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fire-flower

32 F Montreal, Quebec, CA

My Details

Last Online
Today – 3:19pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Other
Height
5′ 8″ (1.72m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Mostly other
Smokes
No
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Religion
Sign
Sagittarius, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Other
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Okay)

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My self-summary
Recently out of a relationship, and continually in awe about what relationships truly are to us...I can't believe how much they can teach us about ourselves and how painful that can be, and how fucking incredible that can be. I give a lot of myself in relationships, arguably too much at times, but I like to connect fully when I connect for real, and when I make a choice to do just that, I am loyal and will treat my man like a king.

I am a very independent person in spite of all this, and require solitude and space. One of my favourite things is just walking around the city in the hot sun, by myself, with my headphones on, people watching for hours.

I adore dogs, Rottweilers in particular.

I grew up in the woods of rural Quebec.

It turns me off when a man is into video games.

At this very moment I am (probably not) ready for a relationship, but am into meeting new people again, chilling out, having fun.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm spreading the word about events I feel can teach people to care about and think about things that I think are important to care about and think about. I organize and promote events about issues like systemic violence against indigenous communities (women in particular) and the environment, reproductive justice, sexual assault awareness, and queer and trans rights. Also: workshops, peer counselling services, the occasional party, marches, the occasional direct action, etc, etc. Sometimes I deal with the media, and it's an insane amount of work, but I mainly like it.

Politically, I am more interested in noticing who is being heard, who is not, understanding why, and then figuring out how to balance out how skewed it is than in telling myself that there are only two sides to a thing, and that they are in any way equal or equally deserving of attention. I am not the kind that is turned on by a major difference in political beliefs. While I'd like to be on the same page politically as any potential lover/partner, it is not a requirement for him to call himself an activist, and, at this point, I would prefer someone whose involvements do not overlap in every way with mine.

I used to do a good amount of freelance independent journalism also but am now focusing on my creative writing projects...I'm slowly working on a collection of creative/political/sexual fiction, personal essays and vignettes. And a few poems.

I've also just finished a Creative Writing masters program. I really hated being in school, and am incredibly happy to be finished. I plan on trying to get a job teaching in a cegep in the next year or so.
I’m really good at
Communicating, telling stories, finding surprising ways to describe things, being really really honest, showing affection, making others feel comfortable, dancing like mad, observing people closely, improvising food, coming up with t-shirt slogans and band names, traveling light, a few other things.
The first things people usually notice about me
The glowing, glimmering eye contact?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Freedom (Jonathan Franzen), The Golden Notebook (Doris Lessing), The Bone People (Keri Hulme), The Toughest Indian in the World (Sherman Alexie), The God of Small Things (Arundhati Roy), Skinny Legs and All (Tom Robbins), The Temple of my Familiar (Alice Walker), Ines of My Soul (Isabel Allende)....I like fiction that enhances my understanding of real-life political/personal struggles.

Movies: She's Gotta Have It, Wild At Heart, Salaam Bombay!, Monsoon Wedding, Mississippi Masala, What's Eating Gilbert Grape, Annie Hall, Purple Rain, Amores Perros, Dirty Dancing, No Country for Old Men, The Outsiders, Labyrinth, Volver, The Neverending Story, The Wrestler, My Own Private Idaho, The Karate Kid, Shortbus, Mermaids, Orlando, Mo' Better Blues, Biutiful, Pina....I like Spike Lee, Woody Allen, Akira Kurosawa, Pedro Almodóvar, Alejandro González Iñárritu, Darren Aronofsky. I am completely in love with the films of Mira Nair.

I also love the comedy of Bill Hicks.

TV: Louis, Curb your Enthusiasm, Breaking Bad, Dexter, Parks and Recreation, Men of a Certain Age, Enlightened, Battlestar Galactica, Freaks and Geeks, Six Feet Under, Perfect Strangers, The Wire, Weeds, Nurse Jackie, Mad Men, The Sopranos, Shameless and a few guiltier pleasures I won't name here. I feel we're living in a time when the best and worst TV co-exist. I'd still rather not watch it at all, but sometimes I just want it to chill the hell out after a long day. That said, I don't want to be in a relationship where TV watching takes up a lot of activity space.

Music: Tarrus Riley, Talib Kweli, Buffy Sainte-Marie, Sinead O'Connor, Joan Armatrading, Joan Baez, Bob Dylan, Bob Marley, Billie Holiday, Nick Drake, Neko Case, Prince, Tupac Shakur, Vybz Kartel, Little Dragon, Sean Paul, Rihanna, Beyonce, Ayo, Aaliyah, Heart, David Bowie, Michael Jackson, Erykah Badu, Mos Def, Nina Simone, M.I.A., Marvin Gaye, Morcheeba, Lauryn Hill, Alicia Keys, Calle 13, Rage Against the Machine, Digable Planets, Fleetwood Mac, Janis Joplin, Jeff Buckley, Missy Elliott, Ce'cile, Sublime, En Vogue, Edith Piaf, Sade...Soul, Reggae, Dancehall, R&B, Hip Hop, Soca, Chutney, Blues, Folk, New Jack Swing. I hate techno.

Food: Black beans, brown rice, avocado, lime, salsa, yoghurt. Mmm. Eggs. Hummus. Corn tortillas. Sweet Potato. Kale. Shrimp. Garlic. Cayenne. Lemon. Coconut. Almonds. Cashews. Ginger. Broccoli. Salmon. Mushrooms and onions atop a good burger. Curry. Rice, squash. Generally: Indian, Mexican, improvised, spicy. Really trying not to eat much wheat, dairy, sugar, alcohol, or coffee these days. It just generally feels better. But I make exceptions at the right times. Tea and shisha is a good date idea for me if you need one. :)
The six things I could never do without
Fire; love in all its forms; sex; creative power and possibility; change; my contact lenses.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to best spend a life...how to do myself justice....how to motivate myself and others simultaneously....being healthy...bridging the gap between art and activism....putting myself in environments where a love of people comes naturally...countering stereotypes and defying absolutes....political correctness and how politically oppressive it can be....how certainty is a colonial construct....sex.....love....dogs...relationships...etc.
On a typical Friday night I am
I'm not too typical about days of the week....Having dinner at a friend's house, or dancing, or out at some political/artistic event. Or at a house party, or relaxing with a movie or TV 'cause I'm exhausted. Or just sitting there, unable to focus, thinking something sexual. Depends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm an open book...I think that's pretty private.
I’m looking for
  • Straight guys only
  • Ages 28–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
If you possess a critical, questioning, discerning mind but are not obsessive. If you have a strong sense of humour. If you love & respect women. If you are honest. If you do not spend the majority of your time in front of a computer. If you see the worth in having fun, for it's own sake.

Please, please don't chat me, but write me a message if you want to get in touch.