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35 Brooklyn, NY Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 31–44
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Apr 12
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Judaism, but not too serious about it
Taurus, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Sales / Marketing
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Dislikes cats

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm happy, sometimes shy and always generous. I can come off as not needing anything, but I so wholeheartedly do. Maybe it's you!

It'd be awesome to have someone who appreciates my occasionally exquisite verb choices and ideally lives in brooklyn and has some style and doesn't love cats and can spoon me without having his arm fall asleep and is drawn to hot places. But I'm openminded, I swear.

My apartment is big and bright and book-filled, I'm tight with my family (little sis lives downstairs (in a biggish building)) and even though I've been in the city for over a decade I think I can still pass for a nice, midwestern girl.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm trying to write a novel and freelancing in and out of ad agencies—it's pretty much working. I'm also putting all kinds of effort into a passion project in Jamaica that has me all excited.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
making exceedingly creative salads; driving on the left side of the road and dodging mad potholes; writing about nothing and making it sound good (not this)
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
personal style. for some reason, i usually wear that sparkly vintage dress in the picture on my birthday.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I'm gravitating toward youngish female writers right now because they make it all feel possible. Lauren Groff. Claire Vay Watkins. Karen Thompson Walker.

I appreciate good food immensely. I like to cook but despise using recipes...but my instincts usually prove pretty damn fine

reggae, dancehall, dub, hip hop, r&b and all that.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
black pepper. pepper sauce. books. iphone. malbec. friends/family.
uh not in that order.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
—How people I used to criticize are actually quite brave
—How much I adore em dashes
—How being swept off my feet is fantastical and attractive but has never once been realistic. But my imagination is wild
—My next trip to Jamaica (I spent 2005 working in Kingston and have been spending good time on the south coast in Treasure Beach)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
give me some good food and good wine and i'm so happy. Love keeping the weekends in BK.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
sometimes i get really into a lifetime movie
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
you're ready, you're funny, you're cool, you're kind. or just ready. or curious. just do it.