Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Do you get high from walking in the rain? In a sentence, that's
what I want. When I wake to the scratch of falling sleet, and the
copper oak leaves stand out against the birches, the changing
season is magic, and I want someone to share it with.
I want to talk and stretch ideas. Join me in geekery. I'm
unabashedly smart and glad to be challenged, glad to admit what I
don't know, buoyed by all I do know. Islamic Spain, ghazals, names
of mushrooms, mitochondria, the things I want to know keep
I have written a novel, and I'm working on another. Writing makes
me feel alive. Music can work the same way. I can play contradance
music by ear sometimes. I've camped under white pines with 200
people and played and danced along a lake shore. Sitting on the
grass and feeling the music in the soles of your feet, feeling it
lift and swing in response to what you play, is joyful.
I can ride a horse and drive a tractor and throw a hay bale. In a
flat calm, I can persuade a row boat across a cove. I walk in zig
zags and stop to touch and smell and feel and kick up leaves. And I
love living where I live, in these hills.
I'm a novelist and a poet and a journalist in the country. I spend
my days learning why artists and singers and welders and
mycologists love what they love and trying to build community. I'm
happy and close to my family and damn lucky.
What am I looking for? Someone who will talk with me and listen
with me. Someone who can relax with me. Someone who'll grab hands
with me and spin in circles. Someone who will understand why I
would rather read or walk or bake or do something tangible than
watch television. (I like movies, and I can quote most of Princess
Bride back at you.)
I want to hold and be held. My family taught me to share space and
make treasure hunts and sing while I wash the dishes and work out
fights and stay present with someone crying and ease someone sick
and face the hard talks and throw tennis balls for the dog, and I
I know how it feels to want a friend fearlessly, wholly. I want
that feeling back.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Writing freelance, working on a new media website and learning to
be an entrepreneur. For seven and a half years, until summer 2015,
I edited a weekly arts and community section in the local paper.
I'm also shopping a novel about an old dairy farm and writing a new
I get to talk to people about what they love, and be curious and
call it work. I get to be a generalist. A Shakespearean actor on
tour with 'Romeo and Juliet' once told me, "I get to fall in love
every day." I do too, with stories: why moose live on the ridges,
why the newest artist at the museum just north loves the poetry of
Agha Shahid Ali.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Writing. Falling off horses. Learning contradance music by ear.
Baking bread without a recipe. Climbing on counters to reach the
top shelf. Listening. Asking questions. Getting lost. Getting found
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm five feet tall, and I have a lot of hair. I tell myself stories
by instinct, get easily distracted by shiny details, and have been
known to walk into telephone poles (and apologize to them). My car
is full of books.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
My house is also full of books — I read for company and comfort and
curiosity. Dorothy Sayers' 'Gaudy Night,' Jane Austen, Louise
Erdrich, E.M. Forste, 'Kamila Shamsie's 'Kartography ' … Nonfiction
too, Charles Mann's '1491,' Hal Borland's reports on frogs and
grass spiders and timberdoodles, Oliver Sacks, history and essays
... and Nikki Giovanni's poetry, Martin Espada, Donald Hall, Agha
Shahid Ali … mysteries and fantasy, Robin McKinley, Ellis Peters,
Tony Hillerman, Connie Willis, Susan Cooper, Tolkien, Terry
Toni Morrison's "Beloved" is one of the most powerful books I have
ever read. As one of her main characters says, "It's good to have a
woman who's a friend of your mind."
Music — contradance tunes, Quebeçois whistle, folk, Beatles,
singers and songwriters from Amadou et Mariam to Ooozomatli to Kris
Delmhorst. I would be glad to learn more.
Food — most of what I cook comes out of my farm share and local
sources. I'm not vegetarian (one of my favorite places is a farm
that raises beef cattle), but I like knowing where my food came
from. I've rarely met a food I don't like, and I'm happy to
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Taking 'things' literally:
Recorders (instruments, soprano and tenor at least)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What kind of pie to make to bring to my next roleplaying night, and
when strawberries will be ready for picking. How to give friends or
family warmth when they need it.
Where to hike next, and how to tell a red oak or a black oak by the
bark. How rural communities can continue to grow and offer
interesting work, now that the mills are dead and the farms are
struggling. What used bookstore to explore next.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Working from home and watching oak leaves blow off the trees. Or
lounging with a friend, watching 'Slings and Arrows' with buttered
toast. Or falling asleep over a book, planning to get up
not-very-early to get my share of farm vegetables on the way to a
music jam. Or setting off to visit a friend at a distance. Or
You should message me if
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You'd like to talk. You're willing to be curious in all directions.
You like hiking, maybe looking for moose sign or ravens flying
loop-de-loops. You think puttering round used bookstores is a
relaxing way to spend a vacation. You think thinking is important.
You like to play with words — or you understand that I do.
You can get high from walking in the rain.
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