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55 Croydon, PA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 44–60
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 9:54am
6′ 3″ (1.91m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Christianity, but not too serious about it
Leo, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Ok, get comfortable, this is a long read!

This isn't an easy process and well, maybe it shouldn't be. After all, we are here to find a friend, a companion, a lover, a significant other. That shouldn't be as simple as trying on a pair of shoes, or ordering a pizza.

I'm a non typical Jersey lad (grew up in Waldwick NJ) who moved to Croydon PA last year. Starting a new job in a new town and a fresh start!

So here’s to hoping honesty has its own inherent charms. As of October 10th 2012 the divorced became final. It just so happens October 10th was also my wedding day all those years ago. How's that for irony?

I've have had a few divorced buddies get too comfortable too fast holding up in their man caves and turning into woman haters while playing online computer games and eating order-in junk food. That is not the way I plan to go and at 55, I’m not going to exile myself to the wilderness when Ms. Right could just walk on by.

After a long marriage you kind of have to relearn dating skills long since stored in the attic. This is a shy and awkward time (I am really bad at breaking the ice), but I’m hoping to stay connected to people and leave the shells to turtles and the cocoons to the butterflies.

I’ve read a lot of profiles of women who claim to be polyamorous, bisexual or just looking for casual hookups. I must admit that all seems very exciting, but it the end, you have to wonder who is getting short-changed emotionally. I have no problems open dating or just casual, but finding someone to make long term plans with would be the ultimate goal of my search. I like having fun, but I'm not here just to rack up a list of play dates.

You should know I a few executed tattoos, well, maybe more than a few. I hope you're not put off by them. No, I'm not a biker, a drug user, an ex-con, or rebel without a clue. I am an otherwise normal, mild-mannered kind of guy. Yes even nice "regular" people are getting tattoos these days. You could say it's my one crazy, or edgy thing since returning to single life. Kind of a way to break out of a lifetime of shyness. I see them as forms of art and expression. That said, they do not define who I am, they are not for everybody, I won't ask you to get one if you're not into them (hell, they hurt!) and I don't think people should get them to promote hate, or just to shock their loved ones. I guess my outlook is that if I can't be the artist, I can be the canvas.

Very well, I admit it. The man of your dreams is out there. He's charming, witty, good looking and well groomed. He keeps himself in shape, smells really good and always knows how to dress. The downside is that he's what you're left with are guys like me! I am who I am and hopefully you can work with that.

Just saw the video below the other night. It's strange, funny and kind of wonderful too:

“My philosophy, like color TV, is all there in black and white” -- A Monty Python quote.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Discovering my new life in PA, in the gym at least 3 days a week for "maintainance." I'm not super fit and I can't take back the couch potato years, but I can honestly say I'm more active than I was 10 years ago. That said, this last winter I was bad getting out so I have to step up the maintainance again (its a vicious cycle really).

Yes I really, really am single. Not separated pending the divorce, not married and faking it. I’m living single in my own apartment.

Where the Garden State gives way to the real world
Falls away in the rear view mirror
We'll mend our wounds and wait out the winter
Down across the Delaware------"Down Across The Delaware"
by James McMurtry

Check out the whole song:

I love to hike, cycle, anything outdoors and I real miss my kayak which I gave up (for now) because it wouldn't fit in the apartment!

I'm a blue jeans & sneakers kind of guy. I can clean up with a suit and tie, although I likely need a new suit, or the old ones taken in to fit the improved frame a little better. Casual clothing is generally my default state of dress.

"Announcing your plans is a good way to hear God laugh" -- Al Swearengen "Deadwood"
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Trivia games, I'm pretty good at cooking, finding the humor in things, reaching stuff on top shelves for you. Not so good at technology, in that case I'm an analog person living in a digital world.

New Jersey people
They will suprise you
Cause they're not expected
To do too much

They will try harder
They may go further
Cause they never think
That they are good enough

I'm from New Jersey
I don't expect too much
If the world ended today
I would adjust
I would adjust
I would adjust--------------"I'm From New Jersey"
by John Gorka

Check out the whole song:
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Ugh......I'm afraid to ask!

If you don't like beards, mine is soft, but I shave it off a couple of times per year. If you do like beards, then I grow it back, a couple of times per year!

"I am a conscientious man. When I throw rocks at seabirds I leave no tern unstoned" -- Ogden Nash
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I admit I haven't been reading enough! Books: I like any good Detective or Mystery novels, good Sci-fi (like Dune) some fantasy works (JRR Tolkien). A good WW2 non-fiction history books (like Band of Brothers). I really don't read as much as I'd like (going to change that). I love books on tape/CDs for trips, or long drives (Harry Potter was great on CD).

