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57 F Mesa, AZ

My Details

Last Online
Apr 17
Black, Native American, White, Other
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
A little extra
Mostly anything
Not at all
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Capricorn, but it doesn’t matter
Dropped out of university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
I was born male bodied. I've had that surgically corrected to female and therefore match my brain chemistry. I'm lesbian and sapio-romantic. If you have a problem dating someone that is transsexual then don't waste your time reading any further.

I'm in search of a Companion, Explorer, Co-creator
Someone that seeks a loving, devoted friendship with emotional intimacy, someone that is willing to take a risk with their heart. I want someone that shares the values I aspire to and is also enthusiastic about some of my key interests listed below.

This may seem like an odd request but I'm looking for someone that is interested into tightlacing together. I'm not talking about something crazy like a 15" waist but a 20" waist would be realistic for me. (36D by 20 by 37)

This is the design I want us both to have. The heavy duty model. They are made from very strong polyester mesh that in the double layer model is as strong as leather.

Fran Blanche's Contour Corset Company
We lace each other and help keep each other honest in our waist training goals.

Summerland Engineering Society
Sponsored in part by La de Vie Surréelle, L3C

Several people have asked about my views on religion . . .
I suggest that systems of belief based on faith instead of reason must not be given any greater or lesser due deference than any other form of artistic expression.

A gestalt of my personality would be: passionate, creative, eclectic, and erudite.

I've spent more than twenty years in the entertainment business as a performer but by nature I'm kind of a shy person. I warm up pretty quick after I get to know you a little. I love all the arts and sciences and keep abreast of new developments in the arts, fashions and latest technological developments. I would love to find someone that likes to chat or even debate about those things too.

I am searching for a special someone that is ready for a committed relationship. Someone that is into creative culture (music, design, dance et cetera), has a studied interest in one or more sciences, someone that can hold up a good conversation but is also comfortable with shared silence. Extra points if you read science fiction, fantasy, history, science textbooks.

Bonus points if you have a motorcycle so we could ride together. I have a small 2005 Kawasaki Eliminator with a single piston, 125cc engine. Sometime in the next few months I'm moving up to a 750cc Sportbike, probably a Yamaha because Kawasaki stopped building 750cc sportbikes when they withdrew from racing them. I want a clip-on GPS and saddle bags so I can take off on overnight trips on impulse and have room for fresh clothes and such.

I am really interested in surrounding myself with other creative people that are self actualizing and chose to live, work and play beyond the pale of convention

I don't have any race/ethnic preference.

My interests . . . writing science fiction, computers, environmental sciences, environmental psychology, graphic design, music composition, performance (acoustic guitar/ electric guitar), material sciences, outsider art/ tech couture, culinary art, motorcycles and fast cars . . .

I have a couple of sonic sculpting tools . . . black Les Paul Custom and a nice stock Washburn acoustic. I actually have the Washburn for sale in case anybody is interested. I've designed and am preparing to build my next guitar.

I also am a computer graphic designer with more than 30 years of experience in CorelDRAW, Illustrator and Photoshop.

Here is sample of my HTML/CSS coding and graphic design work.
Central Mesa: Network & Computer Services, Inc.
Right now I'm learning how to program in Java which is an almost universal language for computers.

So basically I'm a social activist, scientist, science fiction writer, computer geek, graphic designer, and guitar player living in the valley of the sun, the land of perpetual summer.

My primary focus is called Project: Ancient West and to be brief it's the creation of an experimental, intentional community. Right now that means composing several successive stages of business plans to achieve funding without government assistance in the form of federal grants or loans.

HiddenCity Research & Development
"Behavioral Science Facilitating the Design Process"

The Codex of Amān

The Declaration of Universal Rights

Paideia Nova University: A Learning Community
Elementary through Doctorate and Beyond

"The world cannot always understand one's profession of faith, but it can understand service..."
~ Ian Maclaren

A few of expressions of intolerance I don't find attractive . . .
Biphobia · Xenophobia · Transphobia · Homophobia · Lesbophobia · Misogynism · Heterosexism

About email and chat?
If you aren't interested in a reasonable period of communicating via email and chat to initially get to know each other than I am clearly not the girl for you. I am compatible with people that are literate and patient. That means more than simply being able to read and write.

I shower in the dark, love electrical storms and walking in the rain. ;)
What I’m doing with my life
Savoring it, one day, one hour, sometimes one fraction of a second at a time.
I’m really good at
. . . almost anything I put my mind to eventually.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
(A) Books . . . Ursula K LeGuin - Left Hand of Darkness Philip K. Dick - Do Androids Dream of Electric Sheep? Isaac Asimov - Foundation Series Stanislaw Lem - Solaris William Gibson - Burning Chrome Kahlil Gibran - The Prophet Neil Gaiman - Sandman: The Dream Hunters - There is much work produced by Gaiman to recommend him but for personal reasons this will remain the single most important for me until the stars burn out. Octavia Butler - XenoGenesis - This woman expresses ideas in her book that if you are really paying attention should challenge and make you squirm Ray Bradbury - The Long After Midnight Girl S. L. MacGregor Mathers - The Grimoire of Armadel This is in the category of if you need to ask . . . C. S. Lewis - The Screwtape Letters Mary Wollstonecraft Shelley - Frankenstein or The Modern Prometheus Edward Gorey/Derek Lamb - The Amphigory Books My favorite version of the basic ABCs are The Gashlycrumb Tinies by Gorey, begins like this: "A is for AMY who fell down the stairs, B is for BASIL assaulted by bears," and so on.

