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32 Toronto, Ontario, CA Woman


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 35–99
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 6:46pm
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body type
Full figured
Pisces, and it’s fun to think about
Working on Ph.D program
Open relationship
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), French (Okay), Latin (Poorly), Ancient Greek (Poorly), Italian (Okay)

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My self-summary
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Science fiction enthusiast. Cat lover. Introvert who has learned to be extroverted. Maneater extraordinaire. Music connoisseur. Queer, fat femme. Homebody. Stoner. Feminist (not mainstream white feminism though---I support sex workers, trans folks, incarcerated people, and other marginalized peeps). Polyamorous (in a common-law relationship that is entirely open). Kinky. Oh and fuck the police.

If I tell you my Grandma died as an excuse for why I did or didn't do something, I'm lying.

I'm semi-new to Toronto and beyond looking for dating prospects, I'm also looking for smoking pals--the kind who like to nerd out over music and/or science fiction and/or movies.

Life goals: learn to pick locks, learn to roll a joint one-handed, learn how to wield eyeliner

TL;DR science fiction, cats, drugs and sex.
What I’m doing with my life
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Being overeducated. Living life as a professional student and layabout. Working on a PhD program in Gender, Feminist and Women's Studies. My MA was a discourse analysis/lit review of performance/performativity in sex work and my doctoral research (tentatively) looks at sex work and mental health (I do not do research of the "prostitution causes PTSD" or "sex workers are all mentally unstable" varieties).

I work in the sex industry as an escort. As a result, I'm also highly active in the sex workers' rights movement and was formerly Vice-Chair at a sex work org in Ottawa. As an activist, I also support other inter-related movements including Indigenous rights and sovereignty, prison abolition, anti-racism, etc. As a PhD student, I also work as a TA (teaching assistant).

I also occasionally write articles--I've been published at RH Reality Check (, Capital Xtra!, and
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
spelling, overthinking, dancing poorly, fucking, rolling joints, and naming cats.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My hair? It's shaved on one side, but that's kind of a popular 'do these days--I continually flirt with the idea of submitting my picture to the Tumblr :
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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The Princess Bride by William Goldman

anything by Roald Dahl

One Hundred Years Of Solitude by Gabriel Garcia Marquez

The Day of the Triffids by John Wyndham

Meatcake by Dame Darcy

Ed the Happy Clown by Chester Brown

How Poetry Saved My Life: A Hustler's Memoir by Amber Dawn

Carsick: John Waters Hitchhikes Across America

Me Talk Pretty One Day by David Sedaris

When I have time to read for pleasure, I tend to stick to science fiction/post-apocalyptic/dystopian and new weird genres.

Theory stuff: post-structuralism, deconstruction, discourse analysis, Foucault, Butler, Bataille, Baudrillard, sexuality and desire, performance, and sex work.

I generally like my movies fucked-up, gorgeous, violent or some combination of all three. I love horror movies. I also enjoy a lot of 80's action films because they hold a special place in my childhood. And I'm a sucker for a good love story.

The Big Lebowski, Ghostbusters, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Dawn of the Dead, Shaun of the Dead, Army of Darkness, Oldboy, Audition, The Descent, Little Miss Sunshine, Terminator 2, Total Recall, The Royal Tenenbaums, Rushmore, Amelie, Harold and Maude, The Nightmare Before Christmas, Secretary, Planet Terror, The Addams Family, Dead Alive, Monster Squad, Memento, Hot Fuzz, Code 46, Fallen Angels, Antichrist, Thirst, Wet Hot American Summer, The Shining, Session 9, Drive, etc.

Twin Peaks, Monkey Dust, Spaced, The League of Gentleman, I'm Alan Partridge, Home Movies, Father Ted, Buffy, True Blood, The Wire, The Walking Dead, Bob's Burgers, Game of Thrones, American Horror Story, True Detective

I will listen to just about anything once. I haven't met a genre of music I didn't like. I dig a lot of angry ladies, depressing men, crazy types who lock[ed] themselves in cabins, and dissonance. And hip-hop. I fucking love hip-hop.

PJ Harvey, Fiona Apple, Nina Simone, Feist, Pixies, Pavement, CocoRosie, Timber Timbre, Le Tigre, Kanye West, Fugees, Lauryn Hill, Jay Munly, Slim Cessna's Auto Club, Janis Joplin, Beirut, Julie Doiron, Captain Beefheart, Patti Smith, The Stooges, Heart, The Smiths, Yeah Yeah Yeah's, The Kills, Elliott Smith, Joy Division, The Cure, Depeche Mode, Radiohead, Neko Case, Regina Spektor, Dizzee Rascal, Kaki King, Lykke Li, Rasputina, Bonnie "Prince" Billy, El Perro Del Mar, Oh Susanna, Gillian Welch, Cat Power, Ratatat, Dolly Parton, Aesop Rock, Mary Timony, Portishead, Amy Winehouse , Black Mountain, Lightning Dust, Themselves, Cannibal Ox, Wu-Tang Clan, The Antlers, Bad Brains, Blonde Redhead, Xiu Xiu, Ray Charles, Albert Ayler, Yelawolf, Jonathon Richman/Modern Lovers, The Make-Up! Robert Wyatt etc.

FOOD: chocolate, asparagus, edamame and pickled eggplant. I will actually eat just about anything. As long as there's no cilantro. That shit tastes like soap.

The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
my cat.
my partner.
my cat.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
stuff I should read; my thesis; what movie to watch; food I'd like to eat but won't go to the effort of making/getting; kinky sex
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
most likely doing one of the following:



*hanging out with my partner


The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I once got paid to make fart noises.
You should message me if
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*you're intelligent, witty and love nerdy fat girls.
*you have queer/feminist/leftist politics
optional: you appreciate a fine joint and are well-versed in BDSM as a dominant/top.

*I don't answer form emails or "what's up" type messages, and generally, messages which are just a physical compliment, e.g. "you're so fine," will also be ignored. *