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firmbeliever

37 New York, NY Woman

Woman

I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 30–43
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Thin
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Sign
Sagittarius, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Technology
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
TLDR - Introverted, but fun. A bit nerdy, but not lacking in social skills. Yay for concerts, the arts, new places, and real connections with genuine people. Don't care how tall you are, how much hair you have, or what your paycheck looks like. Though I do need to be attracted to you, the real fun stuff is on the inside. I'm honestly excited about the prospect of doing the work to create and maintain a beautiful relationship with a like-minded man.

Some things I enjoy:
concerts
finding new bands to listen to (usually indie these days)
albums that are great from start to finish
jukeboxes
museums
book stores
record stores
Converse
Dr Martens (there's a store in SoHo!)
divey/laid back bars
walking around the city
being in a park
computer programming (my job)
great books
knitting
outdoor eating/drinking
pub trivia
crosswords and other puzzles
talking about politics, philosophy, ideas, beliefs, etc.
playing around with drums (I occasionally take lessons)

Although I do like Dr. Martens and have a couple tattoos, I'm not a goth or biker chick. But nor am I the girly-girl wearing ballet flats and a trendy purse. I'm somewhere in the middle, finding my own way.

I'm not into the "see and be seen" scene or trendy things in general. I crave things that are sincere, genuine, honest, etc. This applies to most any form of expression, people, okcupid profiles...

I actually do put a lot of value in being a good person. I'm not perfect, but I try to be as good as I can, as often as I can. Looking for the same.

Lastly, a friend told me recently that she thinks I'm a bit unconventional when it comes to dating/relationships, and I think she's right to some extent. I am looking for a monogamous, rest-of-my-life sort of relationship (that part's pretty conventional), but I don't need to get married, not sure if I want kids, and I don't ever see myself migrating to the suburbs. I want a really great, healthy, joyful relationship with a great guy. That's the part that matters most to me.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Well, I'm kinda going with the flow. I have found in the past that you sometimes end up in places/situations that you'd never have thought you'd be in, so I don't have real definite plans for the future. I really enjoy my job and living in NYC, so I'm sticking with that for now. And I'll just see where life takes me further down the road.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
math
directions
over-thinking things
remembering song lyrics
being punctual

People tell me I'm a good listener.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
A shyness that is criminally vulgar. But then I open up.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books - The Master and Margarita, The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao, Catch 22, Persuasion, Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance, Soul Music, Anna Karenina, A Tale of Two Cities, Dune, Ender's Game, The Unbearable Lightness of Being, Let the Great World Spin, The Red Tent, Fierce Invalids Home From Hot Climates

Music - Depeche Mode, Radiohead, The National, White Rabbits, The Killers, TV on the Radio, Pearl Jam, Bob Dylan, The Hold Steady, Drive-By Truckers, Goldfrapp, Modest Mouse, Menomena, Florence + the Machine, Battles, The Black Keys, The Cure, Joy Division, Man Man, Ramona Falls (so addicted right now)

Movies - Singles, Say Anything, Trainspotting, Airplane, Sliding Doors, Pulp Fiction, Chasing Amy, Love Actually, Lord of the Rings, Star Wars

TV - I grew up watching a lot of tv, so it is often on just out of habit. However, I'm no longer really into any current shows. But when I am watching, these are the types of shows I enjoy or have enjoyed in the past: The Simpsons, Futurama, The State, Bob's Burgers, Seinfeld. I recently watched all of The IT Crowd and Peep Show on Netflix and loved them both.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Music
Things that make me laugh until I snort
Sleeping in on the weekend
An alarm clock for the rest of the time
Potatoes, in all their lovely forms
Good books
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Sometimes fairly heavy stuff like my life, where it's going, etc. I just want to make sure I don't lead my life in a way I'll regret down the road.

The fact that some people seem to have completely lost touch with what matters in life.

Traveling

The awesome ways in which people can connect. And in contrast, the horrible ways people sometimes treat each other.

What to eat for my next meal.

"How did *that* song get stuck in my head?"
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Telling my cat that she's a kitty, yes she is.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Beneath my goody-two-shoes lie some very dark socks.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
- you generally have your shit together and are looking for (and ready for) something long-term. Obviously everything starts off casual, but I'm not looking for a fling.

- you've read my profile, looked at how I've answered questions, and based on that, you think we'd be a good match.

In case this helps, here are some words I'd like to be able to use to describe my partner:
smart, funny, kind, honest, generous, open-minded, genuine, well-balanced, good-humored, patient, supportive, loving, affectionate. And I try to be all of those things as well. I'm not in the habit of expecting to get what I'm not willing to give.

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