I'd choose sprinkles every time; I like my food to be really cool-looking.

Lately I have been so into seeing classical music concerts. Chris Merritt, Family of the Year, Brandi Carlisle and Avett Bros. can float my boat just as much.

Friday Night Lights changed my entire understanding of everything. I had a mini nervous breakdown about the final episode.

big sucker for a Rom-Com. Also, Annie, Noises Off, Back to the Future, Repo Man, Good Will Hunting, Kicking and Screaming (1995), Donnie Darko, Pump Up the Volume, High Fidelity, Being John Malkovich, Breaking the Waves. Beasts of the Southern Wild should have won best picture. That movie had something big to say. Super dorkumentary fan. I loved Exit Through the Gift Shop and just saw Stories We Tell. Pretty great.
The six things I could never do without
1) A Dog--not necessarily mine.
2) Touch.
3) Bike.
4) WNYC-All Things Considered, Brian Lehrer, Radio Lab, This American Life, Wait! Wait!, Leonard Lopate. Freakonomics. Total junkie. Savage Lovecast.
5) Something to get better at.
6) A to-do list.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Where you are. What you will look like, what you will feel like, when I find you. My heart beats for two things: work and love, and I find that my happiness in one benefits the other symbiotically, like mutual muses. I want to have an incredible family with someone incredible. To be clear, I envision children in that family. I am not afraid to date someone with kids. I think I'd be an awesome step-mom, if that were required. I also love what I do, and I dedicate my mind, heart and soul to it all day long. It can be hard to turn the brain off, you know? Also, you will know it If I'm into you. I try to be really really transparent. I'm really hoping all that stuff is kind of how you are too.

moving to West Virginia and playing old time fiddle in the smokey mountains.

Child development: I really like helping children solve their own problems, throwing questions back at them to see what they come up with. I don't like to teach children what to think; I like to think with children about how learning works. I try to remember this: There are those children who make you love teaching, and those children who help you become a better teacher. Every interaction is a useful one.

Buying a big plot of land somewhere beautiful, wild, and cheap and having an animal sanctuary. This is the part where my friends laugh at me, but just know ye this, friends: I am not laughing.
On a typical Friday night I am
Not at bars alone, not raging, not sleeping.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
A lot of times I accidentally stop the scanner on the radio in the car because I'm like, "Ooh! What's that pretty song?!" only to realize that it's the Christian Rock station.

I want to get that Panther's motto, "Clear eyes, full hearts, can't lose." tattooed on my arm.
I’m looking for
  • Everybody
  • Ages 28–45
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For short-term dating
You should message me if
You're secure and confident.
You make women feel like women.
You wonder about a lot of stuff--unimportant stuff welcome.
You're smart enough to be humble about it.
You have a big life and prefer that I do too.
You're part edge and irreverence, part level-headed and sane.
You're honest with and at peace with yourself.
You're a learner, not a knower.
You're going after your dreams.
You're an exploratory and deep conversationalist.
You're a flirt, and effusive with the compliments. sucker for a flirt.
You are into the idea of a big pit-bull.

Where women are concerned, my heart belongs to those who present more masculinely; i'm rendered helpless by the beautiful hidden mystery that lies beneath the clothes. Rachel Maddow, you absolutely dismantle me.