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56 M New York, NY

My Details

Last Online
Jul 21
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Atheism, but not too serious about it
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
English, Afrikaans

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My self-summary
A human without a mate is like a sentence without a verb.

Yes, so I'm here for romance -- love, cuddles and the whole longterm multi-orgasmic-in-mind-and-body thing -- but I'm also looking for fun pals and folks to collaborate with on our creative projects. And there's another plus to meeting: I could be your eccentric, bohemian friend. Every woman needs a bohemian friend; I'm as necessary an accessory to a woman as a gay friend.

I write: novels, songs, screenplays, plays, musicals.
When inspired, 1,500 words every morning, then I'm game for anything. When not, I read novels and intellectual tomes (Heidegger, anyone?) to braid the void.
I also perform -- singer-songwriter, one-man shows, slam poetry.
So instead of being a consumer of culture, like most of us, I'm having a go at producing it, too.
Plus I make the fluffiest omelets you can imagine. They're like munching warm summer air.

I love doing the dishes. No kidding.
I run a few miles every day (though it's years since a marathon).

I'm financially independent (but live modestly); bohemian (gave up 9-to-5 wage-slavery in 1997 and mostly wear black); highbrow (prefer Wallace Stevens to Billy Collins, Bob Dylan to Barry Manilow); off-the-grid eccentric (no TV, no phone -- what, no phone? gadzooks! forsooth! yep, no phone -- no Facebook, no Twitter, though I check my email every day); peace-loving (would rather be a bonobo than a chimpanzee); and bawdy (I like to make love till we're both reduced to senseless blobs of gasping pleasure: I find it really makes up for a bad hair day).

Low maintenance. Don't mix well with high-maintenance partners.

Can't quite decide if I'm more romantic than sentimental, or vice versa. This song I wrote and sang embroiders some of this confusion:

I spent the first half of my life acquiring a thick skin, and now I'm trying to shed it to become the sweet, sensitive chap I am at heart.
What I’m doing with my life
Getting everything I create out there into the world, starting with my first movie, a CD of my music, and the publication of a novel at long last. Aiming to do some good in the world if I do well.

I'm making music with two great platonic friends I met via OKCupid; we're looking for one more keyboard/guitar/whatever player who can also sing with us. Yep, we've started a band. We may call ourselves the Geezers. Prove to the young 'uns that we oldsters can rock out.
I’m really good at
Empathy. That's why it's difficult for me to be friends with folks from that weird, selfish cult -- the Republican Party.

I love the ritual of courtship. Wooing. Flirting. Bantering. Our eyes meeting, our hands holding, fingers entangled, sparks flying between us, hearts opening to each other like flowers to the sun, the first probing kiss, the hunger for each other, at last being naked together, the intimacy of the afterglow, the final commitment of unfolding and enfolding love.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Middlemarch, The Great Gatsby, Love in the Time of Cholera, The Code of the Woosters.
Movies: Persona, This Is Spinal Tap, All About Eve, The Conformist.
Music: Beatles, Dylan, Sinatra, Miles Davis, Ella Fitzgerald, Mahalia Jackson, Pink Floyd, Van Morrison, Bjork, Bowie, Bartok, Arvo Part, Stockhausen, Debussy, Klaus Schulze, Abba, Pet Shop Boys, Tune-yards.
Writers: J.M. Coetzee, P.G. Wodehouse, Levinas, Heidegger, Yeats, Neruda, Wallace Stevens, Jane Austen.
Directors alive: Gaspar Noe, Michael Haneke, Bernardo Bertolucci.
Directors dead: Bergman, Wilder, Dreyer, Tarkovsky, Visconti, Renoir, Resnais, Pasolini, Godard, Kubrick, Welles, Kazan, Chaplin, Leone, Hitchcock, Max Ophuls, Bunuel, Satyajit Ray, Fassbinder, Cocteau, Clouzot, Bresson, Rossellini, Sturges, Ozu.
Artists: Matisse, Francis Bacon, Anselm Kiefer, Christian Boltanski, Rothko, Eva Hess.
Food: olive oil, salads, mangos, figs. Whatever.
The six things I could never do without
1. Love
2. Love
3. Love
4. Love
5. Love
6. Love
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Sex. I'm a guy. What can I say? I don't believe in God, I believe in cunnilingus.
On a typical Friday night I am
singing the body electric
doing the arts eclectic
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 40–100
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
If you're funny, arty or brainy.
BTW, the funny sexual references are deliberately planted to scare away the Puritan, the pious, the prudish, and the non-Puckish, i.e. to weed out the stiffs. If you can't laugh about something as basic as sex, your sense of humor may not wicked enough for both us. But apologies if you feel offended. We all have different ways of being in the world.