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57 Mesa, AZ Woman


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 45–65
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 9:46am
Black, Native American, White, Other
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
A little extra
Mostly anything
Not at all
Buddhism, and somewhat serious about it
Capricorn, but it doesn’t matter
Dropped out of university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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I was born male bodied. I've had that surgically corrected to female and therefore match my brain chemistry. Two key issues to get out in front from the beginning are first: I'm sapio-romantic . . . and second: if you think of yourself as a Lesbian while at the same time believing that my being a Woman Born Transsexual is a mental illness then your problems are above my paygrade. I'm no more mentally ill for being Transsexual than you or I are for loving someone of the same sex. Being Transsexual isn't the latest hip thing to do for a mid-life crisis.

I'm in search of a Companion, Explorer, Co-creator
Someone that seeks a loving, devoted friendship with emotional intimacy, someone that is willing to take a risk with their heart. I want someone that shares the values I aspire to and is also enthusiastic about some of my key interests listed below.

This book describes you . . .
Powers of Two

Finding the Essence of Innovation in Creative Pairs
By Joshua Wolf Shenk
New York Times Sunday Review

I don't have any race/ethnic preference.

Several people have asked about my views on religion . . .
I suggest that systems of belief based on faith instead of reason must not be given any greater or lesser due deference than any other form of artistic expression.

Far from a dismissal of faith it should tell you something of the high esteem upon which I place the arts.

A gestalt of my personality would be: passionate, creative, eclectic, and erudite.

I love all the arts and sciences and keep abreast of new developments in the arts, fashions and latest technological developments. I would love to find someone that likes to chat or even debate the feasibility and validity of these sorts of things .

I am searching for a special someone that is ready for a committed relationship. Someone that is into creative culture (music, design, dance et cetera), has a studied interest in one or more sciences, someone that can hold up a good conversation but is also comfortable with shared silence. Extra points if you read science fiction, fantasy, history, science textbooks.

Bonus points if you have a motorcycle so we could ride together. I've also recently purchased a 600cc sportbike, specifically a 2013 Yamaha YZF6R sport-touring motorcycle. I want to get a new GPS and saddle bags so I can take off on overnight trips on impulse and have room for fresh clothes and such. It would be great to find someone else that likes to ride and feel the wind.

I am really interested in surrounding myself with other creative people that are self actualizing and chose to live, work and play beyond the pale of convention

My interests . . . writing, political activism, sentient rights, sex and gender minority rights, community development, science fiction, computers, environmental sciences, environmental psychology, graphic design, material sciences, outsider art/ tech couture, culinary art, motorcycles, fast cars, and corsets . . .

I also am a computer graphic designer with more than 30 years of experience in CorelDRAW, Corel PHOTO-PAINT, Adobe Illustrator and Adobe Photoshop. Actually I stopped using Adobe products after they moved to a totally web subscription software as a service based system.

I don't really mind SaaS but I simply can't afford the staggering sum that Adobe is asking for Photoshop, Illustrator and Dreamweaver combined. I'm still testing alternatives as of this update.

Right now I'm learning how to program in Java which like C is an almost universal language for computers these days.

So basically I'm a social activist, scientist, science fiction writer, computer geek, graphic designer, and guitar player living in the valley of the sun, the land of perpetual summer.

"You never change something by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete."
~ R. Buckminster Fuller

My primary focus these days is called Project: Ancient West. To be brief it's the creation of an experimental, intentional community. Right now that means while I continue my scientific research I am also composing several successive stages of business plans to achieve funding without government assistance in the form of federal grants or loans.

This community has a special mission to support sex and gender minority people and their allies. There are perhaps a couple of dozen such communities around the world which are organically grown gay communities that thrive in a certain sense but they don't offer comprehensive features that would be common for a Cissexual, Cisgender community. No schools, hospitals, and the only jobs generally in the hospitality industry working in small shops, restaurants and bars. These communities offer a great night life but don't offer the things that people need to build a family as many gay, lesbian, gender variant people do with greater and greater frequency. They lack the specificity of purpose to remediate lives as is my intention.

When people in the sex and minority community say to me, "Why don't you try your vision of community in a more liberal state and region of the country?"

To they them my answer is, The healthy have no need of a physician; it is in these very places where sex and gender minorities face the hardest challenges to their survival. It is in these places barren of human compassion and understanding that I am called to serve.

