My family motto is "We don't fuck around." I'm either in or I'm out. If I say I'm gonna be somewhere, I show up. "I don't feel up to it" is never an excuse. I keep up with my friends - there are many - and attend their birthday parties and see their crappy plays. I write great emails. I don't have time; I make time. I know how to use a semi-colon. I can sit on my ass and do nothing, but it's usually when I've planned it. I am a feminist. I ski double black diamond and take the big jumps in the terrain park. I pay a little more than half the time, but not if she expects it. I talk to kids like they're adults, and they seem to prefer it. I stand on the subway and don't hold on. I fuck up sometimes, and I'm afraid of shiny bugs.

I take matters of character, integrity and humor very seriously. If I say I'm gonna be somewhere, I'm there, and I expect the same from others. If you can't handle that, best of luck but no thanks. Otherwise, I'm pretty relaxed and open to almost anything.

I love to travel abroad, but I don't stand in lines to see the view from the tallest building in a city. I learn the language, eat the food and get drunk on whatever it is they get drunk on. I walk everywhere and get lost for hours. I have the soles of my shoes replaced every two months. Recent trips: Vancouver, London, Rotterdam, Austin, New Zealand, Berlin (all for film festivals).

"No amount of fire or freshness can challenge what a man will store up in his ghostly heart."

Just a guy looking to make a connection.

Making my art and changing the world on the side. Working on my little company. It has something to do with movies and nerds. Trying to scam more people to fly me to far-off film festivals to speak on panels on the future of media.

showing up, my job, giving walking tours of The City, ice fishing, trigonometry, crossing against the light, drinking outside, getting paper cuts, precision canoeing, working with my hands, pissing off French movie producers.

I rock a mean bhangra, for a white guy.

curly hair; hazel eyes; a half-dozen band-aids on my otherwise Palmolive-soft (yet masculine) hands

that I've strangled myself on my headphone wires

Music: Tom Waits, U2, Ella Fitzgerald, Parliament Funkadelic, Miles Davis, DANGERDOOM, Gorillaz (just about everything Dangermouse touches), Jeff Buckley, Joan as Police Woman, Vince Guaraldi, Kings of Convenience, Decemberists, Radiohead, Beatles, Gabriel Faure, The Police, A Tribe Called Quest, Cibo Matto, all covers of "I Shall Be Released." I'd like to find more live funk music to dance to.

Movies: Manhattan, Spirited Away, Fabuleux destin d'Amélie Poulain, Before Sunset, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Dr. Strangelove, Trainspotting, Kill Bill (both, but 2 is better), V for Vendetta, Planet Terror, Full Metal Jacket, In the Mood for Love, Sullivan's Travels, Bowfinger, Pan's Labyrinth, WALL-E, The Night of the Living Duck

(My favorite movie scene is from "Singing in the Rain" when, at the end of the title song, Gene Kelly passes another man on the street and gives him his umbrella. I tried that once. I was having a great day and by some stroke of luck was holding an umbrella when out of nowhere it began to pour. I passed a man who looked like he was 112 and could have been blown away any second, so I went up to him to give him my umbrella. He just walked right by me without so much as making eye contact. The old bastard crushed my dream! Crushed it, I tell you!)

Books: Nobody's Perfect by Anthony Lane, The Pleasure of My Company by Steve Martin, The Great Gatsby by F. Scott Fitzgerald, Mostly Harmless by Douglas Adams, Straight Man by Richard Russo, A Heartbreaking Work of Staggering Genius, New Yorker best-of collections (cartoons, Talk of the Town, Shouts & Murmurs)

Food: Thai, Indian, steamed dumplings, anything with pineapple, dark chocolate, trail mix, Port wine, Corsendonk, green olives in vodka, hummus, big damn sushi rolls with mango slices and those crunchy things. Spanish meatballs in squid ink from a tapas place in Soho.

Marx Brother: Harpo

Stooge: Larry

Folk comedy duos: Smothers Brothers, Flight of the Conchords (saw them live - pretty awesome)

Other: xkcd; diaereses in English; trains; phrygian guitar scales; Large Hadron Collider (UPDATE: the LHC is busted, so I'm switching to Tevatron. Fermilab rocks.); euphony; "myriad" as an adjective; Weegee/Arthur Fellig; Olmsted & Vaux; TED Talks; microloans; vertical farms; Pehdtsckjmba

Only five things: Friends (seriously), Music, Movies, The New Yorker, a great bodega.

What is the relationship between the rotation of the knobs in my shower and the temperature of the water that comes out? So far, I know it's neither linear nor direct.

"Sometimes life leaves a hundred dollar bill on your dresser, and you don't realize until later that it's because it f*cked you." - shitmydadsays

Adventure, excitement - a Jedi craves not these things. But a filmguy does.

I suck at: chess, checkers, Chinese checkers, Go, Reversi, Othello (the game), Othello (the play), ping pong, pool, online dating, inline skating, Judaism, pugilism, tying shoes, telling time and making lists.

It is entirely possible that I have seen your profile and think you may be groovy but have not written because your profile doesn't show anything in particular to talk about. I'm probably not going to write you a message about how nice it is that you like "Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind," even though it is nice. Drop me a line with a bit of something specific or challenge me, and let's see where the conversation takes us.

BAD reasons NOT to write me:
* you think Internet dating is stupid
* you think all dating is stupid
* you're a little crazy
* you're too cool to ever venture north of 14th street

GOOD reasons NOT to write me:
* you don't listen
* you can't take a joke
* you're a lot crazy
* you don't listen

GREAT reasons to WRITE me:
* you are keen to go find some wacky performance art
* you are awesome at something (tell me about it)
* you are blithe and/or bonny
* you are hilarious
* you play/eat/drink like a champ
* you're a strong, intelligent, outspoken woman interested in meeting a strong, intelligent, outspoken man

Here, I'll make it easy for you. Fill this out and send it:

_____ filmguy24,

I _____ your profile. At first, I thought you were _____, but then I realized you're probably just _____. Your _____ totally reminds me of this time I had _____ between my _____. I _____ hope you'll write back soon. Maybe if we _____, I'll tell you the whole story over _____. Then we can make _____.

_____,
_____

P.S. Why is your name filmguy24? Are you really _____?