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Books: Freedom (Jonathan Franzen), The Golden Notebook (Doris
Lessing), The Bone People (Keri Hulme), The Toughest Indian in the
World (Sherman Alexie), The God of Small Things (Arundhati Roy),
Skinny Legs and All (Tom Robbins), The Temple of my Familiar (Alice
Walker), Ines of My Soul (Isabel Allende)....I like fiction that
enhances my understanding of real-life political/personal
Movies: She's Gotta Have It, Wild At Heart, Salaam Bombay!, Monsoon
Wedding, Mississippi Masala, What's Eating Gilbert Grape, Annie
Hall, Purple Rain, Amores Perros, Dirty Dancing, No Country for Old
Men, The Outsiders, Labyrinth, Volver, The Neverending Story, The
Wrestler, My Own Private Idaho, The Karate Kid, Shortbus, Mermaids,
Orlando, Mo' Better Blues, Biutiful, Pina....I like Spike Lee,
Woody Allen, Akira Kurosawa, Pedro Almodóvar, Alejandro González
Iñárritu, Darren Aronofsky. I am completely in love with the films
of Mira Nair.
I also love the comedy of Bill Hicks.
TV: Shameless, Louis, Curb your Enthusiasm, Breaking Bad, Dexter,
Parks and Recreation, Men of a Certain Age, Enlightened, Battlestar
Galactica, Freaks and Geeks, Six Feet Under, Perfect Strangers, The
Wire, Weeds, Nurse Jackie, The Sopranos, and a few guiltier
pleasures I won't name here. I feel we're living in a time when the
best and worst TV co-exist. In any case, I don't want to be in a
relationship where TV watching takes up too much romantic space.
There are much better things to be doing with the one you love, if
you get my drift.
Music: Tarrus Riley, Talib Kweli, Buffy Sainte-Marie, Sinead
O'Connor, Joan Armatrading, Joan Baez, Bob Dylan, Bob Marley,
Billie Holiday, Nick Drake, Neko Case, Prince, Tupac Shakur, Vybz
Kartel, Little Dragon, Sean Paul, Rihanna, Beyonce, Ayo, Aaliyah,
Heart, David Bowie, Michael Jackson, Erykah Badu, Mos Def, Nina
Simone, M.I.A., Marvin Gaye, Morcheeba, Lauryn Hill, Alicia Keys,
Calle 13, Rage Against the Machine, Digable Planets, Fleetwood Mac,
Janis Joplin, Jeff Buckley, Missy Elliott, Ce'cile, Sublime, En
Vogue, Edith Piaf, Sade...Soul, Reggae, Dancehall, R&B, Hip
Hop, Soca, Chutney, Blues, Folk, New Jack Swing. I hate
Food: Black beans, brown rice, avocado, lime, salsa, yoghurt. Mmm.
Eggs. Hummus. Corn tortillas. Sweet Potato. Kale. Shrimp. Garlic.
Cayenne. Lemon. Coconut. Almonds. Cashews. Ginger. Broccoli.
Salmon. Mushrooms and onions atop a good burger. Curry. Rice,
squash. Generally: Indian, Mexican, improvised, spicy. Really
trying not to eat much wheat, dairy, sugar, alcohol, or coffee
these days. It just generally feels better. But I make exceptions
at the right times.