So OKCupid puts someone in my quiver, and I look at their profile, and I'm informed that my message won't be highlighted in their inbox because
"You don't match [user's] gender and orientation preferences."
and
"You must be single."

I don't mind if people don't want to date bisexuals or people who identify as "available" rather than "single." But I don't think OKCupid should stick such people in my quiver.

(I assume the non-preference is "bisexual" because [user] declares that they are interested in women.)

I have been on OKCupid for a while but I recently started spending more time here because my primary partner joined. Often when I am reading profiles I find that I like something the person says and I message them to let them know. I almost never get a reply back.

I find this silence odd because this doesn't happen on other social networking forums I participate in.

Am I breaking an unwritten OKC rule that a private message means an expression of interest in pursuing a relationship? Are people thinking that if they message me back I will show up on their doorstep with a U-Haul and a herd of alpacas?

Does a person's education play a role in how attracted you are to them?

• Yes.
• No.

I am differently attracted to people with different levels of education. But I'm a lot more attracted to intelligence than to education.

Do you believe that a major goal of educational systems should be to make people "better members of society"?

• Yes.
• No.

I hate the way this is worded. I think a major goal of educational systems should be to educate people, and I think that sufficiently educated people are better members of society than undereducated people, in the sense of being able to contribute more and to contribute in ways that make them happy.

So in that sense the answer is yes.

But I discern an implication that "make people 'better members of society'" means to brainwash them somehow, and I don't think the system should do that. I think it should teach people to think for themselves.

So in that sense, the answer is no.

What level of trust do you think you should have for a complete stranger?

• High.
• Medium.
• Low.
• Zero.

But what do "high," "medium," and "low" MEAN?

Do you have a hidden stash of pornography?

• Yes.
• No.

It's not hidden.

How many live plants do you have in your home?

• None.
• One or two.
• Three to nine.
• Ten or more.

I answered "One or two" but that's only because the plant I got for Christmas isn't quite dead yet.

What is your favorite transportation medium?

• Land (trains, buses, cars, bikes, feet, etc.)
• Sea (ships, boats, submarines, etc.)
• Air (airplanes, rockets, dirigibles, etc.)
• Other.

I would like to have answered "Sea" because I love the water, but my body seems to prefer being in the water to being on the water in some conveyance.

How often do you listen to a portable media player that utilizes headphones or the equivalent so that only you can hear the music?

• Frequently.
• Sometimes.
• Rarely.
• Never.

I like to listen to audiobooks on my iPod while I am doing chores around the house.

Do dreams ever motivate you to take actions in reality?

• Yes.
• No.

Once my partner and I ordered some bookshelves and we decided to put them on the walls to the right and left of our bed. The night before the bookshelves were delivered, I had a dream about an earthquake causing the bookshelves to fall on the bed. I convinced my partner that the bookshelves should go elsewhere.