I have great affection for the late, great Charles Addams works and have often wondered about raising a somewhat Caribbean/Creole family of my own, Addams style.Just kidding, I think. Anything by Edgar Allen Poe and the prolific H. P. Lovecraft; anything illustrated by Aubrey Beardsley no matter how twisted and I also like Agatha Christie who-done-its and the occasional Tom Clancy.

Some of the science I read . . . Dr. Robert K. Conyne Environmental Assessment and Design: A New Tool for the Applied Behavioral Scientist Ecological Counseling: An Innovative Approach to Conceptualizing Person-Environment Interaction Charles W. Harris, Nicholas T. Dines - Time-Saver Standards for Landscape Architecture Dr. M. Neil Browne - Asking the Right Questions: A Guide to Critical Thinking Dr. T. Edward Damer - Attacking Faulty Reasoning: A Practical Guide to Fallacy-Free Arguments Dr. Donna J. Haraway - Simians, Cyborgs, and Women: The Reinvention of Nature Dr. Daniel Goleman - Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ

I also fancy myself a writer of science fiction, in specific hard science fiction. That means that while I may have characters trying to communicate or maybe even visit this universe from another space time continuum there will not be any distinctly humanoid, English speaking aliens arriving to threaten our world in starships.

I'm currently working on the outline, backstory and narrative for a short story and collecting/transcribing 35 years of recipes for a cookbook I'm also writing. I hopefully sell my work and qualify for membership in the Science Fiction and Fantasy Writers of America guild and most important snag a really good literary agent. You are eligible to join SFWA if you have at least three qualifying short story sales. Qualifying Short Fiction Venues with $50 minimum sale requirement.
(B) Movies . . . I like film noire, books like Fight Club and plays rendered to film, historical fiction, science fiction, comedy (A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to the Forum)

(C) Music . . . Listen to and play everything from acoustic folk music to experimental electronic. Flamenco, Jazz, Blues, Acid Rock to Acid House, Bach to Claude Debussy, Old school Country Swing to Commander Cody and the Lost Planet Airmen. I mentioned my Gibson Les Paul Custom Custom earlier. I love it but try as I might I can't find a way to make it produce the technical effects I hear in my head for the past few years. This isn't the first time that's happened. The Les Paul itself was the result of hitting a creative wall with my instruments. The result is that the Les Paul has custom made active pickups from EMG which have a wider frequency response (some of my compositions have classically inspired bass and treble parts that move through the chordal structure) than the stock pickups and also Graph Tech nut which both increases the instrument's natural sustain with the side benefit that it self-lubricates to prevent string binding.

Anyway my current music project (aside from a couple of songs) is to fabricate a complete guitar, effects array and amplifier of my own design. This makes the second guitar that I've built from scratch. My first one was stolen. I've designed a proximity activate/deactivate key fob to this design so that if anyone steals this one it will be completely useless to them. The principle design feature of this guitar will be what appear as three traditional single coil pickups which are actually three hexaphonic stacked humbucking pickup arrays. That means each string has it's own pickup and it's own discrete tonal envelope with no bleed-over between strings. I've gone to great lengths to simplify the controls so there is: one five position pickup array selector, one master volume control and one parametric tone control. The one extraordinary addition is the inclusion of a ten-key pad with enter key I've designed using touch sensitive/galvanic response switches that appear as a set of sculpted depressions each with gold metallic protrusions in close proximity to the tone and eq knobs. The depressions with the gold pins assist in locating the 10-key by touch. The keypad facilitates selection of preset volume, tone and effects. The guitar functions as an always on device with the volume and eq controls remotely controlling the pre-amplifier's master volume and master eq. There is a default preset that can be switched to with one touch of the keypad. The guitar is hexaphonic output with control data from the volume and tone controls transmitted via non-propitiatory wireless using a secure, high bandwidth WiFi.

Ubertar Hexaphonic Pickups
Type 2 hexaphonic stacked humbucker in a single coil case.

(D) Foods . . . I've been serious about learning how to be a good cook since I was a small child and for many years called myself an amateur chef. I am very experienced in both kitchen and camp cooking. I particularly like taking southern or creole recipes from my family and recreating them without things like lard and smoked pork. I've always wanted to take a class in preparing Asian food in particular I have a profound weakness for Sashimi and Sushi; love rice or noodles with just about anything fresh thrown in, the more colourful the better.

I mostly eat fish and fowl with the occasional beef dish.

French food, Southern food (Creole cooking) and Real Mexican foods are also high on my list.
The six things I could never do without
Pointless question since I have more than once lost everything and survived.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Why not?

and . . .

How to?
On a typical Friday night I am
I like watching the stars come out to play, writing, drawing and or listening to music. Seeing a film, hanging out with a few friends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
"I am an instrument of purposes that I don’t fully understand. Time will tell whether I am a wing nut or a megalomaniac. The difference between a cult and faith is time. I believe that we are a single organism, and that something is at stake in this particular moment."

~ David Milch, creator of the program "John from Cincinnati"
I’m looking for
  • Gay girls only
  • Ages 40–65
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
I don't have a talent for "small talk" so if you have something thoughtful to say get in touch with me. I always answer.