For more detail...
The HiddenCity Foundation
Exploration, Research, and Development

The following are links to Google Docs using Google's short-links to make them more manageable. These change from time to time with my interests

My Non-Fiction 2014 Reading List (Past and Current)

A few of expressions of intolerance I don't find attractive . . .
Biphobia · Xenophobia · Transphobia · Homophobia · Lesbophobia · Misogynism · Heterosexism · Speciesism

About email and chat?
If you aren't interested in a reasonable period of communicating via email and chat to initially get to know each other than I am clearly not the girl for you. I am compatible with people that are literate and patient. That means more than simply being able to read and write.

I shower in the dark, love electrical storms, walking in the rain. ;-)
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Savoring it, one day, one hour, sometimes one fraction of a second at a time.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
. . . almost anything I put my mind to eventually.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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(A) Books . . . Ursula K LeGuin - Left Hand of Darkness Philip K. Dick - Do Androids Dream of Electric Sheep? Isaac Asimov - Foundation Series Stanislaw Lem - Solaris William Gibson - Burning Chrome Kahlil Gibran - The Prophet Neil Gaiman - Sandman: The Dream Hunters - There is much work produced by Gaiman to recommend him but for personal reasons this will remain the single most important for me until the stars burn out. Octavia Butler - XenoGenesis - This woman expresses ideas in her book that if you are really paying attention should challenge and make you squirm Ray Bradbury - The Long After Midnight Girl S. L. MacGregor Mathers - The Grimoire of Armadel This is in the category of if you need to ask . . . C. S. Lewis - The Screwtape Letters Mary Wollstonecraft Shelley - Frankenstein or The Modern Prometheus Edward Gorey/Derek Lamb - The Amphigory Books My favorite version of the basic ABCs are The Gashlycrumb Tinies by Gorey, begins like this: "A is for AMY who fell down the stairs, B is for BASIL assaulted by bears," and so on.

I have great affection for the late, great Charles Addams works and have often wondered about raising a somewhat Caribbean/Creole family of my own, Addams style.Just kidding, I think. Anything by Edgar Allen Poe and the prolific H. P. Lovecraft; anything illustrated by Aubrey Beardsley no matter how twisted and I also like Agatha Christie who-done-its and the occasional Tom Clancy.

I also fancy myself a writer of science fiction, in specific hard science fiction. That means that while I may have characters trying to communicate or maybe even visit this universe from another space time continuum there will not be any distinctly humanoid, English speaking aliens arriving to threaten our world in starships.

(B) Movies . . . I like film noire, books like Fight Club and plays rendered to film, historical fiction, science fiction, comedy (A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to the Forum)

(C) Music . . . Listen to and play everything from acoustic folk music to experimental electronic. Flamenco, Jazz, Blues, Acid Rock to Acid House, Bach to Claude Debussy, Old school Country Swing to Commander Cody and the Lost Planet Airmen.

(D) Foods . . . I've been serious about learning how to be a good cook since I was a small child and for many years called myself an amateur chef. I am very experienced in both kitchen and camp cooking. I particularly like taking southern or creole recipes from my family and recreating them without things like lard and smoked pork. I've always wanted to take a class in preparing Asian food in particular I have a profound weakness for Sashimi and Sushi; love rice or noodles with just about anything fresh thrown in, the more colourful the better.

Though it's not locally farm raised I eat mostly fish and fowl with the occasional beef dish. I've been told that I can't be a real environmentalist as long as I eat flesh foods so I've been meditating on the science that suggests that. Well that is an interesting discovery. I appear to be the only woman on OKC that describes themselves in any way as an "Environmentalist". I searched on the words Ecology, Ecologist, Environment without finding a single soul.

French food, Southern food (Creole cooking) and Real Mexican foods are also on my list.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Pointless question since I have more than once lost everything and survived.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why not?

and . . .

How to?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I like watching the stars come out to play, writing, drawing and or listening to music. Seeing a film, hanging out with a few friends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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"I am an instrument of purposes that I don’t fully understand. Time will tell whether I am a wing nut or a megalomaniac. The difference between a cult and faith is time. I believe that we are a single organism, and that something is at stake in this particular moment."

~ David Milch, creator of the program "John from Cincinnati"
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I don't have a talent for "small talk" so if you have something thoughtful to say get in touch with me. I always answer.