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flgray80

29 / M / bisexual / Available

San Francisco, California

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Ethnicity
White
Height
6' 0" (1.82m).
Body Type
Average
Looking For
New friends, Long-term dating, Short-term dating, Activity partners
Smokes
No
Drinks
Often
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Atheism but not too serious about it
Sign
Aries and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from college/university
Job
Construction / Craftsmanship
Income
Rather not say
Kids
Doesn’t want children
Pets
Likes dogs and Owns cats
Languages
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly), C++ (Poorly)

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I am a maker, a doer, and an earthling.

My Self-Summary

I'm part geek, part tinkerer, part activist. I'm blissfully ignorant of most pop culture, and I like doing things rather than watching things. I've never quite fit into one category or one group, and I've learned to be quite happy with that. I grew up in Rhode Island, went to college for engineering in LA, and moved to SF about 4 years ago.
I started my dating career by dating guys, but lately most of the people I like are girls. I'm also poly and seeing an awesome girl now(the wonderful and sweet vordilic).

What I’m doing with my life

Working with my hands and making things has always been a big part of what moves me in life, and lately, the Burningman arts community has become an important part of how i do that. I became a flaming lotus girl a few years ago and learned metalworking while building a huge flaming snake. I've since worked on quite a few other kinetic and fire art projects, and have learned alot and showed others alot about building things and making them work. I feel that there's some contradictory stuff about the whole burningman thing, however the coming together of creative energy and the support to just go out and create whatever you want is like nothing else I've experienced.

I like activism, but mostly the kind of things where you go out and create a better alternative to what's there now. Things like food not bombs, the really really free market, or just building bike trailers or fun bike powered vehicles. Lately I've been helping my friend with a bit of urban gardening and have really enjoyed that. We've entertained fantasies of starting a farm somewhere close and me spending some of my time there constructing things.

I was working full time for a contractor doing home remodels and fancy kitchens, but left that about a year ago to enjoy having more time to make things that I want to make, do yoga, and just enjoy life. For work now I sort of specialize in making things do stuff. Technical eh? This includes electronics, mechanical design on fire art, wiring, and whatever other interesting things come along.

Long term, I think that I want to put my energy and technical ability towards creating some kind of collective community organization. I'm doing a little of that now at the art space I live at, and it's made me think about that as a long term thing that I want to do.

I've been working on a practice of Kundalini yoga, getting more aware of my body and what's around me. Being present can be hard when i've got technical details of some project running through my head, but i'm working on it!

I also want to further my exploration of the joys of intimacy, touch, and connection with other people.

I’m really good at

Building and fixing things, getting distracted, baking, listening to people, learning by doing, cuddling

The first things people usually notice about me

Something I made or did. Or my eyes.

My favorite books, movies, music, and food

Books: Pronoia by Rob Breezny, Days of War Nights of Love by Crimethinc, the Ethucal Slut, No Logo by Naomi Klein, After the Deluge by Chris Carlsson, repair & technical books

Movies: hmm not really a big movie buff, though I can usually enjoy almost any movie for what it is.

Music: Balkan brass music, classic rock, trance, punk, classical(especially when played by vordilic), and more!

Food: Mexican, Italian, Indian, Sushi, anything that's not overly processed or prepackaged(though I'm a sucker for cheez-its). I mostly eat vegetarian, but if somebody makes me a really good meat dish i'm not opposed to eating it :) I really like beer too- it's one of the things I'm sort of snobbish about, and budweiser or mgd doesn't count as beer to me :)

The six things I could never do without

making things, friends, my tools, sex, new experiences, going fast on 2 wheels

I spend a lot of time thinking about

I tend to think in terms of overall themes and not so much in details. So alot of times i'm sort of constructing broad themes on how the world works from things i observe in life. Unless i'm working on creating some project that interests me, then my engineering mind kicks in and i'm thinking about how to make every little detail of it.

On a typical Friday night I am

Probably either welding away at the shop, going to a party or 2, or relaxing at home.

The most private thing I’m willing to admit here

I hate talking on the phone- my ideal phone conversation is "OK- meet you there at 5? OK see you there- bye!"

You should message me if

I seem interesting to you, you're non-flakey(that's one part of my east coast origin that hasn't been californicated!), get what being poly is about and are OK with me already having a primary, and you think we'd get along!