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firecat
48 / F / bisexual / Available
Belmont, California
The Skinny
- Last Online
- Join Date
- Ethnicity
- White
- Height
- 5' 2" (1.57m).
- Body Type
- —
- Looking For
- New friends, Long-term dating, Short-term dating, Activity partners, Long-distance penpals
- Smokes
- No
- Drinks
- Rarely
- Drugs
- Never
- Religion
- Buddhism and laughing about it
- Sign
- —
- Education
- Graduated from college/university
- Job
- Computer / Hardware / Software
- Income
- —
- Kids
- Doesn’t want children
- Pets
- Likes dogs and Owns cats
- Languages
- English (Fluently), French (Okay), German (Poorly), Japanese (Poorly)
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Your Notes
Edit your notesI am occasionally cranky, frequently charmed, and sapiosexual.
My Self-Summary
I'm a fat, polyamorous, bisexual, butch kitty. I belong to the
Green party
but I voted for Obama. I'm a feminist, trying to get a grasp on
privilege.
Nontheist.
Buddhist.
Wordsmith by
trade.
Blog interests list dump:
2001: a space odyssey, 70s rock, a fetish for nuance, affective disorders, aging, aiee, akira kurosawa, alan rickman, alt.polyamory, alternative press expo, ambivert, amplectere potestem "et", androgyny, andy scott, animal planet, animal rescue, animal shelters, anime, anthropology, apple, artisanal cheeses, audio books, babylon 5, beading, being, bellies, bisexuality, buddhism, caffeine, cameo glass, carl brandon, cassandra, cat goddesses, cats, charlotte bronte, chivalry, cochlear implants, coffee, collage, collecting other people's hobbies, common sense, compassion, cpap, crochet, cute fat people, dale chihuly, devotion, dog agility, electric guitar, entropy, fabric, fantasy, fat activism, feminism, geekery, genderfuck, glam, glass, green, haiku, hair, harner shamanism, hayao miyazaki, holding hands, how things are made, iditarod, information, j. michael straczynski, j.r.r. tolkien, jane austen, judi dench, knitting, kuan yin, lace, lampworking, learning, libraries, listening, mac, martial arts, medicine, meditation, mindfulness, miss manners, music, mutual degrumplement, myth, nanowrimo, neil gaiman, nihongo, no dharma, nonduality, observation, obsession, peets, personality typing, peter weir, piano preludes, poetry, potential, pretty pictures, purple, queer, quotes, rainer maria rilke, re-railing, reading, rhetoric, robert graves, romantic friendship, romantic love, rumi, samurai, san francisco, sandman, sanrio, sapiosexuality, science fiction, shapeshifting, shyness, silence, speculative fiction, steampunk, succulents, sumo, swimming, t.s. eliot, taiko, tao, textures, the bechdel ginger benchmark, the sweet, theravada, tiptree, touch, transformation, unintentional communities, ursula k. le guin, water, william butler yeats, wind energy, wings of desire, wireworking, wiscon, wombats, working dogs, writing, yarn
Blog interests list dump:
2001: a space odyssey, 70s rock, a fetish for nuance, affective disorders, aging, aiee, akira kurosawa, alan rickman, alt.polyamory, alternative press expo, ambivert, amplectere potestem "et", androgyny, andy scott, animal planet, animal rescue, animal shelters, anime, anthropology, apple, artisanal cheeses, audio books, babylon 5, beading, being, bellies, bisexuality, buddhism, caffeine, cameo glass, carl brandon, cassandra, cat goddesses, cats, charlotte bronte, chivalry, cochlear implants, coffee, collage, collecting other people's hobbies, common sense, compassion, cpap, crochet, cute fat people, dale chihuly, devotion, dog agility, electric guitar, entropy, fabric, fantasy, fat activism, feminism, geekery, genderfuck, glam, glass, green, haiku, hair, harner shamanism, hayao miyazaki, holding hands, how things are made, iditarod, information, j. michael straczynski, j.r.r. tolkien, jane austen, judi dench, knitting, kuan yin, lace, lampworking, learning, libraries, listening, mac, martial arts, medicine, meditation, mindfulness, miss manners, music, mutual degrumplement, myth, nanowrimo, neil gaiman, nihongo, no dharma, nonduality, observation, obsession, peets, personality typing, peter weir, piano preludes, poetry, potential, pretty pictures, purple, queer, quotes, rainer maria rilke, re-railing, reading, rhetoric, robert graves, romantic friendship, romantic love, rumi, samurai, san francisco, sandman, sanrio, sapiosexuality, science fiction, shapeshifting, shyness, silence, speculative fiction, steampunk, succulents, sumo, swimming, t.s. eliot, taiko, tao, textures, the bechdel ginger benchmark, the sweet, theravada, tiptree, touch, transformation, unintentional communities, ursula k. le guin, water, william butler yeats, wind energy, wings of desire, wireworking, wiscon, wombats, working dogs, writing, yarn
What I’m doing with my life
When I am not working, spending too much time on the net (hm,
should this be "participating vigorously in the global electronic
community"?, or hanging out with my sweeties, family, friends, and
pets, I volunteer at an animal shelter, play with
beads, pick up a
word of Japanese
here and there (mostly by watching anime and movies), torture
yarn with hooks and
needles, and write fiction, rants, and poetry.
