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My self-summary

I like walking, living, eating, breathing, seeing, and connecting. Expression and knowledge and being awesome are important to me, but so is empathy and friendship and squishy things like that.

So these things are probably kind of important if we're to get along: I'm pretty far left politically and identify as a strong feminist. Be aware that it's not the labels that I dig, but rather people with very clear, very thoughtful rationale for coming to their ideological conclusions. Informed people are fantastic, and informed skeptics are even better.

I am not at all a spiritual person. I don't really care if you are or not, but you should probably be aware that if there's a philosophy that I cling to, it's discordianism. Sometimes people find elements of this discontenting, but I mostly just think it's funny.

This should be present: I thrive during the night, and detest not being able to stay up late into the night working on things or enjoying myself otherwise. This is not to say I'm not flexible and won't wake up at dawn on occasion, but rather to potentially ward off people that think arising at six am is virtuous.

Ok also, I just moved to Boston. I don't really know how to make friends in a new city? So let's be friends maybe? Is that how that works? I like metal and craft beer and scotch is that enough for you to think I am cool?

Also i am a large fan of cats.
What I’m doing with my life

Ok so yea:

I got a cool job where I talk to super smart people and then write stuff that other super smart people use to do their jobs. I spend most of my time figuring out how stuff works, bothering the people that built it, and then trying to explain all of it in reasonably clear language. I'm a technical writer.

Also I listen to a lot of metal, go to shows when I can, play a bunch of computer games, and wander around a lot. I moved to Boston to catch up with my fiancee recently, who has the cooler job as an animator, and it's a pretty cool city.

When not getting paid, I'm a pretty prolific writer and am passionate about things like free speech issues, gender gaps, privacy concerns (questions like this: is total anonymity a good thing?), and computer games. Sometimes I write poetry that is probably not very good but serves as a release - most work stuff requires writing to appeal to specific audiences, but with poetry I get to be the only audience member. Going to see live bands, attending bizarre events, and exploring cities and woods are also pretty frequent things.
I’m really good at
Picking up on small, incidental details. Watching people and understanding situations. Explaining complicated things in simple ways without talking down to people. Explaining simple things in complex ways to sound smarter than I am. I think I'm an alright writer, apparently enough so to get paid for it. I'm also pretty good at dealing with bureaucracy, spelling bureaucracy, and using google to find out how to spell things.

Other useful skills include: starting camp fires despite not being good at camping, communication in general, making mix cds, making a huge mess whenever I eat, and making incredibly bad music recommendations. Just try me.
The first things people usually notice about me
Instead of coming up with something self-aggrandizing, I'll put here something self-aggrandizing that a friend said about me when he met me:

Good things, kinship. No red flags. Subtle, but with a confidence that's learned not given. Also, your eyes, they're searching. You make eye contact, but you seem to be working out other features, judging the conversation, studying the face and body.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food

Mostly dystopic, dark, gritty, and depressing things: House of Leaves, Philip K Dick, Kurt Vonnegut, William Gibson, Neal Stephenson. Also non-fiction things, by people like: Richard Dawkins, Christopher Hitchins, Lawrence Krauss, and Carl Sagan.

Drudkh, the Knife, Agalloch, early Ministry, Fever Ray, Skinny Puppy, Crystal Castles, White Ring, Salem, Amon Amarth, Girl Talk, Windir, that first Young Jeezy cd, Bone Thugs-n-Harmony, the Morningside, and Sleater-Kinney. Lately, lots of Fiona Apple. That new album is great.

Gangs of New York, Valhalla Rising (Refn films in general), There Will Be Blood, Pi, Dark Knight, Pan's Labyrinth, Children of Men, Lord of the Rings, pretty much every Tarantino film, and the good Star Wars movies.

Star Trek (TNG, Voyager, and DS9 - Enterprise can fuck itself), Rome, Breaking Bad, Sopranos, the Wire, Cosmos, Home Movies, Lucy, Daughter of the Devil, and most recently, Lost. edit: you know what fuck Lost.

Spicy things. Expensive Thai food is awesome, but so is shitty Chinese mall food. Few things ever can make my heart sing quite the way that Indian food can. What little Korean food I've had I loved, and also I can kind of cook some pretty decent american southwestern dishes. Chickens. Garlic everything.
The six things I could never do without
Coffee, at least occasional internet access, decent ink pens, correctly-sized notebooks, access to bodies of water, and my glasses. Seriously, I'm blind as hell without them.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How it will look from here when the sun finally explodes and dies. The Scandinavian wilderness. Whatever phrase is written on my whiteboard for the day.

Knife fights: how to avoid them, how to win them.

But really: i think a lot about writing: is effective writing, which always contains an argument and hopefully proofs for that argument, innately manipulative? Is that a bad thing? While we're on that, how do you get a job as a propagandist?
On a typical Friday night I am
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
When I was in middle school, I joined the wrestling team. This isn't the ridiculous chair-bashing and tightrope-leaping sort of wrestling that made me love Hulk Hogan as a kid, but rather the kind where everyone wore those little singlet things and .. grappled each other.

The only match I ever won in two years occurred after being flipped over and farting really loudly. My opponent's recoil allowed me to pin him, despite the fact that he should have kicked my ass.

And that is the only time i ever made my dad proud during a sporting event. He doesn't know about the farting thing though.

..if that doesn't make all the ladies come calling, nothing will.
You should message me if
If you can answer the question, 'what do you know about that?' with absolute confidence.

But really, you maybe should not, because A: edit: sorry ladies, I went and got all engaged to nerdgirlfriend, so even more than before, I have no interest in anybody else romantically, and B: between grad school and full time work, I am ridiculously busy, particularly when considering part A.