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37 Pittsfield, MA Woman


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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 30-45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Nov 15
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
5' 0" (1.52m)
Body Type
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids but might want them
Has cats
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Do you get high from walking in the rain? In a sentence, that's what I want. When I wake to the scratch of falling sleet, and the copper oak leaves stand out against the birches, the changing season is magic, and I want someone to share it with.

I want to talk and stretch ideas. Join me in geekery. I'm unabashedly smart and glad to be challenged, glad to admit what I don't know, buoyed by all I do know. Islamic Spain, ghazals, names of mushrooms, mitochondria, the things I want to know keep expanding.

I have written a novel, and I'm working on another. Writing makes me feel alive. Music can work the same way. I can play contradance music by ear sometimes. I've camped under white pines with 200 people and played and danced along a lake shore. Sitting on the grass and feeling the music in the soles of your feet, feeling it lift and swing in response to what you play, is joyful.

I can ride a horse and drive a tractor and throw a hay bale. In a flat calm, I can persuade a row boat across a cove. I walk in zig zags and stop to touch and smell and feel and kick up leaves. And I love living where I live, in these hills.

I'm a novelist and a poet and a journalist in the country. I spend my days learning why artists and singers and welders and mycologists love what they love and trying to build community. I'm happy and close to my family and damn lucky.

What am I looking for? Someone who will talk with me and listen with me. Someone who can relax with me. Someone who'll grab hands with me and spin in circles. Someone who will understand why I would rather read or walk or bake or do something tangible than watch television. (I like movies, and I can quote most of Princess Bride back at you.)

I want to hold and be held. My family taught me to share space and make treasure hunts and sing while I wash the dishes and work out fights and stay present with someone crying and ease someone sick and face the hard talks and throw tennis balls for the dog, and I miss it.

I know how it feels to want a friend fearlessly, wholly. I want that feeling back.
What I’m doing with my life
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Writing freelance, working on a new media website and learning to be an entrepreneur. For seven and a half years, until summer 2015, I edited a weekly arts and community section in the local paper. I'm also shopping a novel about an old dairy farm and writing a new one.

I get to talk to people about what they love, and be curious and call it work. I get to be a generalist. A Shakespearean actor on tour with 'Romeo and Juliet' once told me, "I get to fall in love every day." I do too, with stories: why moose live on the ridges, why the newest artist at the museum just north loves the poetry of Agha Shahid Ali.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Writing. Falling off horses. Learning contradance music by ear. Baking bread without a recipe. Climbing on counters to reach the top shelf. Listening. Asking questions. Getting lost. Getting found again eventually.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm five feet tall, and I have a lot of hair. I tell myself stories by instinct, get easily distracted by shiny details, and have been known to walk into telephone poles (and apologize to them). My car is full of books.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
My house is also full of books — I read for company and comfort and curiosity. Dorothy Sayers' 'Gaudy Night,' Jane Austen, Louise Erdrich, E.M. Forste, 'Kamila Shamsie's 'Kartography ' … Nonfiction too, Charles Mann's '1491,' Hal Borland's reports on frogs and grass spiders and timberdoodles, Oliver Sacks, history and essays ... and Nikki Giovanni's poetry, Martin Espada, Donald Hall, Agha Shahid Ali … mysteries and fantasy, Robin McKinley, Ellis Peters, Tony Hillerman, Connie Willis, Susan Cooper, Tolkien, Terry Pratchett ...

Toni Morrison's "Beloved" is one of the most powerful books I have ever read. As one of her main characters says, "It's good to have a woman who's a friend of your mind."

Music — contradance tunes, Quebeçois whistle, folk, Beatles, singers and songwriters from Amadou et Mariam to Ooozomatli to Kris Delmhorst. I would be glad to learn more.

Food — most of what I cook comes out of my farm share and local sources. I'm not vegetarian (one of my favorite places is a farm that raises beef cattle), but I like knowing where my food came from. I've rarely met a food I don't like, and I'm happy to explore.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Taking 'things' literally:

Contact lenses
Writing materials
Bread pans
Recorders (instruments, soprano and tenor at least)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What kind of pie to make to bring to my next roleplaying night, and when strawberries will be ready for picking. How to give friends or family warmth when they need it.

Where to hike next, and how to tell a red oak or a black oak by the bark. How rural communities can continue to grow and offer interesting work, now that the mills are dead and the farms are struggling. What used bookstore to explore next.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Working from home and watching oak leaves blow off the trees. Or lounging with a friend, watching 'Slings and Arrows' with buttered toast. Or falling asleep over a book, planning to get up not-very-early to get my share of farm vegetables on the way to a music jam. Or setting off to visit a friend at a distance. Or contradancing.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm afraid of speed.
You should message me if
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You'd like to talk. You're willing to be curious in all directions. You like hiking, maybe looking for moose sign or ravens flying loop-de-loops. You think puttering round used bookstores is a relaxing way to spend a vacation. You think thinking is important. You like to play with words — or you understand that I do.
You can get high from walking in the rain.