Movies: I LOVE movies! Anything by Alfred Hitchcock, most films by Steven Spielberg. Other films: Citizen Kane, Miller's Crossing, Local Hero, The Maltese Falcon, The Duelist, Kingdom of Heaven, Philadelphia Story, Laurence of Arabia, Gandhi, The Uninvited (1944), The Great Race, Chinatown, The Wind and the Lion, The Long Good Friday, The Right Stuff, Monty Python movies etc., a list simply too long to keep on going here.

TV: Lately stuff on Netflix, House of Cards (US version) was great, Liked Lilyhammer and Archer is funny. Some HBO stuff although I stopped watching Game of Thrones after the Red Wedding.

"In Italy for 30 years under the Borgias they had warfare, terror, murder, and bloodshed, but they produced Michelangelo, Leonardo da Vinci, and the Renaissance. In Switzerland they had brotherly love; they had 500 years of democracy and peace, and what did that produce? The cuckoo clock!" ---------- Harry Lime "The Third Man"

Music: Rock, some modern Folk (John Gorka), some Jazz, 1940's big band and Motion Picture Soundtracks. Generally I like 80s-90s rock over 50s-60s-70s, but it's all good.

Food: Just about everything! You've got to love food, it's one of life's simple pleasures and hey, you have to eat, right?

Bonus points if you know Yoga as I'd like to try that as an alternative to beating myself up in the gym all the time!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My 2 stepchildren (love them deeply), my sister, my friends (the glue that keeps me together), morning coffee, a good laugh each day, my trusty wait, I don't have one of Ferrari.....crap, I don't have that sense of humor, yeah that's number six!

"Some of the greater things in life are unseen; that's why you close your eyes when you kiss, cry, or dream."---Author Unknown
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
1) Making new relationships and the idea of new people in my life, doing anything I do in life with honor and heart.
2) Sometimes wonder do we place too much pressure on ourselves trying to establish chemistry on a first date?
3) Moving to a new location I don't know well.
4) Why OKcupid Quickmatch keeps showing me profiles of women in Canada. Don't get me wrong, most are really lovely, but they're in Canada! What, are they having a 2 for 1 sale on Canadians?
5) Hoping to meet the women who gets me and I get her as it would be very nice to be gotten again.
6) I'd very much like to wake up with someone on a regular basis and make them breakfast!

"Life is a tragedy for those who feel, but a comedy to those who think" -- Horace Walpole
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Either working out at a local LA Fitness, getting ready to go north for the weekend to see family, or here looking at your profiles (Jeez I've got to get out more).
By the way, besides the photos I actually read the profiles, the questions answered and tests taken. OKC provides this stuff to make this more interesting, so why not use them?

I see you approaching, you're the eyes of the crowd
The traffic and people, God, they're all so loud
But in a couple of moments they will all disappear
Because we're ever so close when we're ever so near

I'm waiting for you but you're very late
I know you'll come anyway
And I can hardly wait-------------"Wait"
By Wang Chung
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
1) . Saying you don't like to travel on a single's profile is like saying "hey, I like to kick puppies," which of course is not the case. As a couple travel is great, I just don't like to travel by myself.
2) I’m of Dutch and English decent which isn’t all that private a thing to admit is it?
3) I prefer mountains to the beach and open flat lowland makes me uneasy (it that a Dutch thing?).
4) I hate Brussels Sprouts and I've never tried Kale.
5) Liking tattoos does not mean I automatically love motorcycles. Lost a buddy to a motorcycle accident and had others seriously injured on bikes. If you like them that's great and I'm happy for you, but I still have my reservations about them.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
1) Regardless of your age you strive to remain young at heart. You may not be an uber-athlete (I'm not) but you like to try and stay fit and show father time some defiance.
2) You're sane (really sane) and you think you might be interested in a guy like me (a nice easy going walking doodle pad), or you found that check from Publisher's Clearing House I've been waiting for.
3) You are not sick to death of my numbered lists yet!
Closing Caveats (yes you're almost done):
1) If you are less than half my age and try to contact me I will hide my profile from you. I'm not rich and I don't look like George Clooney (however Denis Leary and I share the same birthday).
2) Note: No shirtless arm-flexing bathroom selfies were used in the making of this profile.
3) The word "sexy" was not worked into my profile name. That sort of thing can backfire on you (unless of course you truly are).
4) If you post and have no photo, that generally means I will not respond. I've had to plastered my mug on this profile and I'm normally shy. I took a chance so you can too.

If you listened to the other songs on this profile here's one more for the road by Cliff Eberhardt:

“There's nothing an agnostic can't do if he doesn't know whether he believes in anything or not”--another Monty Python quote,