Ok, get comfortable, this is a long read!
This isn't an easy process and well, maybe it shouldn't be. After all, we are here to find a friend, a companion, a lover, a significant other. That shouldn't be as simple as trying on a pair of shoes, or ordering a pizza.
I'm a non typical Jersey lad (grew up in Waldwick NJ) who moved to Croydon PA last year. Starting a new job in a new town and a fresh start!
So here’s to hoping honesty has its own inherent charms. As of October 10th 2012 the divorced became final. It just so happens October 10th was also my wedding day all those years ago. How's that for irony?
I've have had a few divorced buddies get too comfortable too fast holding up in their man caves and turning into woman haters while playing online computer games and eating order-in junk food. That is not the way I plan to go and at 55, I’m not going to exile myself to the wilderness when Ms. Right could just walk on by.
After a long marriage you kind of have to relearn dating skills long since stored in the attic. This is a shy and awkward time (I am really bad at breaking the ice), but I’m hoping to stay connected to people and leave the shells to turtles and the cocoons to the butterflies. I have no problems open dating or just casual, but finding someone to make long term plans with would be the ultimate goal. I like having fun, but I'm not here just to rack up a list of play dates.
You should know I a few executed tattoos, well, maybe more than a few. I hope you're not put off by them. No, I'm not a biker, a drug user, an ex-con, or rebel without a clue. I am an otherwise normal, mild-mannered kind of guy. Yes even nice "regular" people are getting tattoos these days. You could say it's my one crazy, or edgy thing since returning to single life. Kind of a way to break out of a lifetime of shyness. I see them as forms of art and expression. That said, they do not define who I am, they are not for everybody, I won't ask you to get one if you're not into them (hell, they hurt!) and I don't think people should get them to promote hate, or just to shock their loved ones. I guess my outlook is that if I can't be the artist, I can be the canvas.
Very well, I admit it. The man of your dreams is out there. He's charming, witty, good looking and well groomed. He keeps himself in shape, smells really good and always knows how to dress. The downside is that he's gay......so what you're left with are guys like me! I am who I am and hopefully you can work with that.
Just saw the video below the other night. It's strange, funny and kind of wonderful too:
“My philosophy, like color TV, is all there in black and white” -- A Monty Python quote.