To expand a couple of those categories:
Sweeties: I live with my primary partner, aka the "Outlaw Husband" (we got married but didn't tell the government). I have two long-term local partners I don't live with. I have a few other connections that fall into the TOCOTOX (TOo COmplicated TO eXplain) category.
Pets: Two cats, Angus and Biscuit.
To expand a couple of those categories:
Sweeties: I live with my primary partner, aka the "Outlaw Husband" (we got married but didn't tell the government). I have two long-term local partners I don't live with. I have a few other connections that fall into the TOCOTOX (TOo COmplicated TO eXplain) category.
Pets: Two cats, Angus and Biscuit.
I’m really good at
Some of these are things I think I'm good at, and some of them are
things other people have told me I'm good at.
writing, editing, knitting, teaching knitting, geek answer syndrome, shoulder rubs, discerning patterns, thinking psychologically, being concise, translating between paradigms, perspective switching, snuggling
writing, editing, knitting, teaching knitting, geek answer syndrome, shoulder rubs, discerning patterns, thinking psychologically, being concise, translating between paradigms, perspective switching, snuggling
Editors
The first things people usually notice about me
Online: articulate, possibly intimidating. Offline: female, fat,
initially shy/reserved. Gender presentation somewhere in the
butch/geek/earth-mama quadrants. Some people say I am calming to be
around.
My favorite books, movies, music, and food
Books: Well written non-sexist speculative fiction,
science
fiction, fantasy (e.g., Ursula K. Le Guin, Tiptree award
winners)
Movies: 2001: A Space Odyssey and Wings of Desire (Der Himmel Über Berlin), anime (e.g., Ghost in the Shell and Miyazaki), science fiction
I like music with an underlying simplicity, across all genres. I had an argument with a friend once because I said Bach had an underlying simplicity and they said Bach was very complex. This is one of those "amplectere potestem 'et'" (embrace the power of 'and') things.
Food: Mostly peasant food (noodles, burritos) but I'm also a fan of the chef Ron Siegel of Iron Chef fame.
Movies: 2001: A Space Odyssey and Wings of Desire (Der Himmel Über Berlin), anime (e.g., Ghost in the Shell and Miyazaki), science fiction
I like music with an underlying simplicity, across all genres. I had an argument with a friend once because I said Bach had an underlying simplicity and they said Bach was very complex. This is one of those "amplectere potestem 'et'" (embrace the power of 'and') things.
Food: Mostly peasant food (noodles, burritos) but I'm also a fan of the chef Ron Siegel of Iron Chef fame.
The six things I could never do without
The basic physical needs of carbon based mammalian lifeforms,
curiosity, conversation, rhythm, cats, alone time
I spend a lot of time thinking about
polyamory,
isms (e.g., racism,
sexism, classism), gender, what makes people tick,
ethics, writing, speculative fiction,
sociology,
psychology,
animals, my deep
ambivalence about Hello Kitty.
Also I ponder what OKCupid's category "short term dating" means.
Also I ponder what OKCupid's category "short term dating" means.
On a typical Friday night I am
Hanging with a sweetie, watching a movie, making something out of
yarn
The most private thing I’m willing to admit here
I am kink-friendly except I don't do DS.
I can't walk long distances.
I have a mood disorder, which is managed reasonably well by medication.
I can't walk long distances.
I have a mood disorder, which is managed reasonably well by medication.
You should message me if
...you want to, and one or more of the following applies:
You are local and think you might want to hang out and watch anime with me and my OH and our cats (or might want us to hang out and watch anime with you and yours).
You know me from somewhere else on the net.
You want to have a conversation with me.
You want to meet me and are willing to have a conversation first.
You think you might be attracted to me and are willing to have a conversation first and take the rest of it kinda slow. (Right now, I'm not Ms. Right Now.)
You are local and think you might want to hang out and watch anime with me and my OH and our cats (or might want us to hang out and watch anime with you and yours).
You know me from somewhere else on the net.
You want to have a conversation with me.
You want to meet me and are willing to have a conversation first.
You think you might be attracted to me and are willing to have a conversation first and take the rest of it kinda slow. (Right now, I'm not Ms. Right Now.)
