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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 40–100
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 12:58pm
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body type
Atheism, but not too serious about it
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
English, Afrikaans
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
A human without a mate is like a sentence without a verb.

Yes, so I'm here for romance in my age range -- love, cuddles and the whole longterm bliss-in-mind-and-body thing -- but I'm also looking for activity pals and creative collaborators, who could be any age. And there's another plus to meeting: I could be your eccentric, bohemian friend. As a mate, I like a really strong, intellectual and passionate woman.

I write: novels, plays, songs, etc.
I also perform -- singer-songwriter, one-man shows, slam poetry.
Plus I make the fluffiest omelets you can imagine. They're like munching warm summer air.

I love doing the dishes. No kidding.

I'm financially independent; really happy; believe in honesty, integrity and authenticity; well-traveled (lived on three continents); highbrow (prefer Wallace Stevens to Billy Collins); off-the-grid eccentric (no TV, no Facebook, no Twitter, no phone -- what, no phone? gadzooks! forsooth! yep, no phone; a phone wastes so much time -- email does it all for me fasterbettersmarter); and bawdy (I like to make love till we're both reduced to senseless blobs of gasping pleasure: I find it really makes up for a bad hair day).

Can't quite decide if I'm more romantic than sentimental, or vice versa. This song I wrote and sang embroiders some of this confusion:

I spent the first half of my life acquiring a thick skin, and now I'm trying to shed it to become the sweet, sensitive chap I am at heart.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Getting everything I create out there into the world. And giving back.

I'm making music with two great platonic friends I met via OKCupid; we're looking for one more keyboard/guitar/violin/whatever player who can also sing with us. Yep, we've started a band. We may call ourselves the Geezers. Prove to the young 'uns that we oldsters can rock out.

My great ambition is to be the only guy in a fierce girl gang.

Exercise: I run 4 miles every day as hard as I can, because I'll do anything to keep my libido firing on all eight cylinders and kicking like a horse. Yep, I run to stay sexually fit (can you think of a better reason to exercise?).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Empathy and kindness. That's why it's difficult for me to be friends with folks from that weird, selfish cult -- the Republican Party.

I love the ritual of courtship. Wooing. Flirting. Bantering. Our eyes meeting, our hands holding, sparks flying between us, hearts opening to each other, the hunger for each other, at last being completely together, the intimacy of the afterglow, the final commitment of unfolding and enfolding love.

I've been deeply in love seven times in my life, and I'm looking forward to the eighth time (hopefully the last).
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm funny.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: Middlemarch, The Great Gatsby, Love in the Time of Cholera, The Code of the Woosters.
Movies: Persona, This Is Spinal Tap, All About Eve, 1900, Andrei Rublev, The Americanization of Emily, Boyhood.
Music: American Songbook, Beatles, Dylan, Sinatra, Miles Davis, Ella Fitzgerald, Mahalia Jackson, Pink Floyd, Captain Beefheart, Van Morrison, Roy Orbison, Everly Brothers, Bjork, Bowie, Bartok, Arvo Part, Stockhausen, Debussy, Klaus Schulze, Meredith Monk, Abba, Pet Shop Boys, Tune-yards, Perfume Genius, Woodkid, Tim Minchin.
Shows: everything Sondheim. And Helen Mirren in "Prime Suspect."

Writers: J.M. Coetzee, Faulkner, P.G. Wodehouse, Levinas, Heidegger, Yeats, Neruda, Keats, Wallace Stevens, Shakespeare, Tennessee Williams, Jane Austen, Edith Wharton, Cormac McCarthy.

Directors alive: Gaspar Noe, Michael Haneke, Bernardo Bertolucci, Asghar Farhadi, Mike Leigh.
Directors dead: Bergman, Wilder, Dreyer, Tarkovsky, Visconti, Renoir, Resnais, Pasolini, Godard, Kubrick, Welles, Kazan, Chaplin, Leone, Hitchcock, Max Ophuls, Bunuel, Satyajit Ray, Fassbinder, Cocteau, Clouzot, Bresson, Rossellini, Antonioni, Sturges, Ozu.

Artists: Matisse, Francis Bacon, Anselm Kiefer, Christian Boltanski, Rothko, Eva Hess, Howard Hodgkin, Hans Hartung.

Food: olive oil, salads, mangos, figs. Whatever.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Love
2. Love
3. Love
4. Love
5. Love
6. Love
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Sex. I'm a guy. What can I say? I don't believe in God, I believe in cunnilingus.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm partial to big butts.
You should message me if
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If you're funny, arty or brainy.
BTW, I've made a few jokes about sex because I think the subject is inherently humorous (isn't that what most comedians do?), and also because I wanted to scare away the pious, the prudish, the Puritan and the non-Puckish, i.e. weed out the stiffs. Apologies if you feel offended. We all have different ways of being in the world.